Is my DP for real????

[AmIOnAnotherPlanet]

I am LIVID.

We've been stuck in the house due to snow for the third day in a row. I'm going to go nuts if I stay in much longer. Our 9 month old baby is more irritated and whingey than usual, I assume because she too is sick of the sight of the same four walls.

DP decided to go and play on the PlayStation with his friends (online). LO is obsessed with crawling into the room the PlayStation is located in so DP said "I'll put her in here with me in her jumperoo". Amazing. I'll go upstairs and have some "me time" as quite frankly I'd murder for 5 mins to myself instead of glued to partner and baby for any longer.

I can hear baby cry so I go downstairs and DP is ignoring her. I leave it longer to see how he handles it. I then go down to make her milk, he takes her upstairs to change her. I then hear his friend say to the other "my name won't bother with the baby so he's having to do it".

AIBU to be fuming???

To point out. He plays PlayStation once a week (compromise from twice) and he gives me NO help at all. He'll hear baby cry and ignore and leave me to it.

Do you get regular 6 hour alone time sessions OP? If not, that would be the end of his 6 hour alone time sessions. He sounds like a selfish, immature person.

change the wifi password !!

i wrote that without seeing that he plays for 6 hours at a time.

I reckon dump him.

Wow the snow seems to have timewarped your partner and his friends back to 1945 ...crazy ...

Imagine a man looking after HIS OWN children - crazy

I'd be careful disconnecting without saying so first, it can lead to computer rage. FWIW headsets pick up every little noise, so the friends probably heard baby cry, and DP said something like - back in a min - and the friends just spout man-talk diarrhoea.

I don't think 6hrs pw to himself is that much tbh, as long as op gets similar.

Nope, don't think I've had any time to enjoy myself since LO was about 4 months old.

So your prick of a husband has now thrown a tantrum? He is seeming less and less attractive. So you get 6 hours of free time tomorrow or Sunday? I'd dump DD on him and piss off out to the pub you might meet a man rather than this silly little boy DP

I'm not defending him op but I do think it's really important that you both get time to relax and enjoy hobbies. Gaming doesn't appeal to me at all but if that's what he likes then I don't think once every week should be an issue. The problem is that you don't get similar imo, and that he isn't pulling his weight at other times. If he's always like this, and it's not just snow madness, then you must address this or the resentment will ultimately finish your relationship off.

I think it's ok for him to have a once-a-week session where he doesn't have to worry about childcare. But I would expect him to give you the same thing, even if it's just you in your bedroom reading a book - uninterrupted.

I can't quite tell from your OP if he doesn't do anything for the baby during that once-a-week session or ever?

He doesn't want to be a father, he wants to be your son. That's why he's having a tantrum. He wasn't ready for parenthood and your evil vagina has ruined everything