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HelpMeAdult · 21/03/2018 17:21

It's my daughters birthday this weekend.
My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship.
His parents massively favour his oldest daughter, quite openly saying it's because she's their first grandchild and there's a special bond.....

For her birthday my husband have got our daughter a much longed for present that she has wanted for a while but had to wait for her birthday because it's expensive and we don't give her too many things apart from birthdays and Christmas. She doesn't know she has got one so it will be a surprise.
In laws have just told me they've got one for step daughter to give her this weekend so she doesn't feel left out.
I feel genuinely upset that they've done this and that it will take the shine off for my daughter because her sister is getting the same thing on the same day, just because when she has had to wait for her birthday.
Should I tell them how I feel about it? I usually keep quiet when similar situations arise but for some reason this has really got my back up and I am sitting here quietly seething.

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sillyoldowl · 21/03/2018 22:12

It's so heart breaking they could do that to both children

Bellamuerte · 21/03/2018 22:23

Imo this favouritism needs to be nipped in the bud now. My gran always treated me as her favourite (I looked like her) which made my cousin very upset. Initially my cousin expressed her jealousy by being mean to me, pulling my hair etc, and later she started to tell lies and try to get me in trouble (e.g. she would bite herself then run to gran and tell her I did it). As we got older we hated each other - she was jealous of me and I disliked her for being mean when it wasn't my fault. We're in our 40s now and have no contact. Favouritism will make your girls grow apart if it's allowed to continue.

DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 21/03/2018 22:27

Your DH has to tell them no.

Yanbu

RedHelenB · 21/03/2018 22:35

Does eldest dd have a bike?

If not I can see why it would be nice for them to have one so they could go out on them together

FrancisCrawford · 21/03/2018 23:03

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KeepServingTheDrinks · 21/03/2018 23:15

If your DH is the golden child to them, he should use this to his advantage and tell (not ask) them.

TotHappy · 21/03/2018 23:28

How the actual fuck dare they?!

FrozenMargarita17 · 21/03/2018 23:39

That is absolutely awful behaviour. I would be putting my foot down and if I saw that bike before July I would be furious.

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