To feel like my H and friend put me in an awkward position

[singme]

Need to vent.

Long story short- separated from husband (H). Only moved out 2 weeks ago. Partial reason was his close friendship with a mutual friend, let’s call her A.

Was meant to be picking stuff up this evening. Texted H and he was in pub but said he’d be home in half an hour.

I was in the general area already so hung around and then lo and behold he text to say he had just ordered food and why didn’t I join him in pub.

I said no, I’m annoyed, I’m going home. Then I get a text from A, FROM HIS PHONE saying it’s her fault for ordering food, there’s a few of them in the pub and why don’t I come down.

But at this point I’m starving, got dinner ingredients about to go off, in sweaty gym kit and don’t fancy spending my evening watching H eat and drink.

Now I’m embarrassed that A has seen my stroppy texts to H and also annoyed that she got involved like that. Also I’m upset all my friends are in the pub and I’m at home alone. And I’m worried I’ve made it so awkward that no one will invite me out again

AIBU to think that he shouldn’t have shown her my text and she shouldn’t have got involved?

It sounds like a very bizarre situation.

She thinks I’m overreacting apparently and can’t see why I’d be upset at their closeness

As far as I can tell, you've conducted yourself with your head held high. Well done!

So if you haven't shown that you're upset, how can she accuse you of over-reacting? Give her enough rope...

Good luck with the rest of your life - onwards and upwards!

She sounds dreadful but your last update shows that she will fall on her own sword, leave her to do that whilst you focus on mending yourself.

I know it will be hard but one day you'll look back and be relieved this is all done and dusted and that you're better off.

Good luck OP