Apologies in advance for the long post:
I am 24 and 31 weeks pregnant. The pregnancy wasn't planned and myself and my partner were living with my family until we were financially able to privately rent. This was meant to be for about a year. This was more than welcomed by my dad, who I'd always been close with and seemed to be fine with my dad's wife too.
The relationship between myself and my step mother had sometimes been strained, but throughout recent years, it'd been fine. Once I had moved back home, however, tension had started to mount, but I had no idea why. I had made sure that her house was always tidy, cooked dinner and we generally kept ourselves to ourselves.
She doesn't work and hasn't actually been diagnosed with an illness, but insists that she has rheumatoid arthritis and has managed to have been prescribed Oramoroph for that and Fibromyalgia. I am obviously not a doctor, so I have no idea.
She also has a drinking problem. I didn't realise the extent until I moved back home, but she usually starts drinking around 12pm and then goes to bed about an hour before my dad gets in, so he thinks that she's ill in bed all day. She'd also just had a kidney infection, but was up the next day at midday drinking wine again... she's never a sloppy drunk, she just gets a bit hyper.
It had started to really concern me, as she drinks 2 bottles of wine a night, as well as taking the morphine and tramadol. My partner and I had spoken about this before and had agreed that she wouldn't be left alone with our baby.
It all came to a head a few weeks ago when I was 28 weeks when I was 28 weeks pregnant. It was 10pm and I had absolutely awful back pain. Her TV was blaring and I could hear it through my ear plugs, so I knocked on her door and asked her to turn it down please. She started huffing and scoffing, so I said 'I don't mean to be rude, but I'm 28 weeks pregnant, my back's killing me, I just want to go to sleep please.' and she went 'oh here we go again!' I had never spoken to her about my pregnancy. She really made me feel low about myself and as though I daren't ask her to turn her TV down.
My partner then said he think it'd be best if we stayed with his parents that night, I agreed. The next day, my dad says that he 'thinks that it's best if [we] don't come back' and go and live with his family. I was 28 weeks pregnant and we'd just decorated the bedroom nice for the baby. I was then having to pack our things into bin bags and move into my partner's parents home where nothing had been done. I was distraught.
I am now thinking that it's best if I don't allow my step mother contact at all with the baby. Especially with her alcoholism, but as well as that, I wouldn't want to risk her talking to my daughter the way she had spoken to me.
Am I overreacting here? The argument was so petty, but I'd always been sent away when I argued with her as a teenager and not allowed home until I apologised. I just feel as though the time has come now where I don't want the stress. I just want the best for my baby.
Thank you!