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Large group of parents and small children take over country restaurant

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user1483875094 · 04/03/2018 14:21

Well, I imagine the title got a lot of attention, but all is not what it seems.
I took my three grown up (all in 30's) out for an early Sunday Brunch at a lovely local (very rustic) village country restaurant, where you don't "book". We were seated and ordered and just waiting and chatting. A large group of adults, all seemingly having one child each came in with a huge number of buggies, bags, bottles, toys, - etc etc and demanded (and it was a demand, not a polite request) that the young girls serving made major re-organisation of what was the "main" room by moving 4, 4 seater tables and chairs together in a long line. This caused a fair bit of noise and commotion, and jogging of people already eating. The large and rather angry looking man, who seemed to be in charge "oversaw" the complete re-arrangement of the restaurant for his party. At one point, my son was jogged quite heavily by him, as he pushed past and shoved his chair, so my son simply very gently pushed "our table" a little bit further out of his way, and shuffled his chair further in under our table, in a completely passive way to give them yet more space. The "man in charge" (now known as MIC glowered at all four of us, as though we had done the OPPOSITE, and tried to "re-claim" breathing space. Finally all seated, parents order. Out comes about 5 packed lunches, drinks already in their own beakers, and a very demonstrative display of "we have brought our own food" with most of the adults very clearly "surveying everyone in the restaurant" for their reactions. Out came noisy wooden toys, which were slammed constantly on the table .. again MIC "surveying everyone else seemingly SEARCHING for any sign of a negative reaction!" None of the adults chatted to each other, nor seemed pleased to be having an outing, but were just constantly surveying everyone else in the room - it was very weird indeed! Lots of other families out with their small children, enjoying their outing, and we four adore children, and are absolutely not the sort of "tutters" you hear about. I made the mistake of innocently and distractedly glancing over when a 3-year old (ish) started screaming his head off, it was a momentary 2 second glance... I swear! MIC then glowered at me with a very intimidating expression for ages and ages... (and ages) actually "turning" his chair to face me. It was awful, and I completely lost my appetite. We felt so intimidated, that we hurried up and left. Surely, SURELY, this was some kind of "social experiment?" I even tried to smile, (albeit probably weakly) at MIC, which made his expression even angrier! What do you all think? We definitely were not imagining it, as this was happening to other guests who were being "scanned" by MIC ! Do let me have your thoughts, or perhaps I will read about this "social experiment" in the newspapers next week, perhaps?

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wizzywig · 04/03/2018 14:26

You know those posters who complain about having to attend Sunday lunches with their in-laws 30mins before/ after their child's usual lunchtime and so the childs routine will be RUINED? that was one of those lunches

teaiseverything · 04/03/2018 14:29

@wizzywig Grin

PhelanThePain · 04/03/2018 14:31

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CallMeOnMyCell · 04/03/2018 14:35

Why didn’t you say something when MIC knocked your sons chair? I would have complained to the manager at the persistent staring etc. If this happened at all!

JaneEyre70 · 04/03/2018 14:37

Oh it must have been the local AGM of the "entitled arseholes with children" society. We were in a pub once, had met SIL and 2 nephews which was a rare occurrence when a loud crowd all with young children came in and sat next to us. You literally couldn't hear yourself think, due to the racket of "oh you sit here, not there" and "is there another highchair" being belllowed out at full volume. We were really upset as we hadn't seen them for a year or so, and conversation was impossible. When the waitress came over, I made the fatal flaw of asking them if there was a quieter table available - one of the mums overheard and had a right kick off that they were just as entitled to sit there as we were and people hate children blah blah blah. We had 5 sat round the table Hmm. The funny bit was it was the adults that made the noise and palaver, not the kids.

sirlee66 · 04/03/2018 14:50

Maybe it was some sort of cult and MIC is the leader and the glowering is just his normal face?

sirlee66 · 04/03/2018 14:52

And he was staring at you so much because he was weighing up initiating you into the 'bring your own lunch' cult!!

RainbowGlitterFairy · 04/03/2018 14:56

maybe it was some sort of protest because the restaurant had told one of them to control their child on a previous visit?

Judashascomeintosomemoney · 04/03/2018 15:01

Definitely some kind of activist flash mob there. Not sure who though.......

Peanutbuttercups21 · 04/03/2018 15:01

Why were you all cowering?

I tell people off if they bump my chair.

If they stare at me, I 'd ask what the matter was

Honestly. Why so scared?

expatinscotland · 04/03/2018 15:07

My first thought it the management there is shit and weak to have caved to these twats. My second is that I'd probably have got up and walked out had I been instructed to move about to accommodate these fuckwits. I may also be inclined to give them a shite review online.

DiegoMadonna · 04/03/2018 15:08

This reads much more like a one-sided biased account by an emotional person than a chain events that actually occurred.

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 04/03/2018 15:09

It all doesn't sound very likely, as you describe it.

Jux · 04/03/2018 15:11

Contact the management and ask them.

They may not know, but it's not just a way of finding out if they do know anything, it's also a means of letting them know that you were inconvenienced and made unhappy by this group - which could strengthen the resolve of the management to tell this group, or others similar, that they need to go elsewhere.

Eltonjohnssyrup · 04/03/2018 15:14

Cool story bro.

eddielizzard · 04/03/2018 15:15

MIC just has resting bitch face.

RedDogsBeg · 04/03/2018 15:15

Agreed Peanutbuttercups21 I never understand why people don't say something at the time, you can be firm whilst remaining civil.

SomeKnobend · 04/03/2018 15:18

If you see him again, ask if he has resting cunt face.

Theresasmayshoes11 · 04/03/2018 15:22

If he was staring at me I would have asked him if he was ok and could I help. Seriously why are you so scaredy cat?

PhelanThePain · 04/03/2018 15:25

Anyone stares at you you start loudly telling your companion that you think that man/woman fancies you and how humiliating that he would flirt so blatantly infront of his partner. Throw in a few winks and air kisses.

Nanny0gg · 04/03/2018 15:29

Why on earth didn't you speak to management? (who should probably refused such a large party anyway as no-one else will come in now)

expatinscotland · 04/03/2018 15:29

'Excuse me can you get up so we can move your table to accommodate these cunts?' 'No. I was here first.' MIC staring, 'Are you quite alright? Can I help you with something?' or 'Staring at people is rude. Stop it.'

Personwithhorse · 04/03/2018 15:31

I would complain to the pub, why did they allow a group of unpleasant people who brought their own food and drink into the place? They can’t have made any money out of them .. I would also have left and told the manager why and not gone back.

LilacClouds · 04/03/2018 15:42

Unfortunately some people are very puffed up and entitled about their parental status. I think it's just a bunch of rude and entitled people. I have Dcs, I have friends with Dcs and occasionally we go out to lunch together BUT I try to do everything with the minimum of noise and fuss and bother to other diners. I quieten the children, I apologise if we accidentally jog so much as an umbrella resting to the side of another diner and if there has had to be any chair or table arrangement (which I dislike having to do and at most it might be pushing two small tables together and bringing round chairs) I usually apologise to the nearby diners for disruption. If one of the Dcs is being just a tad too loud and can't be distracted I would take them outside for a while.

I myself have seen and met these entitled kinds of parents, for example I was provided with a box of crayons and some paper for my Dcs to draw with at one place by the staff. Entitled pair of kids came over and raided it (even taking ones out of my DCs hands) without asking, speaking or even looking at me, whilst entitled parent looked on saying "Get the GREEN as well, Timmy, oh and the ORANGE and the YELLOW and the BLUE whilst you're there". Totally ignoring the fact your DC is actually using it at the time! I'm more than happy to share communal items but a conversation about it would be nice! Some parents are entitled and snotty and genuinely do not care about anything or anyone else even though they know it's rude.

The same type of parents are on the road who drive through the gap without so much as a glance, let alone a thank you, when you have politely given way and waited for them to pass.

I can only think they must be fairly shallow or bitter people to enjoy their small acts of arrogance so much.

It's just very bad manners on the part of these parents and not (I hope) representative of most parents of small children).

theftbyfinding · 04/03/2018 15:44

Surely you're not allowed to bring your own food and drinks to a pub/restaurant?