It’s not too much to ask is it ????

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Newborn baby and I’m exhausted. I’m breastfeeding and he has severe reflux
Will ONLY sleep on me or being held
Yes dh works and is tired but im exhausted he gets to sleep. Actually SLEEP on the sofa

I ask for just 1 hour I’m the evening to have a bath and some time to rest but he falls asleep and it’s not safe !!!!!
If baby’s in his chair he’s not meant to sleep in it and if he’s being held is so dangerous
Why can’t he stay awake ????
It’s causing tension
AIBU?

Both my children had CMPI and neither had skin issues, and I believe that’s pretty common. If you’re breastfeeding you can just cut out CMP yourself - this made every difference to us. If formula then you’ll need to try a CMP free one, via a different GP if needed.

Your GP is waaay out of date if he/she thinks your DS needs to have skin issues for CMPI to be a possibility. My DD has no skin issues, but has severe intolerances to milk, soy, gluten and a whole host of other, usually innocuous foods, annoyingly.

I see you are bfing. You could try gojng dairy free to see if his symptoms change. You would need to give it at least a month to see if it makes a difference. It's quite hard, as you would need to cut out all diary, including that hidden in ready-made foods (and it's in way more foods than you might think). You should also cut out soy too (ditto), as babies who are CMPI are usually intolerant of soy too. It's hard to do when bfing, but it could completely turn his symptoms around if that is the problem. Plus you will be forewarned for weaning. If it makes no difference, at least you've ruled it out.

If you decide to do it, just make sure you take calcium supplements or drink/eat enough calcium-fortified substitutes.

Btw, I not suggesting this to let your DH off the hook. Whether this is the answer to poor DS's pain or not, he needs to step up!

I know it can take longer but we had nearly immediate improvements when I went CMP free.

Wearing a sling, co-sleeping and using white noise (played it on my phone) also helped.

just wanted to add infant gaviscon can help with the vomiting, mix it with some boiled water and give with a syringe before you breastfeed.

I can't believe these replies. The OP should hire a maternity nurse, co-sleep, put the baby in a crib, anything other than rely on the baby's actual father not to put their baby's life in danger if he's left for an hour. FFS

I also want to echo this ^^

Some of these replies are absolutely ridiculous, such low expectations. He sleeps all night, unless he has a medical condition there is absolutely NO reason for him to fall asleep in the 1 hour he actually parents his child.

Some of you lot have really set the bar low!

Can he give him a bath in a tummy tub while you are in a bath? Tummy tub was fantastic for my middle one during peak colic time at night

I think her husband sounds useless but I replied about the bit I could help on, relating to CMPI.

Agree your dh sounds useless. Maybe he needs to set an alarm to go off every ten minutes or so if he’s going to be incapable of staying awake for one hour after a whole nights sleep.
My dd had reflux. I exclusively bf and as soon as I gave up dairy things got a little better. This included chocolate much to my dismay!

I hope you get somewhere soon op. Not nice at all. I also second the pp who have said baby sleeping on their front. I used to get embarrassed when I was out and just left her on her front in the pram despite the guidelines not to but it was the only time she slept. I also tilted the cot up so she wasn’t laying flat. You have my sympathy!

How was the weekend, op? Did you get any sleep?