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Parent and child parking

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spiderbear · 25/03/2018 15:36

It winds me up so much when people without children park in 'parent and child' parking. Is it just me that has a go?? I just can't help it. I find them so ignorant and selfish. Just had to say something to someone at Tesco- she was with her (I'm guessing 20yr old) daughter.. and wouldn't even look me in the face.. I'm heavily pregs and also with a 2 yr old. But her daughter piped up saying they'd just dropped her dad and sister off at the entrance - which was rubbish as we'd been behind them coming into the car park!!
Am I out of order having a go ?? Should I just let it be? Or should supermarkets do more to stop this themselves??

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TheHungryDonkey · 25/03/2018 19:29

Yes but that doesn’t stop the snippy fuck fucks get their anti disability snipes in does it.

Bojangles33 · 25/03/2018 19:33

It's fine to be a bit annoyed by it if someone just takes the last one but no, it's not ok to get out and start having a go at random people. It's a parking space. Life is too short.

Sunshineface123 · 25/03/2018 19:41

Lol to the posters who suggest online shopping when you have babies or small children..why did I think of that?! Hmmthere's always going to be times you need to get something urgently or that you've forgotten. You were right to have a go, I often want to but bottle it. And it's not people being lazy, super market spaces are tiny and almost impossible to get babies/toddlers out of car seats. I do however think they should put them at the back of the car park to make them less attractive to other shoppers.

ikeepaforkinmypurse · 25/03/2018 19:46

I’m sure that with a normal sized car, with a normal sized car on both sides there would be plenty of room to get a child car seat out.

In YOUR local supermarket, maybe, but you know what they say about assume...

Bambamber · 25/03/2018 19:54

Why do people need to haul the car seats everywhere?

SweetMoon · 25/03/2018 20:18

YANBU. Just be happy you're not one of those ignorant arses who do this.

And by ignorant arses I mean the totally able bodied who park there simply because they are too lazy to walk further.

Derwent19 · 25/03/2018 20:23

It's the supermarkets car park so their rules apply. If you disagree with the idea of P&C parking then don't shop there. Perfectly simple.

Eatalot · 25/03/2018 20:26

Why do people STILL think the parent and child space is to be closer. They are wider for buggies. Some supermarkets put them closer as they are either easier to space near the disabled or the route to the store is safer and not across a carpark. But the main thing is they are wider for carseats and biggies. Iv seen them further away and closer depending on the carpark. Sheesh.

EmmaJR1 · 25/03/2018 20:27

Also p&c spaces are near pathways so I'm not bothered where in the car park they are I just want to be able to get my son out without scraping someone else's car!

AlonsosLeftPinky · 25/03/2018 20:58

No I don't have a go a people because I haven't designated myself the parking police and really don't care who parks in the parent and child spaces.

Sugarplumfairy65 · 25/03/2018 21:31

I had to park in a p&c space this morning at the supermarket because there were 3 cars parked in the blue badge spaces with no blue badge on display. I've had words with the manager about this before, but nothing is ever done. The only way I can get out of my car is if the door is wide open

Noodledoodledoo · 25/03/2018 22:25

I don't get the angst and I have two young children, (3/1 with a 22 month gap). I use them if they are available but if not I have worked out where there are spaces in a number of car parks that I use fairly regularly which are slightly wider due to the car park design, or end of a row, next to a disabled bay so benefits from the extra space they get.

I rarely took my children out of the car in the car seat at the shops, or anywhere really. Much easier to extract from seat and take them out. Buggy in the boot so no need for extra side space for that one. Oh and I am also large so when pregnant was a bit of a challenge but also never used them without a child with me. I also have a large car.

My only issue in my local Tesco is, and this is for all customers not just children, there are no paths through the car park at all so a challenge to walk through with small people but I just grab a trolley as soon as I can.

I just had a debate on a local FB page about them, and apparently all children up to the age of 12 are not able to be educated about how to open doors in car parks - my comment was put child locks on so you can control them getting out but apparently getting back in the car is when they fling the doors around!

BishopBrennansArse · 25/03/2018 22:27

Try being a blue badge holder and most bays being occupied by non badge holders.

I've done the p&c thing. Piece of piss compared to being disabled and poking up with blue badge bay abuse.

YeahILoveSummer · 25/03/2018 22:57

I totally agree with you. For some strange reason, maybe jealousy, a lot people on here do not think parents should get these spaces. The spaces are designed to be larger to allow parents to get car seats in and out of the car. As far as I understand parents did not demand to have these spaces close to the entrance. What type of person would grudge a parent a space with a little more room? Hmm

PurpleDaisies · 25/03/2018 23:05

I totally agree with you. For some strange reason, maybe jealousy, a lot people on here do not think parents should get these spaces

Most people think the spaces should be available to everyone with disabilities and mobility issues, regardless of whether they’re parents or not.

Where exactly does jealousy come into it?

MotherforkingShirtballs · 25/03/2018 23:47

The OP has said there were plenty of disabled spaces

Not everyone with a disability has a blue badge but may still need some of the benefits of a P&C space such as an extra wide bay and being close to the entrance.

I don't understand why a young able bodied adult with autism would require one?

Try very hard and you may be able to work it out.

I rarely took my children out of the car in the car seat at the shops, or anywhere really. Much easier to extract from seat and take them out.

Same. Much easier to carry the baby than a cumbersome wodge of plastic containing the baby. It's not good for small babies to be in a carseat for too long anyway so it made more sense to me to lift the baby out and carry them/put them in the pushchair because it lies flat/put them in one of those trolleys with the infant seat.

Am I out of order having a go ?? Should I just let it be?

Yes to both. You don't know what other people are dealing with or what their reasons are for parking where they've parked. They may be a dick or they may be disabled or they may be collecting a child from inside or they may be struggling with things you know nothing about or a myriad of other reasons. With all of that in mind you should give the benefit of the doubt, you're not the parking police and you really don't have a right to have a go at people for where they've chosen to park.

tillytrotter1 · 26/03/2018 03:51

I was yelled at by a hysterical, hormonal female person recently because I had the audacity to park in a pc space, my, did she go on, I thought she would give birth on the spot but I didn't interrupt her flow, in fact when she stuttered seeking a word, I helped her, being clearly more erudite. Eventually, I asked her to stand to one side to allow my daughter and her children through, who I'd come to pick up! Happy days.

tillytrotter1 · 26/03/2018 03:55

all children up to the age of 12 are not able to be educated about how to open doors in car parks

The there are some pretty thick 9/12 year olds around, maybe parents need to teach their child these skills as they grow.

Oswin · 26/03/2018 04:07

Oh yeah just get a blue badge. Round here you need to be recieving Pip to qualify for a Bb. Now just look at what a shit show Pip is. You cant have missed what is being dont to disabled people.
And who ever had the bitchy post about hidden disabilitys can get to fuck too. Sick of being dismissed by people who have no idea what it is like to be disabled.

jamandeggs · 26/03/2018 09:03

For everyone saying it's ridiculous to take a baby seat out of the car because they're heavy to carry - they have trolleys which have a car seat attachment for the stage before the baby can sit up.

For everyone saying "just carry the baby" - well of course from 6 months ish they can sit in the trolley seat. You still need to get them out of the car seat, I personally benefit from a wider seat.

Genuine question - please could someone give me an example of someone with hidden disabilities who couldn't/ wouldn't use a disabled space but should be more entitled to use a p&c space than a parent and child?

jamandeggs · 26/03/2018 09:04

i personally benefit from a wider space* to get the baby/young child out of the car seat without banging someone else's car.

jamandeggs · 26/03/2018 09:04

Bold fail, I give up. Points still stand.

strawberry1122 · 26/03/2018 09:06

Some people just don't give a fuck sadly. They sound like quite a chavy family though.

Whisperquietly · 26/03/2018 09:08

Also, unlike the disabled spaces, they are a courtesy and unenforceable.

If the P&C spaces are on private land, and the owner makes having a young child a condition of parking in that space, they are enforceable.

Sirzy · 26/03/2018 09:21

Ds is autistic, he has many other problems too including very low muscle tone meaning he had to wear a custom made Lycra body suit to support his muscles. He uses a SN wheelchair/buggy most of the time when out. He isn’t entitled to a blue badge at the moment because he can walk (just not without pain or his legs collapsing)

I am hoping the latest review of blue badges changes it so he can.

There are many many people out there who need A blue badge but because of the daftness of the system can’t get one.

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