Do I tell mum of toddler that I brought DD to A&E after her DD pushed mine over (accidentally)

[Rainatnight]

I'm friendly with another mum whom I always see at the playground, playgroup, etc. Our DDs are more or less the same age (below 2).

We bumped into them at a local attraction yesterday. Her DD gave mine a very enthusiastic hug, which toppled my DD backwards, smacking her head against a tiled floor.

I'm usually pretty relaxed about bumps to the head, but DD really wasn't right afterwards. She was drowsy, listless, clingy, crying, for about two hours solid. So I took her to A&E, worried she had concussion.

They kept her in for a few hours for observation and then said she was fine (but that I'd done the right thing by bringing her in).

So, that was my night last night. DD and are are going to playgroup this morning where we'll almost definitely bump into (I hope not literally this time ) the other mum and her DD.

Question is - do I say anything? She's extremely nice and I'm not annoyed, it was just an accident. At the same time, it would be quite hard to lie about how my evening was!

Thoughts!

Don't mention it unless it comes up, and well done for not seeking to apportion blame in an accident like so many other people on this page do. a tip of the hat to you. Hope your daughter is totally fine now and that you have a lovely day.

I think if you truly thought no one to blame, you wouldn't be posting this thread. It was either you told her that you ended up in A&E without thinking , or just forget about it. Starting a thread about it makes me think that you do have a grudge although you know there really isn't no one to blame. How you handle this is totally up to you.

No don't mention it. With the exception of if she asks how dds head is or what did you do yesterday evening. Then mention it but play it down and keep it light. As in, 'she actually was acting a little strange and was quite drowsy so we took her in just to sure. But all was fine so needed have bothered! Kids, Ey!'

The thing is duckegg that unless the op is certain that no one saw her at a and e/ she tells no one at all ever then the friend will find out from someone else. Then it will look bloody odd that she didn't tell her. It isn't a big deal, it's the sort of thing that mums usually tell each other about if they are friends.

I wouldn't say anything to her. All it's likely to do is make her feel bad for something that isn't her fault and it might even make things awkward between you. It doesn't sound like you want that.

In the unlikely event that she does find out from another source, I don’t think she would be angry with you for “lying”. I think she would assume you hadn’t told her because you didn’t want her to feel bad and be grateful to you for being considerate of her feelings

In the circumstances you describe? No.

If the child had pushed your DD or hit her on the head with something, that would be different.

In order for this to happen then the 6 year old and 13 year old would need to be way off the growth charts in opposite directions - and these are genetic siblings? if the 6 year old is nearly 7 and the 13 year old only just turned 13 it's still a bit of a stretch but feasable that they could both be the size of a 10 year old, but for that to happen with siblings, you'd have to think that there was some disorder going on.

My son 5 is taller and heavier than his 8 year old brother and also his 10 yr old cousin almost 11(though she is very small for age)

I took that to mean that Large Boy was bigger than Titchy Boy's older brother.

Mind you, my 9 year old was (briefly) shorter than his 5 year old sister, so who knows?

Why on earth would you mention it? If she asks how your evening was, say something neutral. You don’t have to lie, but you don’t have to share all either.

Could be ATail which would make more sense. :)

My boys are/were both tall (at the very top of the charts but not over the top) But they only ever needed clothes about 2 years above their actual age i.e at age 7, they would wear age 9/10 rather than 7/8. It always makes me wonder when people routinely state that their 5 year old needs age 11/12 etc I'm well aware that there are DC who are totally off the scale, but there seems to be more than the national average here sometimes. My two are now 6'3 and 6'2 and might go another inch maybe but that's still just tall but normal i think.

No, why would you? To guilt trip the mum and make the little one wary of giving hugs?

No they are babies, what do you expect the mum to do? If was an accident! It's not like the mum can say to the baby to be more careful next time, they don't understand at that age!
If it comes up mention it but don't make it sound like it was her child's fault, it cant of been that bad if you are out and about today. I would just say you got her checked out because she landed at a funny angle and she seemed off. I can't see how it's going to come up though. It sounds like you want to tell her that her kid put yours in a&e.

DH aged 10 was over 6 foot, so presumably he passed the average 13-yr-old height some years previously. Someone has to be at the extremes of these things.

Anyhow. Hope your little one is OK, OP.