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Husband missing dds birthday

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starbucks2015 · 29/03/2018 18:08

It's dds first birthday today and I've done everything down to making the cake buying the present, wrapping the present and making special tea. I brought her and her brother to a playcentre. My husband promised me he'd get the train at 5 to be home for 6 to see her open her presents and have some cake with her. He rings me now at 6 to say he missed the train at 5 and wouldn't be home until 7:15 now. Why ring at the time your expected home at when I've had dinner ready for that time. Dd is tired and starting to get grouchy. Her usual bedtime is 7. I just feel very deflated about DH not making more of an effort for her birthday especially her first. I know she doesn't really get what's going on but I still wanted to celebrate it with and mark the occasion. AIBU

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vdbfamily · 30/03/2018 10:45

My Dh grew up without birthdays being made a big thing of. For the last 2 years he has been away for our oldests birthday but we had a family meal the weekend before This year he has just told me he is away at a conference over his 50th birthday!! He just says we will celebrate on a different day. I have just had to get used to this and the kids know what to expect. If he actually is here and they come into our room to open cards/presents he often stays semi asleep through the whole thing and kind of grunts if they try to show him something. Although, I have to say that having watched the channel 4 show on autism this week , he is probably one of the 'lost generation' of undiagnosed adults.

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