To not want to be called 'Mumma Bear?'

[GettingStuffDoneInSlippers]

It's a constant thing on my breastfeeding support group.

I see it constantly, "Don't worry, I think you've got this, mama!"

Or

"You are such a strong Mumma bear"

I cringe every time.

Surely I can't be alone in my dislike?

Someone even called me a fierce Mumma bear to my face in a group circle for mums last week

" Nothing medical about it, just because we both fancied a chance to be weird. "
[grin[ this forum always amuses me...

Some dreadful woman came to my house and demanded to inspect my snatch but I told her to do one...

I was v keen for someone to inspect my (rather battered) snatch after the Longest Labour Of All Time and reassure me that all was well!

YANBU, unless you're one of the characters from little bear but even they had the decency to say mother bear, not 'mumma'

I think it would bring out the killer bear in me to be called a Mumma Bear. What's wrong with using people's names, FFS?

See also Hun. I have to sit on my hands on FB to stop myself from responding every time "DON'T CALL ME HUN. I AM NOT HUN. NEVER NEVER NEVER CALL ME HUN IF YOU VALUE YOUR LIFE."

Total gads!
I also why is it just bear? I'd love to meet strong rhino mum, or a fierce crocodile mum. what sort of mum would a Giraffe be? I think elephants are brilliant mums but nobody is going to self identify or identify others as elephants....can you imagine?
I aspire to be a mamma dog or mamma bitch my dog is such a brilliant mum all she did was wallow about getting fat and lactating....sorry I've gone off topic....

I hate all this sickly stuff that people use when referring to motherhood. It's like when people refer to themselves as a "full time mummy". Eurgh. Or when women refer to their stretch marks as "tiger stripes".It all just makes me feel queasy. And for the record, I have stretch marks and they're from stretched skin rather than my "fierce mama" instincts. And I have been both a working parent and a SAHP...and both times I was a full time parent.

@GnotherGnu

Calm down hun.

"tiger stripes" Going to have to hide this thread now, just threw up a bit in my mouth.

Tell you something that used to piss me off. I worked in a fast food place some years ago, (in the office) and one of the young-ish crew members (about 18,) used to call me 'mom.' I tried to ignore it, but she kept on 'hi mom,' and 'mom's here,' and so on.

And I was only 33-34 too, barely old enough to be her chuffing mom anyway!

In the end, I had to take her aside, and say 'I hope you don't mind me saying, but I really only want my 2 kids to call me mom. No offence sorry....' 'Oh all right,' she said smiling, 'I will just call you auntie instead.'

FFS, just call me Pippa. That is my fucking name!

I put up with 'morning AUNTIE' for another 6 months until she left!

Ew. I cannot stand all of this twee-ness when it comes to being a parent. I've never heard 'mummabear' (why a bear?), but I instantly hate it. Other hates are: mama, bubs, hubby (aaarggh!), lil' man, princess, hun.

I feel better now I've got that off my chest.

I don't actually mind hun and hubby ... but I do hate 'lil man' and 'princess' and 'little soldier' when people are referring to their kids. ARGH!

Do you mean you let someone look at your private parts in your own house?
How utterly bizarre.

@DullandOld I had a case loading midwife for my pregnancy with DC1. All of my antenatal appointments, assessment of early labour, and postnatal checks happened in my house. 'Twas absolutely brilliant.

Bear is a standard term in male gay dating to describe a hairy, large bloke.

MayFayner

Next time they say it tell them you're off for a shit in the woods.
Because that's what bears do.

This is the reason I avoided all baby groups
You don't need them, wait until dc are a bit older and can enjoy the group for themselves.

Jessie - my gay friend was telling me about the other animals in that field. I cried with laughter when he said he was an otter (small, slim, bald but hairy)

*Ew. I cannot stand all of this twee-ness when it comes to being a parent. I've never heard 'mummabear' (why a bear?), but I instantly hate it. Other hates are: mama, bubs, hubby (aaarggh!), lil' man, princess, hun.

I feel better now I've got that off my chest.*

I absolutely agree. But I do like to call my cats little man, whilst maintaining the paradox of think anyone who calls their child that is to be avoided.

Also special piece of venom for saying children have 'little legs' (usually to excuse the child walking further than to the car). Of course their legs are fucking little, they're all fucking little.

crusty , they do self identify as animals other than bear, in my experience. I have a friend who is a "tiger mumma".

I made the mistake of, during small talk, asking if she was considering using a birthing pool at all for her impending birth... To be told "oh no! I'm much more of a tiger mumma. I need to pace, and feel free in my territory"...

Given this was her first child, I don't know how she knew in advance that her inner tiger needed to pace. I didn't dare ask afterwards if the pacing and territory marking all went to plan.

In the same vein as Mumma bears and tiger mamas and inspired by a thread on here yesterday on which people expressed their hatred of the term "baby wearing" can baby wearers become "Kangaroo Mamas?"

Oh I forgot about chuffin' tiger moms, I think I met a lioness actually...boak!
Maybe I'll be an otter mum I'm small and hairy

I hate tiger mummy as well. as though it gives us permission to punch anyone who dares speak to my child....

"Yaasss Queen!!!' Is the one that gets me

Mumma, mummabear, bubba, hun - all fucking awful. And why would you want a jumper with muma or some such other shite emblazoned across it? Awful

Isn't that exactly what you'd expect from a 'group circle' though ?