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Do I tell mum of toddler that I brought DD to A&E after her DD pushed mine over (accidentally)

67 replies

Rainatnight · 16/03/2018 08:19

I'm friendly with another mum whom I always see at the playground, playgroup, etc. Our DDs are more or less the same age (below 2).

We bumped into them at a local attraction yesterday. Her DD gave mine a very enthusiastic hug, which toppled my DD backwards, smacking her head against a tiled floor.

I'm usually pretty relaxed about bumps to the head, but DD really wasn't right afterwards. She was drowsy, listless, clingy, crying, for about two hours solid. So I took her to A&E, worried she had concussion.

They kept her in for a few hours for observation and then said she was fine (but that I'd done the right thing by bringing her in).

So, that was my night last night. DD and are are going to playgroup this morning where we'll almost definitely bump into (I hope not literally this time Grin) the other mum and her DD.

Question is - do I say anything? She's extremely nice and I'm not annoyed, it was just an accident. At the same time, it would be quite hard to lie about how my evening was!

Thoughts!

OP posts:
Whatisthewhatisthewhat · 16/03/2018 08:21

I wouldn’t...what’s the point?

Babyplaymat · 16/03/2018 08:21

It was a hug, not a push. What would be gained?

OneForTheRoadThen · 16/03/2018 08:22

Um no

RedHelenB · 16/03/2018 08:22

Why would you say anything?

AuntLydia · 16/03/2018 08:23

Oh god no. Don't tell her! It would just make her feel shit and she can't do anything about it now anyway. It was a total accident. Sounds like your dd has recovered well too if you're off to Playgroup this morning!

user1493413286 · 16/03/2018 08:23

I wouldn’t; she’ll feel awful and it was an accident. I’d just change the subject if she asks much about your evening but is she really likely to specifically ask what you did last night.

Nightwatcher · 16/03/2018 08:23

no, don't mention it.
why would you have to lie about your evening? is she going to ask how your evening went??

Knitjob · 16/03/2018 08:24

If she asks 'what did you do yesterday evening?' you'd have to lie if you didn't want to say.
If it came up in conversation I would tell her but I wouldn't bring it up myself.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 16/03/2018 08:25

She may ask how your dd is, if it was a bad knock. If she does, tell her?

LaContessaDiPlump · 16/03/2018 08:25

I'd mention it if asked! Say that after DD fell down yesterday, she went odd and turned out to have concussion. Don't say 'after your DD pushed her' obvs!

Alexkate2468 · 16/03/2018 08:25

What everyone else said. No point.

EllieFitz · 16/03/2018 08:29

Why would you tell her?

Urubu · 16/03/2018 08:31

Tell her if she asks about your evening, don't tell her out of the blue.

Nocabbageinmyeye · 16/03/2018 08:33

No definitely don't, it was a hug from someone under 2, don't mention it. I don't see how it will be hard to lie about your evening either, I doubt anyone at group will specifically say "how was your evening" but if they do just say fine, it's not a lie as things did turn out fine

ineedamoreadultieradult · 16/03/2018 08:34

No. What would it achieve?

Laiste · 16/03/2018 08:36

A&E said she was fine. You did the right thing to be on the safe side of course but she probably had a headache.

If the mum asks how your evening was just say DD was a bit off colour after she bumped her head yesterday and you took her to A&E but she's ok.

She'll probably say oh god sorry x knocked her over. Glad she's ok.

KitKat1985 · 16/03/2018 08:36

I wouldn't. Her dd was being over-enthusiastic it sounds rather than aggressive. If you tell the mum she's probably feel upset and awkward and what would it gain?

WhoUpsetTheEquilibrium · 16/03/2018 08:38

Really, really, not.

OrangeHorse · 16/03/2018 08:41

I wouldn't say anything, just avoid the topic or make something general up. You're just going to make her feel terrible

WaxOnFeckOff · 16/03/2018 08:43

I wouldn't lie if it comes up but I wouldn't make a point of deliberately saying either. Pretty much what Laiste said. If she asks just keep it casual.

Fekko · 16/03/2018 08:45

I wouldnt - but I'm sure your dd will talk to her friend about it.

buttercup54321 · 16/03/2018 08:48

uh no. I really wouldn't.

theeyeofthestormchaser · 16/03/2018 08:48

I wouldnt - but I'm sure your dd will talk to her friend about it.

She's under 2 - she may not be verbal enough to...

How did your friend react when her dd pushed over yours yesterday? I wouldnt say anything today unless asked: 'how is your dd after bumping her head yesterday?'

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 16/03/2018 08:49

I wouldn't mention it. If I were in her position and you made a point of telling me you had gone to A&E (even if you said "I'm not angry or anything") I would nod, smile, and make a mental not to keep my child at a safe distance from yours to avoid any unnecessary incidents or drama.

I'm not saying it was wrong to go to A&E, just that telling her achieves nothing.

AnElderlyLadyOfMediumHeight · 16/03/2018 08:49

For goodness' sake! No!

Imagine if you were the other mum in this situation. Would you want another mum coming to you saying 'Btw, your daughter put mine in A&E last night'? - because that'll be how she hears it.

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