Hang on a moment coffee - you & your DH both have colds at the moment: did you not think it most likely your DS just had the same thing? Had you made sure that he'd had plenty of fluids & wasn't wrapped up too warmly? How long did you give the calpol & the calprofen to work? I know calpol says it starts working in 15 minutes, but you don't generally see a noticeable reduction in fever for around 30 minutes, sometimes more. The same is true of Calprofen. Even the OOH doctors who call back from 111 exercise extreme caution - there's a reason the service 111 replaced was known colloquially as NHS redirect: the one time what sounds like a cold is actually meningitis is the end of your reputation & perhaps your career, to say nothing of the potential outcomes for the person who is unwell. Small children can decompensate ridiculously quickly, too, so medics will be even more risk averse with them; & there is a certain level of trusting that a parent will have a reason to feel/be seriously concerned, even if they can't necessarily articulate it.
For the future, the NHS advice on when there is a clinical need to seek emergency treatment for children with fevers is:
• babies under 3 months with a temperature of 38C or higher
• babies 3-6 months with a temperature of 39C or higher
• your child develops a red rash that doesn't fade when a glass is rolled over it
• your child has a seizure (febrile convulsion)
• they're crying constantly and you can't console or distract them, or the cry doesn't sound like their normal cry (a high-pitched or unusual sound when crying)
• the fever lasts for more than 5 days
• your child's health is getting worse
• you think your child may be dehydrated (symptoms include: feeling thirsty; dark yellow and strong smelling pee; feeling dizzy or lightheaded; feeling tired; dry mouth, lips and eyes; & peeing little and less than 4 times a day)
Poor A&E experiences are things like the times when paramedics/triage nurse ignore important information. So in the first instance you're left writhing in pain in a packed waiting room until you have an epileptic seizure; & in the second, you somehow manage to walk to the minor injuries Unit with one hip almost fully dislocated, the other grinding out of place, your spine feeling like it's being levered apart & altered sensation in both legs. But in the former case I was then moved to recus (& a few hours later had my appendix removed & the mess from a burst ovarian cyst cleared up); & in the latter I was moved to majors & received appropriate treatment. In neither case, once I was in the right place, did I mind it taking time for decisions to made or me to receive treatment or test results to come back. The A&E experience where a registrar used something I'm allergic to was less stellar, mind you... I have complex health needs so unfortunately have to access A&E, while not regularly, more than the norm. It being quiet while you were there, coffee, means that the team had a chance to catch up on the paperwork from when it will have been busy earlier on. Just after school seems to be a rush time for paeds A&Es, as all the bumped heads & twisted ankles & sore wrists come in. As PPs have already explained, they'll likely have been covering other areas; they've to wait for test results; & they'll be monitoring over set periods of time. It's a constant juggling act - & as PPs have also noted, often junior doctors don't have that much autonomy. As for expecting them to ignore your DS' heart rate on your say-so... they can't afford to assume that tachycardia is irrelevant even if it is reported as normal for a patient - I've had about a billion ECGs done on the basis of tachycardia, despite my confirming it's normal for me. (Though Magical New Medication should mean that's a thing of the past, which is all very exciting....)
paranormal & random I'm so sorry for both of your losses
I was at a seminar on Thursday where one of the speakers talked about the fact as soon as she learns that anyone in her Trust is pregnant she starts working on reorganising things to try & protect them & prevent miscarriage caused by work. Apparently quite often people try to insist they don't want/need any kind of special treatment (understandable, especially with the issues around women's career progression being held back by having families) & she will overrule them because she's seen too many miscarriages result from careers in medicine & won't be part of a culture that contributes to causing them. The other speaker at the seminar is in her early seventies (I think, she's my third cousin, and she's certainly the youthful-looking genes) & said she had all of about 2 weeks off after having her children (who are in their thirties) - she didn't dare take any longer. It's awful things don't seem to have moved on that far. (Frankly I suspect Carol Black only retracted her statement about medicine basically being ruined by the number of women entering the field because she got the job as Principal of Newnham College. Very glad I left [just] before she arrived...)
There are so many amazing medics who've cared for me at points where I've been anywhere from A Wee Bit Poorly to Deaperately Unwell; & I've also friends & family who're doctors of various sorts, so the whinging about them does tend to make me Ragey. Feck knows I've had some genuinely crap care in my time (though that's mostly to do with one location with a v toxic nursing set-up where bullying patients was not just accepted but actively encouraged) but what matters much more than the buckeejit who stuffed up my gastro care was the amazing care I finally received (& he provided much unintentional hilarity, too: still
waiting for his groundbreaking research on how the gut can be damaged by the diet of others via the process of osmosis
). Most people who complain seem to be talking about not getting what they wanted when they wanted it though. Or things that are the inevitable result of underfunding &/or understaffing, but they blame the staff who're frantically trying to make up for those things. And I suspect I may have stopped making sense a while ago, because migraine. And as I can no longer see & need all the sleep, I'm shutting up...