Ds (12) has ASD and has just returned from his week residential trip, We had planned to not send him but after much pestering from school about him missing out, agreed. I was informed that he wouldn’t be forced to do anything he was uncomfortable with and he would have a great time. He’s came back looking and acting a shadow of his former self, it’s heartbreaking to see. He has massive fears of water, the dark, danger etc. He says he had to take part in activities such as rock climbing, walks in the dark etc as there was no alternative and he was scared. He was told there was no other way back. I unpacked his case to find his clothes stinking of urine. He reluctantly admitted he wet himself as the instructor was ignoring his requests to use the toilet and they were in the middle of a forest. I instructed the school to give him his daily medication in food as advised by his gp to stop unessessary upset, yet they have taken it upon themselves to make him swallow the pills whole, not a problem as such but again undermining my instructions for him. School is now closed for the Easter break and I need to figure out how to tackle it when they reopen or if I’m just being overprotective. I appreciate their tactics may have been fine for a neurotypical child but they know ds has ASD. Opinions appreciated.