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To want a handwritten card?

53 replies

QueenOfPlagues · 11/03/2018 08:24

Namechanged for this, just 'cause.

Got a mother's day card through the post yesterday and it's from a website with the message printed - I live with my DP and six month old son, and I know DS can't write the card himself anyway but this says to me that DP just couldn't be bothered to walk the ten minutes to town to pick a card out and write in it. Most of the time he will physically go get one but that just makes me feel even worse when I get one from a website because I know it's not "his thing" to get them online - it's just that in this instance and a few others he's thought "I could go to town or I could stay sat here on the sofa and order one online in two minutes".

Or am I just being ungrateful?

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MarthasGinYard · 11/03/2018 08:25

Blimey Confused

Callamia · 11/03/2018 08:28

I think that would suck too. I’m not massively fond of those cards. Looks a bit thoughtless doesnt it?

lollipopjones · 11/03/2018 08:32

At least you got a card. There’s going to be a lot of threads today from women who’s OH’s didn’t get anything from DCs too young to go themselves. The OH’s “argument” being “Well you’re not MY mother!”

araiwa · 11/03/2018 08:32

No doubt this will be the first of many hundreds of similar threads today

WipsGlitter · 11/03/2018 08:35

Blimey. Some people will find anything to moan about!

tortelliniforever · 11/03/2018 08:36

Yes, sorry that is just ungrateful! He might have thought "better to get one through the post rather than just from a shop and hand-delivered".

Uniglo18 · 11/03/2018 08:38

And so it begins.......

rollingonariver · 11/03/2018 08:38

I think you're being ungrateful but only because I don't think that it's less effort. If anything it's more effort to get one from moonpig etc. You can do it on the morning of as most husbands do, clearly he's been thinking about Mother's Day for a while Smile

LucyMorningStar · 11/03/2018 08:38

Omg not only you're being ungrateful, you're also being petty, whiney and so precious! The card isn't good enough? Jeez...

Tiredmum100 · 11/03/2018 08:40

Yanbu. I was going to start my own thread today. Thought I'd come on here to see if anyone else felt like it's already 'disappointment day'. I only wanted a lye in til 8. Been awake since 6.30.

Dancingmonkey87 · 11/03/2018 08:42

This the second thread of someone complaining about Mother’s Day! Get a grip you got a card there’s people on here who’s mothers are no longer here or who have lost children so Mother’s Day is hard day for them.

catkind · 11/03/2018 08:42

Is it a nice card? If DH went online specially rather than just pick up a generic one from the corner shop, it would be to get something he knew I'd like.

cloudyweewee · 11/03/2018 08:43

Would you have been happy with a shop bought card? Surely he should have hand crafted the card himself.

Bunchofdaffodils · 11/03/2018 08:44

You are not BU to WANT a hand written card. But you ARE BU if you let it ruin your day today. Don’t mention it today but just make sure your partner aware, later in the year, how much you prefer hand-written sentiments. It’s easy to unthinkingly make hurtful comments and the other person thinks”oh well I won’t bother in the future “ if you’re not careful!

WopYa · 11/03/2018 08:46

I'm guilty of sending a moon pig card. Doesn't mean I can't be arsed or didn't make an effort.

I still chose the card and personalised it. I still thought of the message. What does my handwriting not being there matter?

You sound like hard work. You know ds hasnt chose it or wrote it anyway so what does it matter??

HisBetterHalf · 11/03/2018 08:46

Is it a personalised one though (with a photo) as to me thats more thoughtful than a shop bought one

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QueenOfPlagues · 11/03/2018 08:52

OK fair enough - this is why I wanted other people's opinions before I said anything to my partner! I was going to do what Bunch suggested but now I'm thinking that I'll just leave it. Thank you for your views, even the ones calling me petty!

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QueenOfPlagues · 11/03/2018 08:53

And no, it wasn't personalised.

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cansu · 11/03/2018 08:53

Honestly I am amazed at all the moaning about bloody mothers day. What is realistically hoing to happen to all these cards? By thid evening they are on the recycling. Whst a waste of money and angst.

Fairenuff · 11/03/2018 09:00

You have a precious 6 month old child. Forget about the card, go cuddle your baby.

yawning801 · 11/03/2018 09:07

Ah well. At least you got a card. Better than nothing, right?

craigglen · 11/03/2018 09:08

Yes you are being ungrateful.

LifesTooShortt · 11/03/2018 09:10

I wish I had your problems OP.

Tiredmum100 · 11/03/2018 09:16

I think you're disappointed as you feel it's lack of effort on his part. I don't understand why people need to name call. You can't help how you feel. Yes it the grand scheme of things it might not be a big deal and there are plenty of people who are missing loved ones today but that doesn't mean you can't be disappointed. There are people I wish were here today, but I'm still pissed off I didn't get my lye in.

yellowsun · 11/03/2018 09:19

I had one where DH and DS forgot to change the name of the sender in the front. It says ‘love from kayleigh’. I laughed and have been calling DS Kayleigh all morning.

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