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Online Dating red flags

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UnsuspectedItem · 19/03/2018 11:32

I'm single and travel a lot for work and reasonably antisocial so lurk in the wonderful world of OLD in the fading hope of finding someone normal.

The same phrases and photo types keep coming up.

AIBU to make presumptions based on them? I probably am, perhaps the Perfect Man is slipping past whilst I'm hoiking my judgey pants?

  • Describes themselves as "flirty"
  • Includes naked/half naked selfie
  • Selfie taken in bed
  • In "ethical non monogamous marriage"
  • Describes self as "explorer" or "adventurer", despite working in accounts with main holiday destination being Benidorm.
  • Uses "lol" at any point
  • Writes "u" instead of "you", "wot" instead of "what" etc
  • Refuses to put any info in bio, instead saying "wots the point, lol. Jus ask!" That's not the point!!
  • Lies about height. (I'm 5 foot 9, I wish height wasn't important but it is)
  • Any mention of fetishes
  • Photos that include swimming with dolphins/being picked up by elephants etc.

I'm sure there are loads more but I'm. Probably already coming across as a judgey twunt. Blush

OP posts:
UnsuspectedItem · 20/03/2018 11:47

I've been complimented on my "child bearing hips" before, though this was IRL.

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bumub · 20/03/2018 12:09

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SneakyGremlins · 20/03/2018 12:10

Red flag right there Hmm

Americantan · 20/03/2018 21:21

I was press ganged into joining so uploaded the only 2 vaguely decent pics I had on my phone plus one of me make up free - I look totally different without make up but admit did put a filter on just to even out my awful blotchy skin, but I was still barefaced. One guy I dated said “you’re lovely, but you don’t look so great in your profile pics”. It didn’t need saying! I swiped on a guy with some bike pics because I wanted a man who wanted his own space too, and 16m on it’s working out nicely Smile

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