Is my DP for real????

[AmIOnAnotherPlanet]

I am LIVID.

We've been stuck in the house due to snow for the third day in a row. I'm going to go nuts if I stay in much longer. Our 9 month old baby is more irritated and whingey than usual, I assume because she too is sick of the sight of the same four walls.

DP decided to go and play on the PlayStation with his friends (online). LO is obsessed with crawling into the room the PlayStation is located in so DP said "I'll put her in here with me in her jumperoo". Amazing. I'll go upstairs and have some "me time" as quite frankly I'd murder for 5 mins to myself instead of glued to partner and baby for any longer.

I can hear baby cry so I go downstairs and DP is ignoring her. I leave it longer to see how he handles it. I then go down to make her milk, he takes her upstairs to change her. I then hear his friend say to the other "my name won't bother with the baby so he's having to do it".

AIBU to be fuming???

To point out. He plays PlayStation once a week (compromise from twice) and he gives me NO help at all. He'll hear baby cry and ignore and leave me to it.

Oh too add.

The same "friends" have said all I do is whinge at the baby when he's on PlayStation. So clearly, I am a terrible shit mother.

I don't whinge. I try to call him before shouting at DP to help??!!

Cabin fever is setting in! Ignore moronic friend and continue with some quiet time - dh is managing just fine. Run a bath and leave them all to it.
He sounds hopelessly out of touch with baby so more time together will be good for them
Don’t rush back to relieve him - and soon the snow will melt and things will be back to normal

Sorry, I'm slightly confused - was it one of your DP's friends who said that? If so I would be raging at the friend but not at your DP, doesn't sound like he was even in the room at the time?

Yes it was friend. But clearly DP has said something to them earlier to get that sort of comment?

Baby is upstairs with me now..

Hang up on the friend /game for a start? You don’t have to hear that in your living room.
Otherwise I can’t quite tell if yabu. Is this dps agreed weekly session? If so yabu. Has he been at home with you and you doing everything for the baby? If so yadnbu and he can start with cooking dinner bath and bed tonight while you relax? Unless he has been busy doing other cleaning cooking or admin etc for you/ his family, or urgently working from home... so not enough info! But hang up on his friend.

and he gives me NO help at all.

Ignore what his friends say. They’re not your problem. This^^ is your problem! Why are you accepting him doing nothing?

No, he's doing his in addition to his weekly 6 hour session earlier in the week.

And no, other than giving the LO breakfast I've done everything as per.

Games console is in a little room by kitchen. It's loud and I heard it as I walked past to make up a feed

Those two friends would be so fast out of my house they wouldn't know what hit them. Never to return.

I don’t see why your DP would have to have said anything for his mate to say that, sounds like a stupid, immature comment but not necessarily anything to do with your dp

Also told him I was upset with the comment. He gave me baby and went back downstairs.

user it’s online, the friends aren’t in the house

Sounds like games console should be going out the window to me

He’s said something to them.
Selfish arse.

Surely he must know you can hear them?

I would be tempted to pop on a headset and ask what they meant by that. Make them squirm. Bit late now of course. But j would certainly be talking to your oh about it.

Tbf... it's normally through a headset so I can't hear anything other than what DP is saying. But on this occasion I was upstairs (until going down to make the feed).

Not sure how these things work. Don't know if he unplugged headset to come upstairs which made them louder?

Cross post, sorry.

Back downstairs to play? Nope, console off and talk like a grown up. He needs to sort himself out.

Blokes gaming online talk any old (sexist, etc) bollocks about their situation, wouldn't sweat that too much. However, plonk baby in his lap and get in the bath for an hour. It's his turn to be a parent now.

He does nothing and plays games online regularly (and wanted to do so more)?

What is the point of him? Is he 12?

Ignore the comments but resolve to make him step up from now on.
If he's had lots of free time today it's your turn now.

I'd be insisting the PlayStation goes off,he gives proper attention to yer baby,and let you have some quality time in peace! Reminding him he can play the PlayStation another time,when yer not all drove demented from being stuck in the house. Ignore his friends,you already have a kid to worry about

I feel like disconneting the internet and playing stupid

He had a six hour Playstation session ?

disconnect the internet
^^ this

Why do you put him with him doing very little generally? My marriage would have been over long ago if my dh didn’t pull his weight.

Nope. Fuck this. Ban the play station and if he kicks up LTB. He's a man child.