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To be annoyed when disable badge holders use parent and toddler spaces

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IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 14:34

Well i probably am being unreasonable but i find this more of a cheak than anything. Me and my dp and dd luckily found a parent and toddler parking space (quite rare that happens) so i was happy about that. When i was loading dd into pushchair, someone went leaving an empty space and straight in was a couple with a disabled badge even though there were normal spaces free too. When they got out of the car i said to them 'you know these spaces are for parents with babies and pushchairs'. They said to me all grumy 'there isn't any disabled spaces'. I asked if they had been downstairs as there is always spaces and they said no we haven't, we are fine here'.

I felt very annoyed because if i can't find a mother and child space, i find a normal space and wouldn't even consider parking in a disable spot for obvious reasons plus they all kick off at people who do so why should it be different here. This couple walked straight into the shop we were next to and thats when i realised it wasn't about finding a disabled spot for them, they just wanted to park right outside the store for their own selfish convinience meanwhile some parent is struggling in a normal space to get her kids out the car with a tiny gap.

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Blandmum · 08/05/2007 14:58

Yup, Misdee, you are right, you idea of a swap is so much better [evil sick humour with my buddies emoticon]

IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 14:58

I asked him why doesn't he have a badge and he said he doesn't want one. I think thats because even though he is disabled in eyes of everyone medical, he isn't disabled in his eyes.

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expatinscotland · 08/05/2007 15:00

K, well, for others, they really can't just be disabled in everyone else's eyes. And it's not temporary.

It's forever.

So they get blue badges.

I wouldn't want to trade places with them.

expatinscotland · 08/05/2007 15:00

It's a breach of wannabe's EU human rights she can't drive a car .

lou33 · 08/05/2007 15:01

this thread has made me laugh considerably

i have to go and pick up 3 kids now, and guess what, lucky me gets a pass to park in the SCHOOL so ds2 can be wheeled out of his transport to me without having to be standing in the road to get him out of his wheelchair and into the car

life is sweet

ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:01

I actually can't believe your post. You need to go and have a quiet word with yourself.
These people are disabled.

They have a badge which means there is a reaon for them to have one. You have to fill out a 56 page form to claim DLA (Disabilty Living Allowance) and then when you are awarded the high rate for motorbiluity you are then able to appy for a disbale badge.

How dare yu be annoyed they need to park near the entrance of the store. How dare you judge them to be selfish.

Oh my GOD

Go and have that word with yourself now love and really think about what you've said in your post and change your attitude.

There but for the grace of god and all that. Please God no-one in your family ever needs to receive DLA and be given a disabled badge, please God.

wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 08/05/2007 15:03

exactly expat! do you think if I went to the court of human rights they would award me a licence?

expatinscotland · 08/05/2007 15:04

Yes, TC speaks from experience. This DLA form is SO MUCH FUN!

IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 15:04

thankyou percypig for that as you seem to have understood my op. I don't have a problem with disable badge holders, it was this one couple who parked in a M&T space when they could have parked in a normal space as both were just as near to the store as eachother.

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expatinscotland · 08/05/2007 15:04

I think if you're going to sue, wannabe, you should go for the car, too!

wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 08/05/2007 15:04

oh tc is it high rate mobility component now that entitles you to a badge? damn so I'm not entitled to one any more! bastards!

Blandmum · 08/05/2007 15:06

Oh and Dh looks perfectly normal. He just has a belly full of tumours. He needs every colorie that he can get, since the tumour takes 5000 a day.

So while he may look fine, he really can't walk to the shops.

Its a PITA not being able to get a M and T slot. Its more a case of life or death to dh. So get a sense of proportion, and thank god you are not in the same situation as we are.

RanToTheHills · 08/05/2007 15:06

but why should they have, Icing?
sorry, you asked the Qu, yes, it's unreasonable to think that they were "cheeky"!

gess · 08/05/2007 15:06

confesses secret: When disabled bays are full and we park in M + T I take secret pleasure knowing I am going to be pissing off the princesses. Mwa ha ha. I did explain this to one of my lovely girls, who looked at me like I was mad (I don't think she realised there were people out there who got so upset over M +T spots).

percypig · 08/05/2007 15:07

Icing, just to clarify..I said you were being unreasonable! But did agree that maybe they could have parked elsewhere, on the other hand so could you.

My main point was at the end, when I mentioned other things which I personally think it is more reasonable to get annoyed about.

WanderingTrolley · 08/05/2007 15:07

IcingOnTheCake.

Hide.

This thread has made me lol which isn't flattering to you or me, frankly.

I've managed to get kids in and out of non P&T spaces for 15 years without a problem.

What's wrong with you? The irony of that question does not escape me, btw.

IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 15:07

Thomcat i do have people in my family who need a badge. My uncle last year had one before he died of cancer and my dp could have one.

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ThomCat · 08/05/2007 15:07

It's fucking hilarious isn't it expat!

I spent a week trying to fillit in and cried with every word I wrote.

Then when I finally got awarded high rate, 2nd time around, I was still refused my blue badge. So I went to their offices with my DD in my arms and said to the woman 'here you take her and see how you feel when you finally reach the car which is parked in the nearest carpark, an 8 minute walk away, not outside cos I haven't got a bloody blue badge', then I got angt=ry and cried with the anger. I got my badge dropped through mny letterbox that night with a handwritten note saying sorry! It took months and months and months but i got ther and it has lelped me so much.

wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 08/05/2007 15:07

oooh yes a car. do you think I could choose which model? actually, maybe instead of a licence, I could demand a chauffeur and a limo . you know, just to make up for the 16 years of inconvenience I've had to endure for not being able to drive.

Chirpygirl · 08/05/2007 15:07

Don't forget that disabled people get across the Severn Bridge Toll for free as well.

I have to watch while my IL's gaily sail through in front of me and I have to pay! and I live in Wales, it's so unfair!

Stop trying to justify yourself, it won't work.

Blandmum · 08/05/2007 15:08

Gess, we do a lot of Moo haha in our house. Dh says it is the laugh of the Cows of the Appocalypse (mad man!)

gess · 08/05/2007 15:09

your dp could have one. Decided by your dp. Right. It took us 3 years to get a badge for ds1. He fulfills all sorts of criteria.

Blandmum · 08/05/2007 15:10

I musr confess that getting the blue badge was a piece of piss, and arrived within the week of application.

If you have the 'expected to die within 6 months' letter, they fast track you and you fill in an abbreviated form.

The perks you get eh?

expatinscotland · 08/05/2007 15:10

yes, I love being so positive about my child's future on these forms.

a good friend of mine actually had the added bonus of having to appeal her daughter's DLA award.

her daughter has Prader-Willi Syndrome. and no, folks, it's not just about eating too much.

they rejected her claim entirely at first.

she felt so supported.

IcingOnTheCake · 08/05/2007 15:11

When going into a carpark i check M&T parking of which there is not usually spaces so i park else where without batting on eyelid. I am happy if i get a M&T spot but if not then i don't worry.

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