To let DD have a day off

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Have recently moved house (back home after having to move to a new area) me and DH are both SO busy with work, new jobs, obviously wanting to make good impressions.
DD 10 made a passing comment this morning about me and dad being so busy and always at work. I'm off tomorrow WIBU to let her have the day off school to spend some quality time with her? My heart broke when she said it because she's such a good kid and never causes us any hassle 😔 unlike her older sibling (my DSC) who is a fucking nightmare and always causing drama which she obviously notices 😩

Absolutley do it- have a duvet day watching films and do some baking or something. It'll make her feel important and special, she'll never forget it either. One day off school at age 10 is hardly going to ruin her education either, just make sure to stress it's a one off

Enjoy your day together. She will be refreshed for next day at school. Her missing you and her dad may well be more of a negative force on her school situation than a 'naughty' day off.
And as for those folks bringing up 'lying' ...good grief you sanctimonious, dreary bunch. A little bending of truth to achieve a positive result will hurt nobody.

It's sweet that you want to treat her to make up for being so busy, but I'm not sure taking her out of school even for just one day is the best way to do it. As a PP said, you'd be setting a precedent which might come back to bite you later on when she wants some attention from you. Can you plan a regular 'date night' with her going forward, that works around both school and your job? Even just a couple of hours every few weeks would give her something to look forward to.

I don’t that think that you should do it but if you do then please tell the school the truth. Don’t set her the example of lying.

Kes53 - I don’t think it is sanctimonious to consider this in regards to this situation. How do you explain to a child that you should never lie to a teacher (or anyone else) except for just this once? My concern is explaining this situation to the child in a way that does not cause any confusion. As I said, I would also do the same but as the mother of a 2YO wouldn’t know how to proceed with the school. I’m assuming just telling the school you’re having a duvet day doesn’t cut it, but what do I know?