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Constant whatsapp group messages interfering

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notagain123456 · 21/03/2018 10:36

Hi, I was wondering what everyones thoughts were on whatsapp group chats?
I am involved in my husbands family group chat and it is causing me a few issues, it is constant to the point i feel like they are living in our pockets.
From sending a silly picture to sending a photo of their food, my husband is just as bad and instigates many conversations. His sister and brother in law discuss food shopping lists and have their own conversations on there and i find it too much. He doesnt get in until late and if a chat is started i dont feel we have time together alone, i feel like they are there.

I dont think they txt this much before we were together which makes me question what they do it now. My husband has lots of group chats going and replies to everything.

My dilemma is i really want to leave the group but then it will bring up questions as to why and i dont want to explain. Should i feel lucky i have been included in this? I know people would feel excluded if they hadnt been added to their husbands group and i can understand why.

My family have a group too but its not intrusive and constant.

We see his family often enough so i dont believe its because they miss him. We went out with them 3 weeks on the run a while back (which frustrated me)as its too much.

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NeepNeepNeep · 21/03/2018 13:46

Well done! It wasn't just about red numbers and notifications I don't think. It was territorial and odd. I wonder if the volume of messages to your DH will change now they know you don't see them!

notagain123456 · 21/03/2018 14:09

neep, i think you are right and that is part of the problem. I feel a sense of calm already not being on it. maybe the message will dininish now i'm not on there.

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CakerBaker · 21/03/2018 19:21

I would love to be in a Whatsapp group with my family in law. Sadly they’re a really fractured family.

LittleLoveXoxo · 13/06/2018 21:23

Oh it is exhausting!!! I'm in my OH family group chat, there's no question about me leaving as I know for a fact they would react badly, they already mention that certain people don't reply enough so god knows what a dramatic exit would do. I've muted and try archiving it all the time but the notification banner drives me nuts! And I even had a recent situation where there were messages directed towards me in the group, and during a super busy morning at work I didn't response within 1.5 hours (I know, I'm a cow right??) it was followed up in the chat... then I was made out to be rude because I said I was busy at work !! I feel your pain, I don't see the end coming very soon for me but the day the chat ceases will be a great day. Xx

VikingBlonde · 14/06/2018 22:16

So exhausting!!! I feel your pain. I'm matey with my DP's x (as there are kids involved I always prefer everyone to get along) and she is sooo jealous I've left the group - she feels the pressure to stay. Poor cahhh.

All day long they ping each other and NEVER give each other any actual information. It's just like radio static with showy offy pictures Hmm

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