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What is the worst birthday you have ever had?

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SteveAs · 02/03/2018 09:58

The worst birthday I have ever had was on my 10th birthday we were meant to be going out bowling but we discovered I had nits so had to treat that instead

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Sirzy · 02/03/2018 09:59

When my 8 week old was in intensive care and we didn’t know if he would see the end of the day.

(He did thankfully)

QueenB14 · 02/03/2018 10:01

My grandad died a couple of days before so my birthday fell in that horrible limbo between the death and the funeral

GinasGirl · 02/03/2018 10:10

My 40th, I was meant to fly over to be with my Mum, but she had died a couple of months before. My Dad didn't get in touch at all. My family and friends rallied round and were amazing but it still hurt like hell to have no 'happy Birthday' from my Mum and Dad.

Roomba · 02/03/2018 10:12

On my 9th birthday I trapped my finger in a door at school, broke my finger and threw up with the pain and shock. Was supposed to be having my first swimming lesson ever that evening and couldn't go (had grommets for years before that and was told not to swim at all so was really looking forward to it!)

My 30th, I got a letter from a bailiff threatening to remove goods if I didn't pay within 24 hours. It was an error by the council but I spent hours sorting it out. Then my ex screamed abuse at me all evening for being incompetent and stupid, I cried for hours then went to bed.

My 40th, I'd had campylobacter for a week (was so so ill for six weeks in total). I was in so much pain, could barely move, and just spent all say under a duvet on the sofa. I'd had a nice restaurant booked for me and my children but was far too ill to go. They were very disappointed so in the end I let my ex and his new wife take the reservation and go with them instead! Felt so ill I didn't even care. The champagne I was given sat in the fridge for 3 months until I was well enough to drink it.

Louiselouie0890 · 02/03/2018 10:13

My 27th. Literally everyone forgot even my mum and husband. His birthday after that he wanted 300 spent on him. Told him to go swivel.

chipsandpeas · 02/03/2018 10:14

my 29th as my dad was dying at the time (died under 2 weeks later)

SmitheringSmithison · 02/03/2018 10:15

My 12th, BIL had a major car accident a few hours after he left my birthday party, us kids were woken up by my ds bringing dn for my parents to look after so she could go to the hospital. Thankfully he survived but he was in hospital for months and remained paralysed from the chest down.

Whydomypubeslooklikeanest · 02/03/2018 10:15

My 9th birthday was the day my abuser chose to rape me for the first time.

Every birthday since then has utterly sucked.

Paie · 02/03/2018 10:16

22nd.
Received a phone call late the night before from one of my best friends informing me that another best friend had killed themselves.
Birthday was not enjoyable at all, and it's a bittersweet time of year now.

Enuffsenuffsenuff · 02/03/2018 10:19

I lived abroad (Zimbabwe) as a kid and on my 6th birthday was taken to a game reserve for a safari. Saw a pride of lions eating a baby giraffe alive. Was beyond traumatised!

Marylou2 · 02/03/2018 10:26

My 22nd. My only sibling committed suicide the week before it. 50 this year and it has overshadowed every Birthday since. I have a happy and fortunate life in many other ways though.

RefuseTheLies · 02/03/2018 10:29

The one after my mum died. My husband didn’t even get me a present. It was awful and I was so sad.

suckysnow · 02/03/2018 10:30

32nd.

Single parent since pregnancy, had a newborn and bad postnatal depresssion. Literally saw no one all day, had had no sleep and just felt so utterly unimportant and like I was failing at everything.

Not as bad as some of you on here, but it’s stuck with me

MsMalcontent · 02/03/2018 10:30

My 40th. My dad phoned me in the morning, I thought to say happy birthday but no, he was ringing to say he had terminal cancer.

TimeIhadaNameChange · 02/03/2018 10:31

Why - am so very sorry to hear that.

Enigmam · 02/03/2018 10:37

My 36th, I had an ectopic pregnancy the week before.

longtompot · 02/03/2018 10:37

When pregnant with my ed I had really bad flu on my birthday, well, for three days or so around it. I was pretty delirious and had no idea where I was at one point.

A 20something birthday was the day of my nannys funeral. She died a couple of weeks before my birthday, and I just knew her funeral would fall on that day. My parents still gave me a card and my dad said something about hoping I'd understand why they wouldn't be celebrating with me that year, which of course I did as I didn't want to celebrate then either.

thisisalliwant · 02/03/2018 10:45

My 25th. One of my closest friends attempted suicide the day before. She died in hospital 10 days later.

blackteasplease · 02/03/2018 11:01

Every one with stbxh. He liked to choose birthdays as an opportunity to pick a row. Or of not the worry that he would pick one.

WaitroseCoffeeCostaCup · 02/03/2018 11:07

On my 30th I was pregnant with terrible SPD. Spent the night before sleeping next to the baby's cot who had noro. Caught noro. My Husband bought me a whole patisserie Valerie cake, my absolute favourite. I couldn't even look at it without heaving

Steaksauce · 02/03/2018 11:11

My 30th. Had arranged a weekend away with friends while all swore they were coming. Rented a big house for the weekend.

Only 2 people turned up.
Even my then boyfriend didn't bother to show up as his sister "might give birth this weekend" (she didn't)
I felt so miserable and unloved.
It was also the first birthday after my dad passed away and not having that call from him in the morning killed me.

mirime · 02/03/2018 11:15

One birthday I spent being finger printed by the police after our car was broken into, another I spent hours in hospital in bloody Newport of all places waiting for DH to have an X-ray.

Neither upset me particularly. What did upset me was when I was a child, maybe 6 or 7, and the day before my birthday I ran into a door handle at my grandparents house and gave myself a black eye.

Whatififall · 02/03/2018 11:26

I had glandular fever for my 18th which was a present I definitely could have done without.

Worst of all was the year I was 32. Desperately unhappy in my marriage. Sat in the car crying as I just couldn't bring myself to go into the house where I would have to see exh. I left a month later though, that Birthday horror being a catalyst.

ankasi · 02/03/2018 11:26

My 18th, my dad was in hospital with terminal cancer and that was the day I saw him for the last time. It didn't help that his appearance came as something of a shock as mum always told us it wasn't that bad and he had deteriorated quite a lot since I had seen him before.

He died 5 weeks later, but I just couldn't bring myself to see him again, something I still regret almost 22 years on.

My 21st, my mum had just died and I was suddenly responsible for two teenagers and not sure how I would cope.

My 25th, my colleagues at the time always had a collection for birthdays and I was given a beautiful ring. Suddenly one of my colleagues said: I don't know, maybe we should have invested the money to take out a "looking for husband" ad for you.
I was utterly speechless, left the room and had a bit of a cry in the toilets. All other colleagues in the room were quite shocked as well, as this was completely out of order.

AlmostAJillSandwich · 02/03/2018 11:34

My 21st. My mum died 4 months before after a shock diagnosis of terminal cancer. to add to that, my ex fiance at the time (a really abusive bastard) only sent a cheap card with the 99p sticker still attached and barely wrote anything in it. I went out to dinner with all my mums side of the family, and it all went quiet and my aunt asked me what my fiance had bought me. I had to very awkwardly say "nothing" with my whole mums side of the family staring at me. When i brought it up with him next day he had a HUGE go at me for the sentiment of the barely written in card "not being enough". This despite me giving him £100 for his 21st when we werent even dating yet at the time, and him outright asking for rather expensive presents for the other 2 birthdays and Christmases between then and my 21st.

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