Friend bought the same dress for wedding

[felicitous]

My friend from university is getting married this summer, I bought my dress about a month ago now (very organised for me! haha) and sent pics to a couple of friends.

One of them has now gone and bought exactly the same dress as me for the wedding. It's definitely noticeable that it's the same dress and she was a close friend from uni too, so it's likely that we will be sat together and spend a lot of the evening talking to each other etc.

AIBU to be a bit pissed that she's bought this dress? I sent her a pic of it recently saying I was wearing it for the wedding and she goes and buys an identical one.

What should I do? I do really like the dress and it's now too late for me to return it. I'd never outright tell her she can't wear the dress she bought, but I don't want to be sat right next to her in matching dresses. Maybe I'm petty but I think we'd look ridiculous - like fake bridesmaids!

I can't imagine she's done it on purpose. Unless she's generally a weird person, no one wants to be sitting with someone else in the same dress.

So either she got it first or she's not realised. She could have seen the dress and liked it and not realise it was because she saw you in it.

I'd text her and say, shit that's the same as my dress, remember I sent you thr photo, and see what she says. You have to say something.

Why not just text with - "That's the same dress as mine for the wedding!! I sent you you the pic, remember?!?!"

But maybe I'm just more up front with my friends.

Mention it in a way that she thinks you think she forgot. I doubt she did. It would look weird and I'd be annoyed about it. She should take hers back.

Just reply and say ‘why have you bought the same dress as me?’

It’s a legitimate question!

It's probably a mistake. I can't say I'd remember a dress from a picture a friend sent me.
Just reply and tell her it's the same dress you bought a month ago and sent the photo to everyone.

Yes to...Why have you bought the same dress as me?

It’s a legitimate question!

It's not really. "Do you realise we have the same dress for the wedding?" is a legitimate question.
"Why have you" is antagonistic and unnecessary.

Perhaps she just didn't pay much attn to the picture. Just accessorize it snd think no more of it. All eyes should be on the bride anyway.

If she bought hers recently could say that you’d already bought that dress and really don’t want to wear the same thing as her. If that’s what she’s going to wear, could you have her receipt so you can find something different.

Hopefully she’ll feel awkward about it and offer to change!

As others have said, I'd just send a msg back saying "did you realise that's the same dress as the one I've got? Remember the pic I sent last month"

Is she having you on? If not she must have forgotten.

I would just reply with 'that's the same as mine!'

she might not even have looked at it, if its in a group chat on whatsapp or messenger or whatever.

As long as you look better in it, no problems 😉

I would reply with a

'WTF! you bought the same dress as me? - why on Earth!!'

And add the bride will go apeshit.

And then call the bride.

Yeah I'd be texting FFS that's my dress weirdo

This really doesn't need to be a big problem. Send her a light-hearted message about it, and wear your dress anyway.

And don't share pictures of your accessories!!

Why would the bride care, Shifty?

Another one saying we need to see the dress OP.

That way I can see the pattern and judge whether or not it is memorable enough that your friend would be remembered. That or I'm just nosey as hell.

I’d say you don know that’s the same dress I sent you a pic of that I bought? Play it safe and act like you presume she’s forgotten.

Friend would've not would be!

Just message her. Tell her that you hoped she kept the tags on it since that's the dress you bought and showed her x number of days/weeks ago ... and she clearly forgot!

I like Shouldhaveknownbetter's suggestion of replying 'great - we can be wedding twins!!'

But only if you know you'll look better.

OP if you sent her a link to the dress, it's possible that it's done that annoying Cookie thing and her browser is still serving her adverts for it. She might not remember how she found it in the first place, so you really should tell her!

If she did it knowingly then she's very weird.

Can't imagine why the bride would care.