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Large group of parents and small children take over country restaurant

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user1483875094 · 04/03/2018 14:21

Well, I imagine the title got a lot of attention, but all is not what it seems.
I took my three grown up (all in 30's) out for an early Sunday Brunch at a lovely local (very rustic) village country restaurant, where you don't "book". We were seated and ordered and just waiting and chatting. A large group of adults, all seemingly having one child each came in with a huge number of buggies, bags, bottles, toys, - etc etc and demanded (and it was a demand, not a polite request) that the young girls serving made major re-organisation of what was the "main" room by moving 4, 4 seater tables and chairs together in a long line. This caused a fair bit of noise and commotion, and jogging of people already eating. The large and rather angry looking man, who seemed to be in charge "oversaw" the complete re-arrangement of the restaurant for his party. At one point, my son was jogged quite heavily by him, as he pushed past and shoved his chair, so my son simply very gently pushed "our table" a little bit further out of his way, and shuffled his chair further in under our table, in a completely passive way to give them yet more space. The "man in charge" (now known as MIC glowered at all four of us, as though we had done the OPPOSITE, and tried to "re-claim" breathing space. Finally all seated, parents order. Out comes about 5 packed lunches, drinks already in their own beakers, and a very demonstrative display of "we have brought our own food" with most of the adults very clearly "surveying everyone in the restaurant" for their reactions. Out came noisy wooden toys, which were slammed constantly on the table .. again MIC "surveying everyone else seemingly SEARCHING for any sign of a negative reaction!" None of the adults chatted to each other, nor seemed pleased to be having an outing, but were just constantly surveying everyone else in the room - it was very weird indeed! Lots of other families out with their small children, enjoying their outing, and we four adore children, and are absolutely not the sort of "tutters" you hear about. I made the mistake of innocently and distractedly glancing over when a 3-year old (ish) started screaming his head off, it was a momentary 2 second glance... I swear! MIC then glowered at me with a very intimidating expression for ages and ages... (and ages) actually "turning" his chair to face me. It was awful, and I completely lost my appetite. We felt so intimidated, that we hurried up and left. Surely, SURELY, this was some kind of "social experiment?" I even tried to smile, (albeit probably weakly) at MIC, which made his expression even angrier! What do you all think? We definitely were not imagining it, as this was happening to other guests who were being "scanned" by MIC ! Do let me have your thoughts, or perhaps I will read about this "social experiment" in the newspapers next week, perhaps?

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Gitfeatures · 05/03/2018 07:29

I think I would have stuck around waiting for Jeremy Beadle to make his appearance.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 05/03/2018 07:35

Some people seem to enjoy deliberately annoying others, and 'daring' them, via expression and body language, to say anything.
They are pathetic idiots.
Best to ignore/forget, but I'm sorry it spoiled your meal.

user1483875094 · 05/03/2018 07:39

Jux, thank you. I did think about calling the management, just to let them know that this had happened, not least so that if there are other complaints, the poor girl-waitresses don't get the blame for not handling the situation. I think I will give the manager a call when I get back from work today, to explain just how very intimidating this bunch was. To others who suggest not going back, - my family and I have been going there for many years, and love it. We don't want this one very weird experience to ruin our very long tradition of going there. The food is amazing, the atmosphere is 99% of the time tranquil, with many happy families enjoying a lunch and it's a lovely trip out normally. Thanks to all of you who had some good ideas about what it was all about and some very funny ones! I am still convinced this was a group out looking for "meat" for a ranting article about taking children out for lunch. I think they might have been dissappointed, however. If I ever find the article, I will post it on here!

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LilaBlue · 05/03/2018 07:45

Just ignore them. Why on earth would you choose to keep watching them to the point of ruining your own lunch?

People are twats sometimes. Glare back or ignore. Don't roll over.

TournesoletLavande · 05/03/2018 08:08

You should have been grateful for the authentic, middle class clatter of educational wooden toys. You were lucky it wasn't five separate Peppa Pig or youtube videos blaring at full volume from their parents' phones.

I swear the next person that does that next to me in a restaurant is going to get that phone rammed down their fucking throat. If your child needs to be glued to a screen in order not to take the place apart, or scream it down, then either take it home or at least give it some headphones.

Have some manners, you selfish twat.

Jux · 05/03/2018 15:45

Couldn't agree more, Tournesolet.

User, they may not have had a firm policy in place, because until recently it was more usual for people to behave well when out in public, and to try not to inconvenience others unduly. Sadly, this is becoming less and less so.

I find myself turning into my grandmother more and more! Grin

user1483875094 · 05/03/2018 17:49

Hi! Sorry to the very small number of posters who expected me to be glued to my computer 24/7, and I cannot - but here is a little up-date. I did call management after work today (just got home), but made it plain that I was not calling to complain, as we love the place, love the food, and have been coming for many years, but that I wanted to offer support for the young waitresses, who managed the situation yesterday as best they could, but also asked if there had, in fact, been any complaints? There had not been any direct "complaints" as such, but several "comments" - (probably like mine) and I commended the young waitresses (and one young waiter) who did their very best in an incredibly busy environment with a bunch of very awkward "odd" customers. I was thanked for calling, and assured that the young waitresses and the one young waiter would be given our praise, and absolutely not blamed for anything. We often see the same families there, (as said, we have been going there for years) and we all feel quite a big sense of support for this fabulous venue and the staff, and so I think that other regulars were equally perplexed, and did not want to "complain" but felt the need to make a comment, for the benefit of the fabulous venue. My family and I will definitely be going again, as we have for many years. TOURNESOLET, Thank you! You made me chuckle, it was indeed b r i o that came out, and each child was given a little selection. (odd, don't you think, if this was a varied group of parents?) Someone asked me if it was possibly travellers? No, I would dare to say not, at least given the appearances, and equipment, and toys, but I could of course be wrong. Thank all of you for your insight, and the funny comments, and the supportive comments. Whatever, I am still completely convinced that this was some weird "experiment" but maybe I just expect better behaviour from people (the adults, not the children!)

I have to get on now and do normal stuff, so can't sit on my p.c. watching every single reply, but thank you for your various insights, and thoughts. I can't work out how to add a bunch of flowers, but please see a bunch of flowers here!

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