To be annoyed when disable badge holders use parent and toddler spaces

[IcingOnTheCake]

Well i probably am being unreasonable but i find this more of a cheak than anything. Me and my dp and dd luckily found a parent and toddler parking space (quite rare that happens) so i was happy about that. When i was loading dd into pushchair, someone went leaving an empty space and straight in was a couple with a disabled badge even though there were normal spaces free too. When they got out of the car i said to them 'you know these spaces are for parents with babies and pushchairs'. They said to me all grumy 'there isn't any disabled spaces'. I asked if they had been downstairs as there is always spaces and they said no we haven't, we are fine here'.

I felt very annoyed because if i can't find a mother and child space, i find a normal space and wouldn't even consider parking in a disable spot for obvious reasons plus they all kick off at people who do so why should it be different here. This couple walked straight into the shop we were next to and thats when i realised it wasn't about finding a disabled spot for them, they just wanted to park right outside the store for their own selfish convinience meanwhile some parent is struggling in a normal space to get her kids out the car with a tiny gap.

Misdee, tell the truth, you keep him at home 'cos he is so darned handsome you can't trust him round other women!

yes icing have you changed your mind?

if you havent then iwill write up what a trip out entails for us.

oh course MB, he is so darned handsome, he is dangerous to be around women, he uis such a charmer

I have only read the OP. Yes you are being amazingly unreasonable!!! They have a disabled sticker for a reason not all disabilities are visible. My niece has severe crohns disease and has a disabled sticker because when she needs the toilet, she needs it right away! She has had so many people come up to her and tell that she has no right to park in a disabled space because she does not have a wheelchair. Ignorance is bliss!

can we have a pedant on this thread please - I would have thought that "I think people who post things like this are selfish princesses" is not a stereotype at all. A stereotype is "ideas held about members of particular groups, based primarily on membership in that group". Are people who object to disabled people parking in M +T spots an actual group? It doesn't seem like a stereotype to me.

BTW I'm Still PMSL about his comment on the surrendered wives thread!. That would put the old LVAD thought its paces!!!!!

Back to the food, when are we getting the goat's cheese scone recipe??

Am v hungry and love all things goat's cheese.

pmsl MB. his new carer said 'well i think its(lvad) in a good position, i mean it wont interfere with your lovemaking' errrrrrrr right quickly folled by 'err not that i think about you and misdee at it'

pmsl

In my previous life I used to design training courses on disability awareness and the ignorance of people and the sterotype assumptions that people make about what they perceive disability to be is really quite astonishing.

Obviously I haven't got a blue badge, but if icing would like to accompany us shopping, she can choose whether she carries the ASD almost 4 year old who refuses to walk (DH won't have a maxi buggy, thinks its a sign of going back ) or controls the nt but still energetic 6 year old, and the HFA 7 year old who crawls, barks and steals in the shops, oftens topping to thump middle brother and / or bite the lef of a passer by.

Actually I suspect icing ahs the point now, its just one of those threads that goes on beyng, gives us who really do live in that world a chance to bow our fuses a bit- and why deny uS?

OH dear...and yea you are bieng unreasoable...now I hate it if a Parent space is used by people who have no Kids/no need for it...but a disabled badge holder has a greater need, then a Parent with a young child.

Icing - I was replying to UCM's question. UCM siad why do things like this get posted and I said I think people post things like this becasue they are slefish princesses.

And actually someone else gave me the idea!:
"LOL at pissing off the princesses in the m&t spaces."

Anyway - whatever!

And thank you gess! Rather boring to have to go on about it but - exactly!

Blu, I don't mind Badge holders who park on yellow lines, it's when they park on yellow lines that makes it very dangerous for other drivers. Like right on corners of roads etc. I have had many times where i have nearly been crashed into etc because of this.Its not just badge holders its any driver who parks in places where it is dangerous for other drivers or parks in a place that is causing conjestion.

If there was no other space in sight then i wouldn't have annoyed me so much, it was more the fact that there was so many other normal spaces in sight the same distance from the store. Thats what annoyed me really, it would have annoyed me if it was anyone without children not just because they had a disabled badge.

are you a tad masochistic luv?

ahem I would like to claim the first use of the word "princess" in my 15:06 post. . I've used it on a parking thread before- and it caused uproar

hummm maybe not go the old message then. I give up.

Wine anyone?

Yes you can park on yellow lines - safely.

Icingonthecake. You are digging yourself a bigger hole than you started with. Quit before you fall in.

oliveoil, I do, mostly

right ok, just because i want to say what its like getting dh (non wheelchair user currently) into and out of car at shopping centres.

before we leave the house

check bag for pump, torch, wires, batteries, immediate action notice, blackbag(makeshift raincover), mobile phones, check batteries on machine, take in car charger and spare LVAD with us.

Getting into the car, get all 3 children in the car and strapped in. help dh into the car, take machine off the trolly, place in car near his feet, make sure all leads and wires are out of the way of the door before you shut it and the drive lines arent kinked or caught on anything. put the trolly and spare LVAD in the boot, plus dh into the battery charger.

Getting out of the car, do all that in reverse, also strap spare LVAD onto the buggy using luggage straps.

we now have 1hour till the first battery wears down. change this whilst enduring stares and whispers. if anything beeps when out then stop and check again. if he want soemthing to eat then need to find a table out of the way, and safe where his wires wont get tripped over.

getting back to the car, and do it all over again.

Get rid of P and T spaces- that would solve these flippin ridiculous arguments once and for all. Or stick them at the far end of the car park- after all it's the extra space we want and not to be near the door.

Give ALL P and T spaces that are near the door over to be Disabled spaces.

Disabled drivers should have priority over able bodied P and T users and just because they don't have a wheelchair doesn't mean they're not disabled. My aunt had a heart condition which meant she couldn't walk far so she had a disabled badge- mind you she dropped dead at 42 so she didn't hang on to her blue badge for too long. She looked very healthy, even on the morning she dropped dead

I know you are fiofio, its the dangerous parking by anyone including badge holders that i don't like.