AIBU to wish the preschool would approach smelly parent

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Prepared to be flamed.
Aware there are likely other issues going on with this parent. Aware that I sound like a superior bitch.

But there is a parent at my DS's preschool who absolutely stinks to high heaven. I don't mean a bit of bad breath or a waft if you're right next to her.. I mean overwhelping stench that fills the place and lingers after she's gone. Everybody knows it, everybody can smell it but how on earth can you approach something like this. I know the preschool and none of the parents would say anything to her but my God I wish they would. It would probably be very upsetting for her and I do feel sorry for her and but its massively unpleasant for everybody else.

It isnt the preschools responsibility, I assume the child is clean enough?

Why don'y you be that person and kindly take her to sone side instead of hoping someone else will?

Why should it be the preschool staffs job? Unless there is any indication of harm to the child then saying something is only likely to damage relations which isn’t good.

Personally I would always hope that if that ever happened to me a friend would have the kindness to take me to one side and have a quiet word.

Assuming the child does not smell and has clean clothes then it's not preshools business. Even then there's not really much they can do

Yeah, you really feel for her, I can tell

You're with her, what? 10 minutes a day?

Get a fucking hobby, you've clearly got nothing better to think about.

Perhaps they know something you don't about her - a medical condition etc.

Is the child OK or do they seem neglected?

Pre-school have a duty of care to the child, so they will raise any concerns if there are any to the appropriate authorities.

Is the child usually clean?

Wow you sound lovely.

If it were me, I would want to know. Could you not approach her yourself and say kindly - "Your clothes have a funny smell to them", rather than say that "she" is smelly?

Why is it the preschool's job?

Why is it the other parent's job?

Why not you when you're the one who cares enough to post about it on the www?

Would you consider 'taking them to one side and kindly telling' someone you saw at the bus stop every day? No?

You can't expect the school to say anything! Unless her child is neglected and has dirty clothes etc. Which I'm presuming he/she doesn't as I think you would have said.

She might have some kind of medical problem. I am presuming the child is clean and looked after. If not the preschool will deal with it. Personally I wouldn't say anything about it. It doesn't matter that much and if it's as bad as that then she likely is aware of it anyway. Why make her feel even worse?

OP I’m with you, if its the sort of stentch that lingers🤢 I don’t know who should deal with it though?

There are some medical conditions that make people smell like this
like this.

Slip a nice note into her pocket?

No one!! No one should 'deal with it' !!

What are you lot, the aroma police?!

I work with a woman who wears a vat of Jean Paul gaultier perfume, every... single... Night. Itso grim, if I had to sit next to her for 8 hours, I'd consider saying something, but half hour a day? Not my business.

Point is, you may find it unpleasant for 20 minutes a day, but the world does not have to bend to your oh so sensitive nostrils.

Slip a nice note into her pocket?

How would you word that.....?

I had to sit next to someone at work, who was like this. Everyone was too polite to say anything to them, but it put their immediate colleagues ina working environment that I don't think they should have been.

No you can't say anything and it is not the preschool's responsibility.

I don't understand. Smelly people are allowed out in public and it take five minutes to drop a child off. You'll live.

If i honked id want to know. Yes id be mortified, but id still rather know. However not everyone would thank you.
Although certainly should not be the pre schools place tell her or responsibility to tell her. They have enough worries of their own.

Yeah, also good luck with sneaking a note in a person's pocket?! Unless you're a master pick pocket

It's not the preschools job. There's a stinker at my preschool too, they must dread parents evening with him.