To start to worry?

[SingleAgainThen]

My “DH” & I agreed to split up a little over a week ago, it’s been a weird week with me sleeping on the couch & not much being said between us.

He has taken his older daughter (my DSD) & our little one - 5 yr old DD out for the day today.

They’re still not home, have no idea where they went or when they’ll be home.

It’s already way past little one’s bed time. Sitting here going from furious to worried with every passing second.

We had a big row re money last night & I stayed at a friend’s last night so haven’t seen him since.

My DD has school in the morning - where the fuck is he?!

Ok, stand down, they’re back. Thanks all for your help, I will try to act nonchalant & pretend this hasn’t got to me.

One to remember for the future I recon!

Phew.

Pretend you're not bothered and make a note of date and times. Keep a diary in case you need this information at a later date.

Good. Get her to bed and don't say a word to him. I say that but I would go fucking ballistic.

Glad they are back ok xx

Thank goodness

Phew, that's great

Actually I don't think you should act nonchalant. I think you need to make it perfectly clear that as your DD'S primary carer you expect to be given a time of return and that he can't just disappear with her as he pleases. He needs to let you kniw what time he will be back and call if he is going to be late. This works both ways of course but you need to let him know that this is not acceptable

Phone asap

'I'm very surprised - I wouldn't have thought that you would keep her out so far past her bedtime on a school night. Poor thing.'

Note the date, times, anything he says.

Glad they're back OP.

That true LEM.

Lem the OP stayed out last night. That is what he wants, it's important that he isn't given that.

This won't be the first and last time that this happens, but until the OP moves out and sets up home with her DD, she can't and shouldn't react.

log time,date etc

jesus some of these answers are way OTT and full of drama

When he's gone and everyone is snoring go and punch your pillows, record it all, take a screen shot then have some wine and pack down for the long haul . You poor thing looks like he's going to be hard work

I agree with other posts - clocks going forward last night may have caused the difficulty.

Have you rang him?

Glad they're back safely - detach as much as possible Op & keep records of dates / times etc, especially when he doesn't put the DC welfare first.