To think that the hospital have treated me poorly?

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I was meant to have an appointment at EAPU today due to bleeding and stabbing pain on my left hand side. I wasn't able to make my appointment due to my train being cancelled (I live an hour away from the EAPU and only have hourly trains). I phoned them and apologised and they were absolutely fine and told me they have no scans later but I really need to be seen. They were worried about ectopic and miscarriage as I have had 2 before. They advised I call 111 who can book me an appointment. 111 told me to attend my closet hospital which is 40 mins away. I did just this and explained the issue to their primary care unit. They said no worries, I'll book you in and we will get a scan sorted. 4 hours of waiting later, I saw the doc and he said 'so you've just come here to get a scan? That's it?' . He then proceeded to call the unit which does the scans and told them that I 'didn't bother turning up for my appointment' at which point I heard them on the other line say 'well she didn't need it that badly then did she'. So here I am, after 2 miscarriages, terrified, feeling small, feeling guilty for missing my train Ben though it was out of my hands, with no advice, no scan booked, EAPU telling me to go back to doctors. AIBU to think that I deserve better than this?

'Even' not 'Ben'

YANBU Could you find some inner rage and complain?

That all sounds very stressful and really unprofessional. Are you getting a scan today?
I would ask the doctor to explain why he said what he did and reiterate your train was cancelled.

YADNBU, & the deaf doctor needs a rocket up his ass.🤨

Speak to PALs urgently, explain what has happened & they will sort of out for you. Their number is on the hospital website. Good luck

@Kit2015 I'm not getting a scan, no. I don't have one booked and no sure how I can get one other than going back to my gp and having them re-refer me. All I want is to know my baby is ok. Seems a lot to ask...

Thanks @RockinHippy - just want to know peanut is ok. Some doctors seem to lose all ability to empathise. Miscarriage is traumatic and I of course am terrified of it happening again.

It's not alot to ask. PALS for sure. Also is it worth ringing epau again explain what happened, And if they have another appointment tommrow for you.
I'm sorry the way the doctor spoke about you. It's not on.

If you have stabbing pains and are in early pregnancy I would go to A&E until you are taken seriously. Ectopic pregnancies can be life threatening and are a medical emergency.

Agree PALS immediately. This was not your fault and you have followed all advice given. I worry that going back to your GP will result in a lengthy wait while you are being pushed from pillar to post (as is already happening).

@Kit2015 the reason I needed a scan today was because a) I need it ASAP due to ectopic risk from previous surgery and b) it is my uncles funeral at the other end of the country today. I understand that hospitals aren't bothered about my convenience, but I can't miss his funeral and won't be back until Thursday morning. Looks like it is going to have to wait...

@Mrsemcgregor a&e were the ones who sent me to the primary care unit. I have literally been everywhere. I don't know what to do now.

@MaverickSnoopy thank you. Miscarriage turns you in to a mad person and I'm all too scared it is happening again

YANBU, your poor thing.
If they think you are having a ectopic pregnancy that is life threatening.
I would call 111 again and explain what has happened, that you haven't been seen and you are worried about your health.
And as the PP said contact PALS.
Hope everything works out for you

In your case then I would go to A and E. You don't mess around with ectopic pregnancies. I'm really sorry you're going through this. I hope you have someone with you.

Thanks @Dumbotheelephant - I don't really think it is ectopic but my gp planted the seed and it's in the back of my head. He was being cautious but I can't help but think it needs to be looked at. I wonder what they would do if someone came in urgently in excruciating pain. They'd give them a scan most likely...

@Kit2015 I'm actually on my own but it's ok. A&E sent me to primary care initially and won't question what another doctor has said as there are 'no second opinions' apparently.

This is New Cross Hospital in Wolverhampton, by the way.

Is it worth giving the labour ward a ring? Where I am you ring them from 18 weeks if there is any concerns but maybe your one will have a number they can give you or at least reassure you? Fingers crossed for you x

@sirlee66 I'm only 6 weeks along. I just don't know if I can deal with any more disappointment. You can Only be told to bugger off so many times before you start to lose your confidence and think 'what will be will be' - I'll give your suggestion a try. Such a pain

Can you go to an A&E when you get to wherever you are going for the funeral?

@Mrsemcgregor I'll have to on Thursday. 5 hours travel tomorrow, funeral Wednesday, a&e Thursday. If it gets worse I will just have to miss the funeral.

Yes to PALS. Are you under midwife care as well?
I would also note that you were aware of the dismissive reply.
If you can also afford it, look for private scan places and explain the situation and ask for a private scan asap.
Otherwise go to A&E and if they try to send you away ask (nicely) for a senior member of staff/consultant to notify in your file that they are aware you are at risk. Pregnant. Suffering from stabbing pain and bleeding and that primary care refused to scan due to the fact that trains were cancelled causing you to miss your appointment.

Make sure you get seen ASAP if it gets any worse at all. Be aware of other things to look out for such as shoulder pain. My Dsis has an ectopic and it was just awful. You poor thing

Aww OP. If labour ward can't offer any suggestions I agree with the above poster about a+e! You've done nothing wrong. Keep strong!

@Mrsemcgregor thank you. Amazing what we pay in taxes for nhs and this is the treatment you get when you need them most!

As awful as the treatment has been, try and focus on your health first and complaining second. They should not have spoken about you like that, it’s awful. But for now focus on your health and whatever it takes to be seen. Even if it means sitting in some waiting room (be it A&E or primary care) and refusing to move!