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Not to let 9yo get Fortnite?

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MrsHathaway · 16/03/2018 18:41

DC1(9) is currently desperate to get the game Fortnite. "All" his friends already have it and play it together online; some of his favourite YouTubers play it and go on about it constantly. He maintains he only wants to go exploring and hiding out.

We've said no because:

  1. He's 9 and it has a 12 certificate.
  1. Although some 12 films might be allowable for younger children, a game which seems to be ultimately about killing people wouldn't fit into that category. His "just exploring" argument sounds like "just driving" in GTA: possible but unlikely and ultimately unsatisfying.
  1. He doesn't currently have the right platform so would need to spend three figures even to play it. He already has a console with the last "must-have" game on it.
  1. (This bit we haven't said to him) He's not a mature 9. His friends who have it are 8-10 months older and have much older siblings. He has to time reading his Alex Rider so it won't be last thing at night which gives him nightmares.
  1. He's nagging about it and giving us major attitude over our refusal. He's had several flat "no"s with reasons and just won't take no for an answer.
  1. DH has asked around and watched videos online and checked reviews, and concluded from that "research" that Fortnite really isn't suitable for our 9yo. The reports of how difficult it is to peel children away from it don't help either!

Do you think we ABU? Is it actually probably ok and not worth the handwringing? Or is it the bane of your existence and you wish it had never been released?

And how do we answer "but FriendA and FriendB have it!" beyond "that's between them and their parents, but your parents are saying no to you"? The fully honest answer is "I wish they bloody hadn't"! I feel this is likely to be an issue again and again as he gets older, but it's new to us and I'd value the benefit of your experience.

OP posts:
QwertyLou · 22/01/2019 00:10

OP, YADNBU.

“Different houses have different rules.”

“You get what you get and you don’t get upset.”

Done. Easy Grin

Riversguidebook · 22/01/2019 00:26

My 9 year old plays it. So does his entire friendship group in Year 5 Juniors.

It’s more addictive than Minecraft and Roblox because they have to keep playing in order to ‘tier up’, and the game has big updates where new weapons, skills, map locations, etc are added and if you miss the update, well, you’re just not cool at Fortnite or something.

It didn’t get my attention at all and I play various video games, it really is ‘made for kids’ despite the high PEGI rating and adult-age fan base. My son said he and his friends only found out about Fortnite because DanTDM the famous kids Minecraft YouTuber progress onto it and became obsessed with it. Don’t underestimate the influence of kids youtubers Hmm

Yup, your son can play as a latex clad busty, booty, weaponised avatar woman, but it’s all harmless stuff. He knows the difference between fantasy game worlds and real life.
It’s not the content, it’s the fast pace, colours, competitiveness and requirement to constantly progress within the game else you lose out, that keeps kids brains addicted.

He’ll likely go onto other video games as he gets older, or may find something else. I think I quoted elsewhere that the gaming industry is now worth more than the music and film industry combined. It was on the news a few weeks ago. It’s worth billions the news said.

My kids still do craft, art, clay modelling, reading books, (occasionally...) play outdoors, mainly because they don’t live near any of their friends mind you. But I see the mood changes and addiction when they play video games, and just have to work with that to moderate it.

I still remember hiding under my quilt with a green glowing Star Wars light sabre in 1977, using the light to read a book with Grin . Times and technology have changed, just have to work with it I suppose.

MummyHumper · 08/01/2020 20:23

Oi sexy I want to you let me play fortnite woman

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