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To let DD have a day off

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doubtingmyself18 · 13/03/2018 10:34

Have recently moved house (back home after having to move to a new area) me and DH are both SO busy with work, new jobs, obviously wanting to make good impressions.
DD 10 made a passing comment this morning about me and dad being so busy and always at work. I'm off tomorrow WIBU to let her have the day off school to spend some quality time with her? My heart broke when she said it because she's such a good kid and never causes us any hassle 😔 unlike her older sibling (my DSC) who is a fucking nightmare and always causing drama which she obviously notices 😩

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Snowmagedon · 13/03/2018 10:35

Yes I would. She will remember this, be great for her self esteem etc.

Deshasafraisy · 13/03/2018 10:37

I would keep her off and plan a lovely day for you both. You only get one life.

ThymeLord · 13/03/2018 10:40

I would, wouldn't give it a second thought tbh.

RedPandaMama · 13/03/2018 10:40

Things like this are SO important.

You sound like a great parent. Keep her off and do something fun even if it's just a pyjama day or baking together. My parents were always very strict but there was one day where I said to my dad the night before 'I never see you' - he worked 7-7 and I went to bed shortly after while I was little. He said he felt awful so told me to tell the teacher I felt sick when my mum took me into school the next morning. He came and collected me then took me to the park and we had chocolate for lunch. I was only about 6 but I still remember it.

parkermoppy · 13/03/2018 10:59

100% do it.

It's just a day but its spontaneous and lovely and she won't forget it!

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Idontdowindows · 13/03/2018 11:04

I would give her a day off school and spend some quality time together. :)

PurplePirate · 13/03/2018 11:06

What's wrong with having a really good day with her at the weekends?

Mishappening · 13/03/2018 11:08

Sounds like a lovely idea. The fact that your DD is of school age does not mean you have lost all rights to making decisions about her well-being and happiness.

Have a truly lovely day!

AjasLipstick · 13/03/2018 11:22

Pirate I assume because of the step sibling OP mentioned...who she says is a nightmare. OP probably wants some time alone with her DD.

MissP103 · 13/03/2018 11:25

Yanbu, sounds like she really needs it. Do something special with her and it would mean the world.

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doubtingmyself18 · 13/03/2018 11:27

Aside from the nightmare sibling I work in the catering industry - my weekends are rarely mine

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Sirzy · 13/03/2018 11:28

I would make time at the weekend. I assume she has also just started at a new school if you have moved area so time off possibly not a good idea and even so I don’t think it is a good idea.

bridgetreilly · 13/03/2018 11:29

I would plan some time to do nice things in the Easter holidays rather than take her off school tomorrow.

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doubtingmyself18 · 13/03/2018 11:29

@meme70 I'm not sure what you're insinuating but my DD is not neglected she's just feeling it a little recently that mum and dad have new jobs and working a lot of hours. She certainly isn't fucking depressed she's just a really good kid who thankfully behaves nothing like her sibling. Thanks for the attempted guilt bomb tho!!

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FranticallyPeaceful · 13/03/2018 11:31

Absolutely. I’d be tempted to give her a couple tbh

yorkshireyummymummy · 13/03/2018 11:32

Do it. 100% do it.
You will never ever regret doing it for the joy and memories it will bring your DD.
But you might regret not doing it.
Think of the look on her face when you tell her she’s having the day off with you!!
I hope you have a gorgeous day together and hope that your dd will remember it always.

yorkshireyummymummy · 13/03/2018 11:33

Ignore meme70.
I can barely understand what she is trying to say anyway but I get the gist, and she should stop with the snarky comments.

Oly5 · 13/03/2018 11:37

I’d do it, but stress to her that it’s a one-off. Let her choose the treat - pyjama day etc. She will remember it forever

MichaelBendfaster · 13/03/2018 11:38

TBH I wouldn't take her out of school. I know this is it taken to its most extreme conclusion, but this situation could end up with her commenting on your busyness every time she felt you were working a lot and you agonising over your parenting/taking her out every time.

Mummyoflittledragon · 13/03/2018 11:40

yorkshiremummy
I think meme70 is perhaps not writing in her native language. Your post sounds very judgy.

I also agree with the consensus to let your dd have the day off.

Pastaagain78 · 13/03/2018 11:51

I would. She will remember it forever.

MadisonAvenue · 13/03/2018 11:52

Do it! Have a lovely day with her, she'll always remember you doing this.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 13/03/2018 11:53

What about the "nightmare" older sibling? Won't she think it's unfair?
I don't think it's helpful to compare the two children and label one good and one bad, or to show your favouritism. Sorry Sad

WeirdCatLady · 13/03/2018 11:54

Definitely have a nice day together, I’m sure she will appreciate it.

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