To think there is nothing wrong with being lazy?

[crunchymint]

I am not talking about neglecting your kids, but it seems to be seen as morally superior to be busy. Whereas I think there is nothing wrong with being lazy.

What is the difference between resting and being lazy?

In my view none of us rest enough - resting is needed to gather energy and thoughts. I have needed this since having children and the older I am.
Resting implies you have done something tiring and taxing before, so I guess yes I do prioritise resting sometimes because it is an important part of being healthy and well. I love lazy afternoons by the fire, falling asleep or watching a film in the winter. Or relaxing in the sunshine in summer listening to the birds. I feel zero guilt because I work so hard most of the time.

The more worrying trend is the over scheduled. This is particular bad for children whom need time to relax. Mental health suffers when there is no time to switch off. We prioritise rest and relaxation over everything. So my kids don’t play an instrument or don’t attend all the activities. They really don’t want to go anyway! I am happy for them to set the tone and choose their life, sports and time off. Time to play teddies and Dollies and make slime, building projects and making things to me ar just as important as the weekly tennis class

I love being "lazy". Outside of my FT job, I don't really have hobbies or "do" anything. I see friends and family on weekends but I love nothing more than a completely empty weekend drinking tea and playing online poker! Also love being alone.

My friends are polar opposites, they live in London and are out all the time and can't fathom why someone would want to stay in and watch TV after work.

Also, not having hobbies saves a LOT of money. In a month I can buy nothing apart from food!

I can be lazy. No kids helps with that. My house is always very clean and tidy and I spend about 15-20 mins a day on it and do washing at the weekend. But it also helps that my H does his fair share too, which means we can just veg out at night and watch a film. Being lazy is fine, expecting others to pick up your slack isn’t. I couldn’t be one of those people who packs every hour of the weekend with activities, I really do need time to recharge

I didn't used to be lazy but I'm
Now the worlds biggest procrastinator...I don't know why or when it happened...possibly a touch of depression.
I've lately tried to make sure I spend one weekend day doing stuff-cleaning, food shop, going out somewhere and then the then one can be as lazy as I want it to be.

I think by nature I am actually lazy. But I cannot cope with clutter, a messy kitchen, stuff lying around. I also can't stand not being organised with stuff to do with the dc. Uniforms are all ironed for the week, shoes cleaned every night, bags packed the night before. But I don't do it with a spring in my step. It's done because I'm not one of these laid back people that can be happy when there's things that need doing.

I think you're lucky if you can.

I think the only time laziness becomes a problem and is frowned upon is when it starts to affect other people negatively. So other people get let down, or have to work harder or end up doing essential things for the lazy person etc. Then it isn't acceptable imo.

Lazing around is underestimated I think. I love lie ins. Used to worry that I was "wasting time".Then I had children and I feel it was time very well spent!

I do procrastinate though and get annoyed with myself when I find I spend chunks of weekend catching up on work or housework that I could have fitted in earlier in the week , and it eats into family or fun time. I feel I have been selfish when that happens.

But hey, its mumsnet, we don't have to call it laziness. It can be rebranded as "decompressing", "downtime", "me-time" or "looking after your mental health".

I hate smug people that make out how much better they are because they clean everyday. Being lazy rules.