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Breastfeeding & then giving junk food all the time....???

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chinesechicken · 30/03/2018 16:09

So I'm in a breastfeeding group on facebook, because I breastfed all my children. At one point in the beginning I used to combi feed because I was quite poorly and was really made to feel crap about it by some people in the group.

Anyway, they all go on about how important it is to breastfeed and how proud they are etc etc, something I can't relate to.. BUT they often sort of brag about how they are too lazy/tired to cook actual proper food so often give children's ready meals (I didn't know these were a thing), pizzas, chicken nuggets etc most days of the week. Nobody gets shamed for this, but if it was someone saying "I'm going to formula feed because I am too lazy/tired/ busy being a mum to breastfeed" I think they would get seriously shot down by them.

The reason I think this is odd is because the benefits to the child of breastfeeding are things like reduced chance of childhood cancer, reduced chance of diabetes later in life, not being overweight etc etc these things are also influenced by your diet! So surely if you're going to campaign for children receiving the best in nutrition or whatever, why does this stop being important when your child is on solids or 1 year old?

It seems so weird to me, I suppose I am resentful to the group because of the way I've seen them bitching about formula feeding mums and how formula doesn't even begin to compare and how it is our responsibility to feed our children ourselves, and then to me this seems so hypocritical when they're feeding junk food most days of the week.

AIBU to point this out and deal with the backlash then leave?! I feel like they need it pointing out because they're obviously oblivious to how hypocritical and ridiculous they look. Or would I then be accused of mum shaming? PS I work full time, breastfed my three children and cook all my own food from scratch and don't give anything processed so I do know the hard work that goes into both breastfeeding and not giving your kid ready-meals.

OP posts:
Lalliella · 31/03/2018 00:16

YANBU OP. Point it out and shame them, then report back here with their reactions so we can have a laugh. But yes you’re right they are hypocrites. Formula is developed to be as close to breast milk as it can possibly be, so although breast is best the difference is marginal, formula provides for women who cannot breastfeed, often for reasons out of their control, and they shouldn’t be judged. Junk food is full of all sorts of crap and is obviously worse.

GiddyUncle · 31/03/2018 03:50

Blimey, GF where did you pick up all this nutritional expertise?

Oh you know, here and there Smile

GiddyUncle · 31/03/2018 03:51

Oops, name change fail Grin

MrsGB2225 · 31/03/2018 04:53

If breastfeeding works it is so much easier than bottle feeding. I would never say it's lazy to bottle feed.
Just leave the group, don't waste the energy on it.

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