To ask about bathroom habits with OH?

[iceycage]

Bit of an awkward one. Warning TMI is you're a "toilet prude" like me

So with me when it comes to most things I'm not prudish at all. But I've always been so awkward about going to the toilet around people. When I lived with friends at uni I'd make them turn up the tv or talk extra loud if I went to pee, otherwise I couldn't go and number 2.. forget it unless I was home alone !

I'm in my 20s now and have never had a proper relationship (commitment issues/never really been bothered) but recently I started seeing someone who I really really like.

We're going to a hotel in a couple of weeks for the weekend, and I'm already super nervous about the "bathroom situation" especially as most hotel bathrooms don't have windows

Also this is so so TMI but what do you do about farting?? I have a really sensitive stomach and have to be very careful with what I eat. Eating out is usually fine while I'm there but when I'm home (I live alone) .. you can guess the rest. So going out for dinner then going straight to the hotel room together 😂... nervous ! I know I sound so ridiculous a) because I'm such a prude about this and b) because I'm a total relationship novice in my 20s.

I'm also such a prude that I'm worried just witnessing their " bathroom habits" will turn me off a bit. I know that'll sound very ridiculous to most people.

Any other prudes willing to offer advice ?

DP and I are both very windy and if we got up and went to the bathroom whenever we needed to fart, we'd wear out the stair carpet. We just let rip proudly

We're the same.

All these perfume or air freshner sprayers are fooling no-one btw. You haven't hidden the fact you've gone for a fart or shit and your DP/H doesn't think your farts smell like roses either. They probably just think you're slightly weird for pretending that you don't have the same bodily functions as everyone else.

arms down, palms up, and then something fell into one of my palms, so as per human reaction, I gave it a squeeze without thinking...I was mortified!

What was it?

Ah ok. I’ve just read the full thread. It was a testicle.

We do not use the loo in front of each other, that is a line we haven’t crossed in 10 1/2 years. I can’t quite understand why you would do that, loo time is personal. Farting is fine as having to leave the room is a farce and we both know it’s a normal bodily function. In the early days we held it in but then we were sitting cross legged in front on the computer on the floor and I let one escape. No disguising it and DP laughed till he cried and then googled ‘my girlfriend farts’ it said where there is wind there is love and we instantly became really comfortable and best friends.

I have a new person in my life. There is an ensuite at their house and generally the rule is only No 1s in the ensuite and use the main bathroom for the more thorough visits! Use the hotel bathrooms for the longer visits and the ensuite for quicker visits and have VIPoo for back up. Relax the OH will also have use of the bathroom and must know that us ladies do too.
Enjoy your trip

Drop him a fluffy he might like it

When I first went out with DP we went to Paris and after 2 days of discomfort I made him go for a walk and get me some croissants so I could have peace while I pooed! Which he did. I told him the real reason at the end of the holiday but he knew. 16 years and 2 kids later he still has to leave flat when I need a poo!

16 years and 2 kids later he still has to leave flat when I need a poo!

Have you been to the Dr to find out why? Do you perhaps have a bowel problem.

I can’t imagine how you must feel. That you have to get someone to leave the building so you can poo.

We just do it all in front of each other. I’m, ahum, a naturally windy person and it’s a standing joke between us. It has never worried me, tbh, after all, we’re all human and we all need to wee and poo. There’s no point in hiding it really
After 20 years, including childbirth and going through all sorts of diseases in that time, there’s really nothing that’s secret anymore for us

Fionne because it is a disgusting thing that some people feel very self conscious about.
Being shit shy doesn't mean you have a bowel problem.
I am turned off instantly by bodily smells. I would assume someone would also feel that way towards me.

Being shit shy doesn't mean you have a bowel problem.

Ah, it’s because the OP’s shy? I didn’t realise that.

I have to say we’re pretty private when it comes to bathroom habits as well but it’s not something that’s discussed. We just get on with it.

DH and I don't poo in front of each other but do pee. Farting also fine but he avoids it sometimes as his are disgustingly smelly which I hate. My biggest worry is always my first pee of the day. All the bloat from the day before comes out and it can sound like a small farm animal dying as my body gets rid of it. I panic our NDNs can hear. No solutions other than see if you can let it out quietly or hold it and take the first opportunity to go in another toilet out of earshot later on....

16 years and 2 kids later he still has to leave flat when I need a poo!

To have a phobia that rules your life to that extent is extreme.

I am turned off instantly by bodily smells.

You feel you could never be aroused again by someone if you went in the bathroom after them and there was a whiff?

Probably helmet, yes, but I know I'm in the minority. I prefer to live alone.
although poo smells so mammals don't eat it or avoid it (on a basic level). so being turned off by it is understandable in a v abstract way.
I don't think it's extreme.

although poo smells so mammals don't eat it or avoid it (on a basic level) why do dogs eat it and roll in it, they certainly don’t avoid it!

dunno fluff. that's why I don't have aa dog...their shit smells more than human shit.
I have a severe dog poo phobia and physically vomit if I see it, or at least retch. Human poo isn't as bad, but I still hate the smell, of others as each person's poo smells different. I can tell the difference between male and female poo and wee.
I used to walk across a meadow at junior school it was full of DS. And would have to clean my shoes. if my kids walk in it their shoes, even if brand new, are binned instantly.