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To be annoyed when disable badge holders use parent and toddler spaces

354 replies

IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 14:34

Well i probably am being unreasonable but i find this more of a cheak than anything. Me and my dp and dd luckily found a parent and toddler parking space (quite rare that happens) so i was happy about that. When i was loading dd into pushchair, someone went leaving an empty space and straight in was a couple with a disabled badge even though there were normal spaces free too. When they got out of the car i said to them 'you know these spaces are for parents with babies and pushchairs'. They said to me all grumy 'there isn't any disabled spaces'. I asked if they had been downstairs as there is always spaces and they said no we haven't, we are fine here'.

I felt very annoyed because if i can't find a mother and child space, i find a normal space and wouldn't even consider parking in a disable spot for obvious reasons plus they all kick off at people who do so why should it be different here. This couple walked straight into the shop we were next to and thats when i realised it wasn't about finding a disabled spot for them, they just wanted to park right outside the store for their own selfish convinience meanwhile some parent is struggling in a normal space to get her kids out the car with a tiny gap.

OP posts:
ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:11

So you have people who have a blue badge - and you still don't get it.

What if someone had been mean to your uncle the way you are being mean about thses people in you OP?

Listen to yourself :

"This couple walked straight into the shop we were next to and thats when i realised it wasn't about finding a disabled spot for them, they just wanted to park right outside the store for their own selfish convinience meanwhile some parent is struggling in a normal space"

Didn't your uncle also 'walk' into a shop even though he had cancer, the poor man. Didn't he have the right to park as near to the shopa s he could to make his life a bit easier.

Your m&T space is a luxury, don't you get that?

Blandmum · 08/05/2007 15:11

My father gor his rejected when he had prostate cancer. He wasn't dying fast enough.

Chirpygirl · 08/05/2007 15:11

Hey wannabe, I worked with someone who got driving lessons around a track with an instructor for his birthday.
He's been blind since birth.
His wife was offered a space in the car but declined....his dog went in the back and stuck it's head out the window

gess · 08/05/2007 15:12

I'm redoing DLA at the moment (so we can get another free car- our first one runs out soon, but they only awarded 5 years DLA which means we can't get another until we've renewed- 2 years earlier than we would otherwise have had to- god knows why they can't just award it for life in ds1's case).

WanderingTrolley · 08/05/2007 15:13

ChirpyGirl - i LOVE that!

Original poster
IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 15:13

gess are you suggesting my dp is not disabled or what?

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percypig · 08/05/2007 15:13

Yes, just to add Icing, quite a lot of people think they should get DLA or IB, but don't meet the criteria.

My DH sometimes does medical assessments, which are v detailed, and from what he says there are 3 'sorts' of people:

  1. those who genuinely need it, and have fought long and hard to get it 2)those who genuinely need it but are almost apologetic and downplay their symptoms and the reality of daily life because they don't want to make a fuss
  2. those who have 'entitlement complex' and think that the world in general owes them whatever they want.

I'm a slow typer today, so the thread has probaly moved on, oh well!

GiantSquirrelSpotter · 08/05/2007 15:13

LOL at pissing off the princesses in the m&t spaces.

Who'd have thunk they would have been so controversial eh? D'you think the MD's of Sainsbury's or Tescos ever come on here?

ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:14

Comment a- "I felt very annoyed because if i can't find a mother and child space"

Comment B - "I am happy if i get a M&T spot but if not then i don't worry."

Which is it Icingonthecake????????

Chirpygirl · 08/05/2007 15:15

Good isn't it!

lanismum · 08/05/2007 15:16

my mum is a blue badge holder, (she even gets to drive in the congestion zone for free ) and i must admit, it is lovely to be able to get my kids in and out of her car easily when shes parked in a disabled space, but i find i quite enjoy the challenge of getting a 2 year old throwing a tantrum into her car seat, whilst holding a 3 week old, really, its not that difficult to do, if i can get my 2 into their seats in the car park under center point, im sure anybody can in a shopping center!

ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:16

I think gess is saying that YOU don't decide if you'll have a badge or not. You have to fill out page upon page of depressing forms and then when they 'award' you a rate of care - lower, middle or higher and if you are 'awarder' higher you then get the opportunity to apply for a badge. They make it as hard as poss ib most cases. I had to fight for mine which was outrageous. I got there in the end.

gess · 08/05/2007 15:17

No idea I've never met your dp. If he is disabled the I suspect he might find it rather harder to get than he realises. Read the stories here. If he really does need a blue badge then I would suggest he stops being so silly and applies for one to make his life easier.

LazyLine · 08/05/2007 15:19

Icing, maybe you would like their disability as well as the right to moan about where they parked?

kittyhas6 · 08/05/2007 15:20

I get annoyed if badge holders park in M&T bays when there are clearly disabled bays available. The inconvenience at not being able to park very close to the shop when you have children all depends on how many children you have with you and how young they are. There is also the matter of being able to have enough room at the side of the car to load people in, which there never is in a normal bay.
If I go to a supermarket and cannot find a spare M&T bay then I have to leave.

Original poster
IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 15:20

percypig i would say he was no 2 on your list

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kslatts · 08/05/2007 15:20

You are being unreasonable.

I have never understood the point of m&b spaces, I think generally spaces should be a bit wider and then there would be no need for m&b spaces. I wonder how many people would use them if they were further from the shop entrance. When I go shopping I drive to the part of the carpark which is furthest from the entrance and there are usually a few empty spaces next to each other, that way I can park, get dd's out of the car easily and walk the short distance to the store, without the stress of struggling to get a m&b space.

Disabled people need spaces near the store, parents with young children don't.

Original poster
IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 15:22

thomcat the line was 'I felt very annoyed because if i can't find a mother and child space, i find a normal space and wouldn't even consider parking in a disable spot for obvious reasons'

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ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:23

Icingonthcake - you can turn round at any point and say 'yes, you're right, I was being unreasonable, I'll not judge so quickly in the future, sorry' or words to that effect anytime you like, in case you were wondering!!!!!!!

FioFio · 08/05/2007 15:23

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percypig · 08/05/2007 15:23

In that case, tell him to apply then, or get the form for him and help him fill it out.

The thing is, a lot of your comments (am not saying anything about your dp here) sound like type 3, and I think that is partly what has annoyed people.

Blandmum · 08/05/2007 15:24

Christ, that my life should be so simple that I could get worried about a M and T space.

It amazes me, it honestly does.

gess · 08/05/2007 15:24

agree with percypig- don't worry he'll probably be rejected anyway so he won't be forced to use a blue badge.

ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:25

oh that justifiies it then Icing. Read your whole post back. Listen to yourself.

Justify this then:

"they just wanted to park right outside the store for their own selfish convinience"

littlelapin · 08/05/2007 15:25

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