To ask about bathroom habits with OH?

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Bit of an awkward one. Warning TMI is you're a "toilet prude" like me

So with me when it comes to most things I'm not prudish at all. But I've always been so awkward about going to the toilet around people. When I lived with friends at uni I'd make them turn up the tv or talk extra loud if I went to pee, otherwise I couldn't go and number 2.. forget it unless I was home alone !

I'm in my 20s now and have never had a proper relationship (commitment issues/never really been bothered) but recently I started seeing someone who I really really like.

We're going to a hotel in a couple of weeks for the weekend, and I'm already super nervous about the "bathroom situation" especially as most hotel bathrooms don't have windows

Also this is so so TMI but what do you do about farting?? I have a really sensitive stomach and have to be very careful with what I eat. Eating out is usually fine while I'm there but when I'm home (I live alone) .. you can guess the rest. So going out for dinner then going straight to the hotel room together 😂... nervous ! I know I sound so ridiculous a) because I'm such a prude about this and b) because I'm a total relationship novice in my 20s.

I'm also such a prude that I'm worried just witnessing their " bathroom habits" will turn me off a bit. I know that'll sound very ridiculous to most people.

Any other prudes willing to offer advice ?

OP you aren't a prude I'm the same. I'm not sure why. Although I don't have a partner my kids getting older is making me feel the same. Other people have their own smells which I feel very uncomfortable with. I can recognise which of my children have just been to the toilet by the smell as well.
I also hate the sound of people chewing, particularly crisps, dislike the smell of skin as well. God knows how I managed to make so many kids!

I'm very confused about all the people saying 'use the public loo instead'. Surely if you can't poo and have one person know, public loos would be impossible?
It's nothing to do with respect. Poo, wee and farts happen. Everybody does them. It's stupid to try to pretend otherwise.

I have IBS and have had terrible trouble with my bowels all my life. I have been married 31 years and me and DH now just joke about it, in fact he said last night i was asleep, he had his hand resting on my arse and i farted on his hand we just laughed it off. When i have been ill and i do bleach the toilet and spray airfreshener, it still stinks but i just tell him to give it 10 mins before going in bathroom! Then he goes in, and makes fake vomiting noises! I do the same when he makes a pong! Oh we are such romantics

It's not stupid to feel embarrassed though card. And there is a difference between not being well, and openly lifting one arse cheek whilst watching telly and letting rip without giving a fuck. If someone did that with me I'd assume they had no respect for themselves or me. I get other people who disagree find each other and it's fine, but it isn't stupid if you find that repulsive, even in yourself, as OP does.
And the thing about a public loo is that yes other people come and go and know you're having a shit. But those people aren't the ones you are attracted to, having sex with, having someone going down there. As people have argued, in time, it gets less uncomfortable. But having the guts to let someone near you intimately, is hard. And to be honest, at first we all put our best bits forward, and smelly shit noises are not the best bits, unless we are unwell and cannot help it.

@GiddyGardner I'm confused 😐 what fell into your palm??

Married 21 years and DH has never been in with me when I have had a poo! (And he's seen me give birth 4 times!)

In hotels there has always been a separate toilet in our rooms so have still had privacy, but I tend to take deodorant or other nice smelling stuff to try to cover the smell. At home we have glade Touch n Fresh for our toilet smells.

Knock knock knock was going to ask Giddy Gardner the same thing?
Was it dribble? Or another bodily fluid? Or a body part???

Oh DP and I fart and wee in front of each other. But we don't poo. I like my privacy, would find it embarrassing.

Giddy.... was it a poo?

How could it have been a poo unless he was squatting over her hand? I hope she enlightens us 😂

@knockknockknock a bollock

Take your phone into the bathroom and play some tunes VERY loudly.

@GiddyGardner Thank god for that 😀😀

@knockknockknock 'thank god for that'?? I squeezed his bollock during a romantic massage! I didn't lovingly and gently caress it...I bloody squeezed it...quite hard (primal reaction I guess), And all because it innocently fell into my hand! I was mortified! Maybe he enjoyed it? Anyway we are married now, so I guess he must have or he just looked past my weird reaction.

DH and I are far too open with each other in this department - nothing is off limits!

Been with DP 10 years. We don’t fart in front of each other, go into the bathroom. If one accidentky sneaks out we pretend we didn’t hear it / can’t small it.

DH and I have been together for years and never pass wind in front of each other. I think it shows a lack of respect. I don’t get why people would get a stomachache from holding it in (unless they have a medical condition). I don’t feel the urge to pass wind throughout the day. Perhaps they are eating food that disagrees with them.

Relieved by some of these responses! They're making me feel a little less crazy

Toilets not In the room is a good idea but not sure how you do that discretely? What excuse do you come up with to just pop downstairs for a while ?

It's not for a couple of weeks yet. Perhaps if we spend loads of time together between now and then it won't be so bad !😂

Need to make a phone call, no signal in room.
Take some laxatives three days before to have a clear out.

DP and I are both very windy and if we got up and went to the bathroom whenever we needed to fart, we'd wear out the stair carpet. We just let rip proudly.

We'll pee in front of each other but not poo, although we go away in our motorhome a lot. Having a crap in what is really no more than a cupboard in the confined space of a motorhome really does reduce your inhibitions a lot. Especially when you're parked up in the street and you can hear people talking as they walk by.

Since we stopped in Axminster for a couple of hours one morning, "going to Axminster" has become a euphemism for having a dump.

Take laxatives? Jesus!

Why not?! Less chance of needing a poo on the day. Just do it enough before that you don't get the runs!

Since we stopped in Axminster for a couple of hours one morning, "going to Axminster" has become a euphemism for having a dump BRILLIANT

Giddy I still don't understand... what's embarrassing about it? Surely If you're giving each other naked massages, the idea is that things are going to be groped!

I have IBS, I don't like it when DP walks in the bathroom when I have a flare up but he doesn't see it as an issue. We don't have a lock on the door and the door is always shut (to keep heat/smells in) so he doesn't always know what I'm doing. I will sometimes announce 'my stomach isn't happy' and he knows this means it's going to be unpleasant so gives the bathroom a wide berth for as long as it suits him.
He doesn't care if I go in when he's on the loo and most of the time I don't either. Quite often if we're having a conversation and one of us needs to toilet we follow the other one to continue the conversation.