Instamums 4

[mammyoftwo]

Following on from Instamums 3.2

Perhaps what would be good would be for some of the main poster/commenters (probably a handful) who’re obviously heavily invested and passionate about this topic to write exactly what they want from these threads.
I have understood it as simply keeping to ASA regulations regarding #ad’s, insuring better security/privacy for their home, family and personal information as well as insuring the images they post featuring minors are respectful and undamaging.
I’m sure these instamums are reading and taking this in, what they do with this advice is up to them but hopefully these threads can then be laid to bed with no further upset.

😂 Definitely not my intention 3Boysandcounting1964 I was just musing on it as I follow (& to a large extent, enjoy) a few instamums & mum vloggers on YouTube (including Mrs M) but I’m becoming increasingly conflicted in my thinking around the issues debated here. I too, have fallen prey to purchasing ‘stuff’ I probably didn’t need because I’d seen it via the instamums. A baby outfit here, a home accessory there. Did I need it? Probably not. Would I have bought it anyway? Probably not. Did I realise it was an ad? Mostly, no. I’ve not gotten to the point where I’m fed up of ad upon ad upon ad & am on the verge of switching off. Layer on to that the issue of exposing/potentially exploiting children/lack of consent & so on, I’m struggling with my own sense of what is right.

It’s a fascianting issue.

I am aware this post adds nothing to the debate

I’ve now gotten to the point, rather.

@Stellastartsitall can you give 1 way that this impacts your life?

@RunMummyRun68
“3boys there's the hide thread option if you can't bear the YouTube discussion?”

The irony of this is outstanding, there’s the unfollow button if you can’t bear witnessing the horrors discussed in all of these threads and the delete app button if social media is having such a profound negative impact on your life

@FlyingBird @Fruitbowl2

What a load of rubbish, many of the instamums actually started out as bloggers before they had even had children and already had popular insta accounts (TheFrugality, WIT, Binky) to name a few.

I've already stated upthread that not many celebs (certainly not reality show "celebs") have day to day security. So no difference in the perceived level of risk to their children. Out of interest, and I've asked this before, what do you think might happen to these instamum kids?

@gobbolinothewitchescat I’m just merely making an observation from the accounts that I personally follow and don’t believe I’ve seen anything that has given away sensitive information or is harmful to a minor.
You are of course entitled to your option but you appear very hostile when people don’t share the same one - please don’t think I’m attacking you. As a mother myself, I know that I and the vast majority of people I know would never do anything that would put their children at risk so implying they are must be very upsetting.

E3boys It affects everyone. Consumer protection is very important. Just follow the rules. They can ad as much as they want.

3boys no irony.... see it's got no affect on my life at all

The instamums I follow are great! The you tubers I subscribe to are great!

Sofia the instamums I know started their blogs because they became mums.

Nothing. I was agreeing with you. I think the child safety debate is silly. I was just pointing out that it is a fact that MOFOD have given out lots of info about themselves online. Just that.

Considering it’s the bank holiday easter weekend (where most are enjoying family time and not at work) it’s BONKERS how much invested time you other mothers ( @mumofkids didn’t you say you have 4?) are in this thread!

All day and often late into the night. Arguing, dissecting, judging, other people’s morals and values on another form of social media.

I sure hope none of your kids are climbing onto work tops, holding a china cup whilst you tap frantically to think of quick witted, article callous come backs to you’re comments.

I would also like to know what the topic of this thread is supposed to be? Having read the bloggers thread and bits of these I'm unclear why they're still ongoing?

The transparency has been done to death and instamums kids' safety is really nothing to do with any of you. Mostly these threads seem to be used to bitch about certain instamums.

😂 no Er,'profound negative impact' on my life lovey.

Who is bitching?

allaboard I hope my dd isn't climvingbon worktops.....she's 23 and unsupervised living and working in London atm

Who is bitching?

Nobody on this thread (mostly) as it's staying "on topic."

@allaboardtheallergybus I couldn’t agree more - some of the commenters on here have been posting regularly since the first thread last year. They are obviously very passionate about this subject but it does make me wonder why somebody feels the need to spend that time and energy on something which could have ended after no doubt 5 minutes. It’s all very negative and consuming.

@Stellastartsitall

If not bitching completely pulling apart certain instamums. I have noticed if an instamum deems to grace any of the threads with their presence they suddenly vastly improve in most mumsnetters opinions.

Considering it’s the bank holiday easter weekend (where most are enjoying family time and not at work) it’s BONKERS how much invested time you other mothers ( @mumofkids didn’t you say you have 4?) are in this thread!
I've had a lovely day out with mine. Are mums only allowed to do something so called "worthwhile" with their down time?
What do you suggest? Darning socks? Getting on top of the washing pile? Massaging DH's feet and running his bath?

There are some mums who are more careful and who I have no idea where they live or anything regarding children's locations etc. It doesn't make them less watchable or potentially popular.

Just like Instagram its all about consuming and consumerism. We are consumers after all

I couldn’t agree more - some of the commenters on here have been posting regularly since the first thread last year

Not me - I only joined in in the last one.

Me too cady

Considering it’s the bank holiday easter weekend (where most are enjoying family time and not at work) it’s BONKERS how much invested time you other mothers (@mumofkidsdidn’t you say you have 4?) are in this thread!

I know. It would be much better if we just used that time taking photos of them for instagram. That would be fine. Obviously

Thankfully I have a nice DH who also looks after our DCs so I'm allowed on the internet during the day and at night too. Presumably the other posters on here are too

Anyway, back to being hostile for disagreeing. allison - surely part of your job is to put aside the feelings of adults and prioritise and assess the wellbeing of children. Bit fed up of reading SCRs where that doesn't happen

Applying that logic, the police should stop giving internet safety talks in schools to pupils in case it upsets their parents?

Nobody is right and nobody is wrong - they are simply opinions apart from the ASA side which is obviously legal and does need to be adhered to. By the sounds of my instastories over the past couple of days it sounds like the message has gone through about that though so fingers crossed for a more transparent Instagram.
In regards to the child ‘explotion’ I would say that unless you feel that an account is grossly putting their children at risk (in which case, contact the relevant authorities) this is an individual parenting decision and much like the whole fed is best debate, is down the the mother and father to do what they think is best. I’m sure they’ll think twice about putting any bath images up in future.

@allaboardtheallergybus

No I never said I had 4 children, ever. I have posted a bit the last few days because it interests me and having just had an op, I am actually not allowed to do much for a few days and my in laws have been around to do bits and pieces. Normal service will resume. Although no my children don't actually climb on the work surfaces and if they are in the buggy I strap them in because I'm a killjoy.
I was not on either of the first threads, I did read some of them, and would not normally be around to post. If we could've been out on a family day today we would 😊
I can't speak for other posters but would imagine there's lots of different reasons people might find the time to post.
You'll certainly not find me about on threads much before this op and probably after. You may find my comments callous, but if I've observed things in a certain way, then I'm sure others have to.