Did she regift my present?

[WishfulThinking18]

This is a bit of an odd one.

It’s my birthday and I’ve just had lunch with my DM and DSis.

DSis gave me a gift which was lovely of her (I wasn’t expecting anything) but when I opened it, it was exactly the same gift I had given her at Xmas.

I must have looked surprised because she quickly said “please don’t think I’ve given you what you gave me. It’s just that I liked it so much that I thought you’d like one yourself”.

FWIW I’m not really fussed if she had recycled my gift to her back to me but AIBU to think it’s a bit odd?

We often buy presents for others that we’d like ourselves. So, her reasoning sounds pretty logical.

However, if the body set is the exact same scent, then I don’t know how it could be anything except a regift. If she wanted to get you the same thing she would at least have picked a different scent, would she not? There are many different scents of that body set, right?

Has she been passive aggressive toward you before this? Is there background on this....

I guess it’s possible she forgot you gave it to her before, but I truly doubt it. None of us get so many gifts that we forget in a few months who gave them.

oops she has made a mistake. I regift lots of bath stuff as I can't use it ( skin issues) so might well be a genuine error.

As the song says....let it go...

I often re-gift
i have a box of stuff upstairs specifically for the purpose. Full of generic gifts bought for me or the kids. funnily enough nothing much "regiftable" from dh.

I'd honestly rather people didn't buy me a present - especially not the toiletry type... just buy a nice bottle of wine !

i whole heartedly echo the sentiment of a PP
gentle hint to stop exchanging expensive, overpriced useless crap of the type bought only by women

and i love martin lewis's take on it
"the best gift you can give someone is to relieve them of the pressure of having to buy you a gift"

Two years ago I had a Christmas gift off a neighbour that still had the label put on by the person who gave it to her. It made me laugh, and stop worrying about what I gave her.

I love the idea of it being eternally passed between the two of you - but my guess is that she forgot you gave it to her, and is now feeling mortified. I'd go with the "be kind" brigade.

Yes, definite regift.

knitted 😂

Just accept this time around with a smile. But in the future ' mark ' an item in a small way so that you can check if it happens again.

“Has she been passive aggressive toward you before this? Is there background on this....”

How on earth is it passive agressive to make yourself look like a deeply inefficient tight person?

Beat this: I have an old friend that I grew up with and I stayed with her at her grandma's so often that one year I gave the grandma some fancily packaged soaps as a present - this must have been 2002-ish. Last year her grandma was ill and moved permanently to a nursing home, and they cleared her old house and sold it.

Imagine my face when I unwrap a present from my friend this Christmas, and come face-to-face with MY SOAPS after a 16-year holiday in her grandma's house. It's so ridiculous that I was more amused than pissed off. (although I'm regretting my cheap taste in gifts because I'm halfway through the first bar and it is shite - does soap go off?)

"it's so lovely wtf where you thinking giving me this piece of shit that I thought I'd get one just like it for you taste of your own medicine ".

Its passive aggressive in that the recipient would have to pretend to be delighted to receive such a shitty lovely present because not doing so would be freely admitting the crappy gift it is.

revenge best served cold and all that

My birthday is early January & I always get regifted beauty sets from friends. Or even better, the bits of different brands they didn't want out of them lumped together in a gift bag
I'd rather have nothing it smacks of thoughtlessness

Is it a properly Christmas scent like frosted berries, or winter spice or something like that? Or is it something with a more spring/summer like feel to it like summer fig?

Yep I agree that you MUST regift it back!

welltidy i love your detective skills 😂

I'd keep it and give it to her for her next birthday. It could become a family joke.

Well now you know she 'loves it so much' all future Xmas and birthday presents to her will be a breeze!

“I'd keep it and give it to her for her next birthday. It could become a family joke.”

Only if you’re sure the other person would find it funny. Otherwise it looks a bit like bullying......

Or she saw it in the sale after Christmas and bought you a cheap version.

We had a joke registered that went backwards and forwards for years and years (it was a box of chocolates that was originally a regift but it ended up that we just bought the same box every time).

It's still a joke in our family and this must've been from the early 1970s.

Hate regifting it’s cheap, tight, and thoughtless. I wouldn’t go with the ‘be kind’ brigade cause it’s hardly ‘kind’ to not be arsed to buy a proper gift.
My aunty buys presents in January sales and gives them as gifts about 5 years later. She’s loaded
One year my dad got a James Bond aftershave set from three films ago.
Another year my nana returned the handbag she gave her cause it wasn’t to her taste, and they said ‘this model hasn’t been stocked for five years, we can give you 50p as a token gesture’

I actually love gift sets like that for Christmas/birthdays. I never buy myself stuff like that and I absolutely relish having a few new lovely bits to use. I also buy things like that for other people. Maybe I'm a bad gift giver!

@Sniv that is actually impressive !!

acquisce maybe thats why she's loaded 😂

I don’t regift, it’s lazy and unthoughtful

TBF I wouldn't give someone I love a generic set of toiletries for much the same reason! I thought Boots and BodyShop sets were for obligation gifts.