to be worried something's happened?

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I've been phoning my parents since 11am and the house phone is ringing out. Mobiles straight to answerphone.

They are mid/late 60s and not in good health. My mum is very unwell and my Dad had a stroke a few months ago.

My mum very rarely goes out and if she does it's not for long especially when it's so cold. She would normally answer the phone eventually however she is prone to falls and is unable to get up herself. It takes a long time for my Dad to help her up.

We are in the process of various referrals - social work, physio, occupational therapy etc as this had been quite a quick downward spiral and she only very recently got a diagnosis.

I'm am of work ill with a stomach bug at the moment so had have been lying here ruminating over something bad having happened. I have anxiety so I may be overreacting.

I know no one can answer if I'm worrying over nothing but I'm just imagining the worst. If either of them have been admitted to hospital they won't have my number on them, will think I'm working and probably won't think of another way to get hold of me.

How long should I leave it before doing something and what should I do if I need to?

Oh thank goodness for that!

Yes, definitely get a neighbour's number OP

My mum is 80 and I was really worried about her when I couldn’t get hold of her one Sunday evening. I knew she’d been out the previous night. Turned out she was out Sunday night too! What a dirty stop-out! I suddenly realised I’d turned into the parent.... My cousin who lives near her has a key now.

The phone thing is an issue. They are of the generation (as am I) when a phone outside the house was a thing you use if you need it. Not a thing to receive calls on. Hence they would normally switch off.
Look into getting them a cheap phone with large buttons and teach them to send and receive text messages.

Awww!

That's lovely!

Glad that they are both OK.

Is there anything in place for someone to be alerted & help if your mum falls?

Aw bless, glad they are ok. Reminds me of the time my grandad decided to take himself out for lunch for the first time in 10 years. I panicked too.

Glad they are ok and they managed the cinema.

What I do with my grandad is leave my number somewhere obvious in the house where it can be seen, the times he has been ill and called an ambulance the ambulance crew have called me as they have seen my number left by the phone in the living room.

Luckily you parents are fine this time

They went to see Murder on the Orient Express - I never even asked if they enjoyed it!

We are currently in the process of getting the falls alert installed.

Also consider getting a care line put in, so they just have to press a button if one of them falls, it goes through to care line and they decide if the person needs an ambulance and they contact you.

Aww that's so sweet.

Pleased to see it all worked out in the end.

I'm glad they are ok OP!

Pleased to hear all is well, and now you have a contingency plan.

Phew! Thank goodness they were off enjoying themselves!

Glad you are getting a plan together for next time they go awol

Parents eh? You never stop worrying