To not want to be called 'Mumma Bear?'

[GettingStuffDoneInSlippers]

It's a constant thing on my breastfeeding support group.

I see it constantly, "Don't worry, I think you've got this, mama!"

Or

"You are such a strong Mumma bear"

I cringe every time.

Surely I can't be alone in my dislike?

Someone even called me a fierce Mumma bear to my face in a group circle for mums last week

I reckon if you look you'll find them all on Netmums saying " 'WWYD hun because a Mumma at our baby group looked all cross and gwumpy when I called her Mumma Bear'!?' by Mumma to two little princess unicorn rainbow bears aged 2 years, 11 days and three hours and 10 seconds"'.

Sadly very little you can do IRL when you meet the saccharine hun brigade (except run...). I'm sure it isn't meant with any malice, it is just the kind of shit that comes out of your mouth when your head is full of glitter, rainbows and unicorns I reckon.

Lil man, urgh... just grim.

It implies a large lumbering thing with a sore head

Which is quite fitting for mums of babies and young children actually!

That is proper cringe. The one I despise is 'girlfriend'. For some reason one friend gets called 'girlfriend' on FB more than anybody I know.

'You ok girlfriend?' 'You go girlfriend!'

(Vomit not envy)

God no, it's awful.

As an aside the bear thing makes me cringe anyway - I once went on a couple of dates with a total weirdo once who insisted that he was "a bear" and "bears" did certain things sometimes (whilst he never did them to me, it basically sounded like an excuse to be abusive and sexually abusive; between that and his asking me for a £4,000 loan after the second date, I blocked his number. He then tried to add me on Facebook a year or so later; a two second glance at it showed a blog from his ex talking about what he meant by being a bear - that was enough to block the twit for good).

Makes me cringe just reading it. We are not American, we are English, for goodness sake

I am cringing as I am reading this. The most awful thing.
Things like this used to put me off any Mum-related groups, especially the breastfeeding and whatever else ones.
If there's anything I hate it's that need of some kind of a ritual, a tribal belonging with totems and idols. Really really off-putting.

What the hell did he mean by being a bear carryondoctor?

I remember my midwife calling in to see my pfb when she was a few days old and my parents were visiting.

Midwife takes me to the bedroom for a quick once over, then returns her attention to my baby that she extracted from my mother’s arms.

Upon finishing the examination of baby she hands my dd to me with a cheery “let’s hand you back to mum shall we little one”. And I looked flummoxed because she handed the baby over to me and I thought she was handing her over to my mum! I can only put this down to a combination of baby brain and lack of sleep.

— completely misses point of thread —

This is so cringe, I know someone who calls herself Mumma Bear and called her son Ted so she can be her ....

Yes, you guessed it!

• he can be

" Midwife takes me to the bedroom for a quick once over, "

Do you mean you let someone look at your private parts in your own house?
How utterly bizarre.

I hated it too. Along with vapid statements on FB like "Another child at soft play (or wherever) bit my child/savaged his arm/pulled his hair out/[insert other horrific child-inflicted event here] and it really brought out the Mamma Bear in me!!!!" OMG. No. Assuming you actually did something, it brought out the PERFECTLY NORMAL ORDINARY MOTHER in you. You are not some special primal sort of super"momma" because you stopped a child pinching your child.

My childhood friends and I had a baby shower for one of us, and we all agreed that there's a great market for no fluffy-wuffy bullshit mother groups. No your-body-is-natures-temple, no mama-bear, no cloying sentimentalism.

Child talk is for using with children, and I think the Sweary Mum's Club complaining about bastard bladder control would have women coming in droves.

sexnotgender - basically an excuse to be demanding and physically strong and to take what he wanted, is how I read it.

You can see why I blocked him!!!

Do you mean you let someone look at your private parts in your own house?

Better than out on the street, I always say.

(But yes - that's what midwives/health visitors do on the first home visit or two, right? I hadn't even noticed the bruising I had until my lovely health visitor pointed it out to me.)

• sorry, how I read him!

@dullandold, just a press of my tummy by then if I remember correctly. It was a long time ago now. Really my point was I still only saw one mum in the room and that was my mum. Not entirely relevant to the op.

Weird. Sounds like a phrase coined from over the pond.....that should have stayed there!!

Apologies for my countrymen. They know not what they do.

I also hate this crap. In my experience, it's the self important, upper middle class SAHM's that have made their child the center of the universe that talk like this. It's supposed to be a compliment apparently.

Disclaimer: I'm not dissing SAHM's in general, just a certain type of SAHM.

" Better than out on the street, I always say."

true

Some dreadful woman came to my house and demanded to inspect my snatch but I told her to do one...:)

(totally off topic)

I can see exactly why you blocked him, sounds like a total creep.

YANBU, can't stand it myself.

Hey dullandold

The midwife looked at my arse in my bedroom the day after I had DC2.

Nothing medical about it, just because we both fancied a chance to be weird. Not really. There was something medical about it.

My (grown up) DC have started calling me Mamabear, particularly on cards, presents, text etc rather than in conversation, and I hate it. I'm just Mum but I don't want to hurt their feelings. Not sure what to do - put up with it I suppose!

God mumma bear is awful! Just call you by your first name FFS!