Is staying in bed all day normal?

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I have tried to be more proactive, but it always ends up being the same because there is just nothing out there in terms of activities. I have no friends, despite making so much effort to befriend people. When I have nothing to do, as in uni, work, or other essentials, I just sit on my bed all day on my laptop. I don't think this is how other people live their lives, but I have nothing and no one else. I am just so fed up of living. It feels like such a waste, especially when I am 26, but there's never anything else that is free or constructive. What do you do with your day?(weekdays and weekends)

I gave to say going for a walk with the dog and cooking help me when I feel like I want to stay in bed

I have to drag myself up some days

But I always feel I've achieved a little something when I get home from a walk. Headphones in sometimes. Fresh air. Helps me to feel more motivated

What do people reporting the thread actually hope to achieve?

Staying in bed all day isn’t normal or healthy, but it can be difficult to find other things to do that interest you enough to make the effort. I’m absolutely exhausted. I’d like to go and do something this afternoon, but I don’t know what & I don’t have any energy. I didn’t feel like that at your age though. How’s your physical well being?

What do people reporting the thread actually hope to achieve?

There are quite a few corners of MN which might be more appropriate than AIBU.

It’s not normal to do it every day but occasionally it’s a bad thing.

We had a really late night. Everything housework wise is done and I just can’t be bothered to get up today. It’s cold downstairs and it’s lovely and cosy in bed with the cat curled up by my side.

But if you are feeling stressed and guilty about it then you need to get up and do something. Get fresh air, do some baking, do a job you’ve been putting off.

Fgs, I mean occasionally it ISNT a bad thing.

speakout Always lovely to hear a positive story like yours. I too think I got good treatment from the NHS. Been stable for three years now (fingers crossed).

Op, why did they section you? I understand you don't believe in mental illness, but what did the medical staff think was wrong?

As for your question, no it's not normal I'm sorry to stay in bed all day regularly. I also have to be honest and say your reaction on this thread is also really not within the corridors of normalality. 💐

It's hard to know what you might want to do without knowing anything about your interests.

There are, as people have said, lots of things you can do that don't necessarily cost much money, but you have to want to do them, which sounds as if it might be a bigger issue.

You could go for a walk. I don't know where you live, but there are lots of walking sites online that give suggestions of circular routes that can be reached by public transport.
You could start running with a programme like 025k or whatever it's called.
You could go swimming or join an exercise class.
You could join BorrowMyDoggy and find a dog to walk to make your walks more interesting, helping someone else in the process.
You could volunteer in any number of ways for any number of organisations - charity shops, homelessness charities, schools, literacy projects.
You could join an art or writing class, or simply start drawing or painting or writing.
You could pick a different museum or art gallery every weekend and go to something new each time to see what you like - loads are free.
You could look up pubs and venues near you with cheap comedy nights or music nights, and try some of those.

But I don't know whether this will help if you are feeling down or unmotivated. It can be really hard to do new things if you don't want to.

Things are different now that I've kids, so we'll ignore that bit.

It's not about one day, but your whole week. I used to be out all day at uni or work, out every evening (sport, drinks, clubbing, meal out with friends) out Saturday so if nothing else planned on Sunday, that was my day to spend pretty much in bed, pottering around, doing laundry, catching up on housework (not much of it to do when you live alone!)

By itself, slobbing on your bed once a week is not a big deal, but again, depends how busy you are the rest of the week and what time you went to bed this morning.

What do you like to do? Any sport, hobby, charity related activity? Shopping?

I am sorry that you are unhappy. It does seem that life isn't good for you at the moment.

No it isn't 'normal' though it happens to most of us on occasion. Staying in bed and being unhappy would be a possible symptom of depression (if mental health problems existed).

Exercise is good for lifting spirits and getting you out to mix with others. Your GP might be able to help with a prescription for this at a local sports centre - instead of pills/hospital care.

Helping others is also a lift for your spirits and gets you out into real life too. There are formal ways to volunteer (to read books to those who can't see - chat to the lonely housebound - build fences in woodlands - be a driver to take people to hospital appointments...)

The best advice on making friends was not to attempt to 'befriend' but to be the friend you would like to have -as often as possible.

all I can say is while you're sitting in bed you're not gonna meet friends, however, you've commented on how hard that is, you've dismissed mentail health issues and a little help with that, sooooo if you're sitting in bed, on your lap top keep working on your degree, you said ' when all the degree work is done...', I've just completed a degree the work is never done, it's relentless, you can submit assignments and stuff bit throughout your degree you never stop learning, sigh I could have sat all day in bed absorbing my degree content, I'd have literally passed with honours ( wasn't an honour degree) maybe got the best marks in the cohort etc, may even focus on that so that when the mist eventually evaporates and you go out into the big wide works you've got one heck of a degree and an amazing amounts not of choices and options xxx

Hello OP, I understand how you feel and when I just wanna to pull the covers over and not face anything I know I need to piit all my effort into going out for fresh air, even if just for a few minutes, it feels like something of an achievement and does help a little. Take care

No, I don't think it's normal, but I do it too. Sometimes there just seems to be no point in getting up. I have nowhere to go, I don't know anyone here, the kids are teenagers and are usually out at the weekends, my husband likes to be out and about, I don't think he's capable of spending a day in the house. So I stay in bed, read, watch Netflix. No one bothers me and I don't bother them...

If you are at uni there are generally lots of activities or groups you could join. There is nothing wrong with the odd day lying about on a laptop but it's not normal to do it with all your free time. You could even start walking, put on some headphones, listen to whatever you want, you'll be amazed how good it makes you feel once you get into it. It might be a drag at the thought of it but you'll be pleased you did it in the end.

If your not doing it to avoid life and the world, if your content and it doesn't affect your responsibilities, why not! It's not for me, but then I am known to mong about on the sofa for most the day at times, so no different really.

To be honest it's been a daily thing for me since I was 16 due to severe depression.
I work and before I had children I only got out of bed to go to work or go out with my mom.
Now I've got kids, (well the second is due this week) I love naptime because I can go up with her and cuddle her. But this is about 5 mins to myself now after I've cleaned up.

I've started to realise over the past couple days how depressed and unhappy i am and how living with their dad has destroyed me even more. I attempted to get out the house with my parents today and my daughter but I'm that used to being at home ill have panic attacks now. I'll cry. Everything that isn't normal. Yet it's such a beautiful day...i felt happy towards the end and like I'd had my escape from him for a bit (he's moving out after ds is born) but the moment I walked in the house again I'm this snappy irritable person. Suffering severely with depression. Suffering with anxiety, severe ptsd and forever fed up.

I think you do sound depressed and I know you've been through the mental health help before, but could you try and pick a hobby for you? After ds is born ill need to get a job 2 weeks after but if I have any money spare (on top of it going on my children for extra I like to buy them) I want to go to yoga to help my mind. Maybe that's something you could try?

Take a large dose VitaminD3 supplement if you're indoors a lot.

Get outside, photograph things that interest you whether it's in nature or urban settings. Tip, Avoid photographing people, some really don't like it.

Are you sporty, could you run or jog or just walk?

Go to an Art Gallery or Museum, they're mostly free.

Save up and go on a coach trip, lots of varied destinations or book a Mystery tour.

Watch a cookery demo.

Find an organisation to volunteer with national trust has some interesting conservation projects, or animal charities or local support groups.

Be a volunteer driver for people needing hospital treatment or take disabled people shopping.

Do gardening, odd jobs and chores for elderly neighbours.

Walk peoples' dogs, be a pet sitter.

Or just choose to sit indoors and moan

I am very outdoorsy and would love to go on all day walks again. I am not allowed to do that. My life should consist only of work and housework

Why?

mental health rubbish nothing rubbish about mental health, you think your brain can’t have problems just like your foot, or your kidney or your heart? It’s hardly a made up thing OP.

Useless Why does your life only consist of work and housework? That’s really bizarre!

Useless Why are you not allowed all day walks? Is someone not allowing you? Is everything OK?