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To be annoyed when disable badge holders use parent and toddler spaces

354 replies

IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 14:34

Well i probably am being unreasonable but i find this more of a cheak than anything. Me and my dp and dd luckily found a parent and toddler parking space (quite rare that happens) so i was happy about that. When i was loading dd into pushchair, someone went leaving an empty space and straight in was a couple with a disabled badge even though there were normal spaces free too. When they got out of the car i said to them 'you know these spaces are for parents with babies and pushchairs'. They said to me all grumy 'there isn't any disabled spaces'. I asked if they had been downstairs as there is always spaces and they said no we haven't, we are fine here'.

I felt very annoyed because if i can't find a mother and child space, i find a normal space and wouldn't even consider parking in a disable spot for obvious reasons plus they all kick off at people who do so why should it be different here. This couple walked straight into the shop we were next to and thats when i realised it wasn't about finding a disabled spot for them, they just wanted to park right outside the store for their own selfish convinience meanwhile some parent is struggling in a normal space to get her kids out the car with a tiny gap.

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IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 15:26

kslattes i wouldn't mind if the m&t spaces were at the back off the carpark. in fact i think they should do that!

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Mercy · 08/05/2007 15:28

I think you should start doing your shopping online tbh

FioFio · 08/05/2007 15:29

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tissy · 08/05/2007 15:30

I have an idea, based on having seen plenty of people with expensive cars do this....

those of you who NEED extra space to get your babies in and out of a car, why not park in the middle of TWO spaces? None of the BMW and Merc drivers I've seen doing this seem to be castigated.

A couple of weeks ago, I was at Waitrose in Edinburgh (Oh the joy! I was driving into Edinburgh for a completely different reason, got lost and ended up at Waitrose. I had to get out and go shopping! ). I saw a woman in a HUGE Merc parking diagonally across THREE parking spaces. She lobbed a small carrier in the back, then hopped in, and had no difficulty opening her enormous doors, which were safe from the unwashed doors of the rest of us plebs, and reversed out without scraping her car on anyone elses. It did make me wonder why she didn't just send one of the servants out to do her shopping .

oliveoil · 08/05/2007 15:31

Kitty - if I go shopping and I can't park in the M&B, I leave my two in the car and find a trolley, go back and force them (or bribe them) to sit in the trolley so I can wheel them over the car park

or I carry dd2 and hold dd1's hand and we walk

and unless you are an elephant you can get in a car no matter how close someone has parked to you

IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 15:32

percypig he really isn't no 3, i wish for him he was. he had a motor bike accident years ago leading him to spend 3 months in hospital having painful operations on his leg. now his right leg is alot shorter than the the other causing him a perminent and painful limp. he refused an artificial leg and has extreame arthrightos in that foot. so please don't judge my arsy comments by thinking he is no3 on that list.

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ConnieDescending · 08/05/2007 15:33

Well, for what its worth icing, I'd be far more annoyed at someone with 1 baby in easy carry carseat taking up a precious parent parking spot when I've got a baby, a pre-schooler and an older child to get out of the car.

wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 08/05/2007 15:34

cherpy a mate of mine once took me driving on a local airfield. in a rented car. we were asked to leave . did drive my dad's car down a fairly deserted road once though.

ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:34

Well I've got a disabled child so guess I'm double lucky!

kittyhas6 · 08/05/2007 15:35

littlelapin, i have chosen to. but if you are going to use that argument then you would say that no one who has chosen to have childen shouls receive any sort of benefit or help, which is clearly not a helpful argument.

if you have a couple of kids then your need for a M&T space is clearly not the same as someone who has many young children. Anyone should be able to walk with a couple of young kids.

FioFio · 08/05/2007 15:35

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kittyhas6 · 08/05/2007 15:36

oliveoil, I agree with 2 kids that's pretty uncomplicated. I still disagree about the space at the side of the car issue.

oliveoil · 08/05/2007 15:37

my friend has 4 and a great big fark off people carrier and she copes

percypig · 08/05/2007 15:38

Icing, I didn't think he was number 3, I don't know him, or anything about him. From what you've said he really should at least fill in the forms.

I said that some of your comments sounded like no 3, by that I meant the stuff about disabled people doing things for their own convenience, a prent struggling with kids and you being annoyed if you couldn't get a M+B space. You just said your comments were 'arsey', I wouldn't have put it like that, but I do think the tone and repitition of some of your comments annoyed people.

Anyway, it's not really important - hope you got some nice things when shopping.

ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:38

oh yeah - my free car, a disabled child, free parking, Man oh man, I'm living the life.

IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 15:38

this really wasn't an attack on all disabled people. i ment they could have parked in the normal space as it was the same distance away from the shop. now everyone thinks i hate disabled people

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oliveoil · 08/05/2007 15:38

I have recently passed my test and I park in the next country so I don't have to be near people

leaves me lots of room at the side when you park in Siberia

kittyhas6 · 08/05/2007 15:39

Good for her, with 6, 8 and under I couldn't, perhaps she could set me right

oliveoil · 08/05/2007 15:39

I would shop online in that case

littlelapin · 08/05/2007 15:40

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ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:41

SHOP ONLINE.
Your M&T space is not a right, it's a luxury.

If you can't cope with not having a M&T space and gettign into a supermarket then how do you live your life at all? What did our parents / grandaparents cope????

fryalot · 08/05/2007 15:41

I disappear for an hour and I miss all the fun!!!!

someone chuck us some peanuts

ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:43

Icing - yeah with a comment like "they just wanted to park right outside the store for their own selfish convinience - it's hard to think it wasn't an attack tbh.

ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:44

Oh guess what, I'm going shopping tonight when my kids are in bed and I won't have to use disabled or M&T!