I realise this is going against the grain of much of how modern relationships develop... Not so long ago, ‘no sex before marriage’ was quite commonly accepted. I’m not saying we go back to that but we have lurched to the other extreme in society today, and it’s widely expected that you don’t hold back at all in satisfying your lust, and sex is often something people do very early on, before there is a relationship even, with the result that relationships all too often have their foundations in sex, which is great while it lasts, but then as things die down, reality hits and they find themselves embroiled in a relationship with a partner they have little in common with and who they don’t actually like very much... with this leading to much angst and heartbreak as the relationship either splutters on or breaks up. Of course, sometimes the underlying relationship is good and continues healthily, but i wonder if that’s in part in spite of, rather than because of the early rush to bed.
So my point is, wouldn’t we generally have happier and healthier relationships if we were a bit more patient and self-controlled with our lust? I’m not saying people don’t have the right to have as much consensual sex as they want, with whoever they want... and only they can decide what’s right for them, but that sex too early isn’t ideal if you’re wanting to find a good long term relationship.