Mummy her pants are really really tiny

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So last night after losing my scales in January and after an extremely stressful period studying & Uni tuition fee problems I finally found my scales and found myself at my heaviest ever in my life. I discovered my ex having an affair and we split up over 2.5 years ago and at the time I was in the process of losing weight healthily as I’m not a big person anyway and after the “divorce diet” I was at my thinnest since having my second 7 years ago. He split up from OW 6 months ago but has had a new girlfriend within a month who is nearer to my DD10’s age than his but seems lovely. And they like her so that is all that matters.

But recent events have led me to not look after myself and not exercise at all since September. But the stone I’ve put on is only since January. So I’ve had a pretty miserable night just wanting to stuff my face but I didn’t.

This morning DD6 is in my room getting dressed with me. Whilst watching me she turns around and says
“Mummy (New GF)’s pants are really really really tiny. And it goes in her bum but she doesn’t pull it out like I do. Mummy she just keeps it on like that and wears her jeans over. But they are so very very tiny.” With pure amazement in her eyes. Whilst I didn’t know if I wanted to laugh or cry.

Now she’s never seen me wear tiny pants because even when I were slimmer after kids I tend to go for comfort more than anything.

But AIBU to want to finish a whole family pack of mini choc rolls from miserableness at that picture in my head.

To top it off I’m meeting Tiny Pants for the first time tomorrow. Please mumsnetters be there in person with me so that I can look at her instead of picturing her in very tiny pants.

That's ok. I'm starting to wonder when I'll stop wearing thongs and start acting my age.
I remember my health visitor checking my stitches a few weeks after giving birth and commenting on my unsuitable knickers.

I don't wear pants Tiny or otherwise.

I wear things and have done for the last 20 years (can't stand briefs). My knickers may be small but my arse is still massive!

As Winston Churchill once said- "it's not the size of the kickers that matters, but the sass in the ass that wears them"

Tell her the 90s called and want their pants back

You do realise women wear thongs so they don’t get VPL right? Even to this day?

I think what you’re referring to is actually having your thong on show and that wasn’t in the 90s - it was in the 2000s.

The only women slagging off this woman (who’s literally done nothing wrong) are the ones that are self conscious about their own middle aged underwear.

I wear thongs most f the time,Im nearly 40 ,not tiny at all, had thrush once in my life (touch wood), they are comfortable and my bum looks great in them..
Agree with The only women slagging off this woman (who’s literally done nothing wrong) are the ones that are self conscious about their own middle aged underwear.
No need for those nastiness putdowns..

Perhaps people are getting thongs confused with G strings? There's a difference between a stringy bit of nylon with sequins and bits of ribbon on it and your basic comfy Tesco cotton thong. Thong fan, 42

I'm still wearing my massive belly button high granny pants that I bought for the days after giving birth 9 and a half months ago. I'm 26.

"They normally come home with her perfume which I already put a stop to.
She wanted to do their nails over at the end of half term and I said no.
My ex was never keen for earrings but he even offered to pay for it which I said no to. And I feel like if my girls get to those phases it’s for me as their mum to be part of it. Not someone who came into their life without them asking few months ago. "

This seems a little harsh on your part. This woman really seems to be trying to fit in and be nice to your girls and do "girly" things with them, is there really any harm in letting her paint their nails for them? Theyre hardly toddlers. It seems a little like you are denying them any fun with the new woman simply because shes not you, its not her fault or your girls fault that your ex cheated on you with someone that wasnt her.

You sound nice OP and this thread is generally funny. I didn't like the post about the GF being a 'silly cow' but it's par for the course, some women just won't rein it in.

Quick question, are garter knickers the same as G-strings? I like those, could never get on with a thong, I've tried. Too, too painful!

On the point of the perfume, I would have been the carried-away child who would have wanted a squirt of it because I've always loved perfumes... it wouldn't have entered my head that my mum wouldn't have liked that. Perfume squirter is probably equally oblivious just, as StormTreader says, trying to find common and nice ground with your daughters.

Well done on the Mini Rolls. We keep them in the freezer here, that way you can just take out the one or two. :)

I agree StormTreader, what your dd's get up to at their dads is up to him, providing there is no child protection issues.

The xh's dp sounds lovely and it is nice that she is wanting to bond with the dds.

Are no, not is no

Pity her. She's still at the stage where she's sacrificing her comfort to impress your ex. No doubt, she'll learn!

Who says GF was flaunting her tiny pants? Maybe DD waltzed into her bedroom without knocking. In which case I have every sympathy for GF.

Forever - My thongs were always on show in the 90s, above my All Saints low slung combat trousers and below my short vest showing my belly ring. i guess i was just really fashion forward! I stopped wearing mine 5 yrs ago after they were too painful rubbing the scar tissue from my 3rd degree tear, so i sadly had to let them go. I now wear hot pant shorts things to avoid the vpl.

I think that was called Rocking a Whale Tail MrsK I may have embraced that style myself

Pity her. She's still at the stage where she's sacrificing her comfort to impress your ex. No doubt, she'll learn!

You know her personally then?

she's sacrificing her comfort to impress your ex

Ha, i never realised it had a name. Well i was defo rocking that look in 1998 as that's the year i went to uni and i remember the clothes distinctly. I loved that look.

Pity her. She's still at the stage where she's sacrificing her comfort to impress your ex. No doubt, she'll learn!

I think I speak for every thong wearer on this thread when I say - thongs are waaaay comfier than briefs (and my 5 year old greying sainsburys white cotton thongs are impressing no one).

Go buy a pack of these and give them a week, you will never go back
www.figleaves.com/uk/sloggi-light-thong/SI-27729.html?dwvar_SI-27729_color=443055&cgid=

She can actually get to fuck, can TP

I agree with @StormTreader

All hilarious thong jokes aside, what the DC do when they're with their Dad is between him, them and his DP. You don't get to forbid them to do anything or "put a stop" to anything as harmless as nail painting.

I'm sure you're lovely and finding it hard to see your ex move on like this, but when they're with you you're responsible and when they're with him he is - whether you approve of his methods and approaches or not. It's controlling, unreasonable and potentially confusing and hurtful to your children to start dictating what goes on at their Dad's.

Take a step back.

The Aldi mini choc rolls are a huge discovery in this household OP in case you feel the need to indulge post TP meet.

FizzyGreenWater
Thanks for your message. I can and at this point will try and Support where I can as I do not wish for my girls to have their lives made upside down again. They were only 7 and 4 when their lives changed and has had to deal with loads. I agree with everything you say re: my ex and for now I need to be the parent who puts them first and give him the opportunity to be a dad. And I do wish that she stays but yes I have a niece her age and would have advised her to stay very far away. But she is not my niece and she is an adult so she will have to get to know my ex in her own time.
My first priority will always be my girls. I’ve been the only consistency in their lives and will continue to be. I will not talk down at the GF as there is no need to. I want to be supportive so that she also knows that she could contact me at anytime if need be. Trust me the opportunity will arise. It even did with OW.

AND TO MAKE IT CLEAR I PERSONALLY HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THONGS, G-STRINGS OR THE LIKE. MY MESSAGE WAS LIGHTHEARTED AFTER THINKING OF MY DDs COMMENT THROUGHOUT THE DAY.

StormTreader I don’t think I deny my girls any fun with her at all. I am the one encouraging contact. I come from a culture (not British) where we used to pierce our ears as babies and wear jewellery. My ex is the one who was against it and explained reasons for it and as a British resident for over a decade I trusted his judgement and read up and joined mumsnet 10years ago and learnt what was the British way of doing things and raising kids. There are things that I personally wouldn’t allow my kids to do but I am an avid reader and research everything I want to do or what they want to do. I was very tomboyish myself. My firstborn only wore pink due to gifts she got as a baby. As a 2.5/3 year old she got into it and as her mum I bought her pinky stuff and Peppa pig things and dressing up stuff as that was the phase she was in. By the time her sister was born I couldn’t dress DD2 in similar outfits as my ex and DD1 loved the girly outfits. Because of my DDs I learnt to sew and got them age appropriate clothing when everyone on mumsnet were moaning about our girls being made into mini adults with the outfits out there. I only stopped sewing when we split up. Literally have not sewn a single item for them since. That’s how hard life has been. Fast forward to them being older DD1 now wants to wear black and grey and be cool. She has the curliest hair ever and I allow her to the limit of being a 10year old. DD2 still loves dressing up whilst playing with her car sets and train sets. With mostly “so-called boy” toys mixed in with my little pony toys.

So as a mum my own family are amazed as I was so against marriage, having kids, cooking etc. Still hate cooking. But I got married. Had kids enjoyed having kids. Became a childminder because of my kids and learnt to sew because of my kids. We are now all in a different phase where they are growing up and I am enjoying our new phase. I will support new GF to a limit. I’m a very open minded person. I was the one who told him to not park 5 doors down the road with new GF when picking up DDs as she didn’t do anything to me or my children and I have no issue with her. He even messaged me saying I’m the best baby Momma (yes he actually used those words) and ex-wife ever.
I’m the one who spent whole Xmas morning with him in my house because it was the 3rd Xmas since we split but the first one he has seen the kids or even bought them gifts. Even the GF bought them stuff. Something OW never did. I only put my foot down when he wanted us to play happy families with his parents. I got a thread up on that.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe thanks. The point re: the perfume. When they came home the first and second time I didn’t say anything and knew it’s just kids wanting what the GF has. When it started happening more than once and during school week and then turning up when I picked them up from school smelling of perfume I asked him to ask her nicely to stop it. They are kids at the end of the day. Come summer they can have more fun. School weeks it’s about reality and homework and things like that that no one does but me.

Re: her seeing her in her pants. It wasn’t a point of then being in a swimming pool or anything like that. He doesn’t take them anywhere extravagant like that. It wasn’t them walking in. It was them getting dressed in the same room. As according to DD1 she was brushing DD2s hair in “daddy’s room”.

AnneLovesGilbert
Just to assure you. I have no issue with my ex moving on. My gosh I wouldn’t wish him on my worse enemy. Even before he and OW split I thought she could do better than him as he has treated her horribly and also treated my kids worse. Whatever I felt for him stopped when he treated my kids as second class citizens. Made my kids go without. Forced us to move out of our home into an area where there was a police raid 2 weeks ago of peados grooming young girls from ages 8 and upwards. That was 3 doors from my house. He lives in the nicest part of town. His whole family does and when we moved here we chose a nice area to make sure our girls had the best we could provide. When I kicked him out they were never on his mind. And for you to tell me I’m controlling when I’m not and never have been but supportive is a real slap in the face.

Sorry for the long message. Honestly this thread was lighthearted. I do not dictate but when my kids come home and complain about their dad but refuse to tell them they trust me to look out for them. So far I personally think I’ve done a brilliant job.

I’ve change names numerous times but my ex is the guy who dropped my then 7 and 4 year old DDs in front of our very busy on the road house to force me to leave the gym to look after them as his parents paid for a one bed apartment 6 months up front for him to have our girls in. Then took him and our girls shopping to Ikea to kit the flat out. He came around lent my tools set whilst putting everything together. Then instead of having them that night as planned as I met with him and our DDs for a meal to show the DDs that mum and dad are still getting on. I got home, changed and left for the gym. He decided he wanted to Christian the house with OW instead and left our kids with bags and all to fend for themselves. My 7 year old left 4 year old. Crossed busy road to knock on neighbours door (school friend) further down hoping they’ll be in to take them in. I got a text from my friend saying that she has our girls and no idea as her DH went up and down the road looking for EX-H. I had a thread here back in August 2015.

Honestly if I had to be from the lovely ladies who started my break up post on mumsnet none of you would have believed a single thing that is how out of the world he has behaved. I read mumsnet every day. Don’t always post but I post and support lots of women on my local single parents group. I’m more of an active want to help person then just post. But lots of these threads have been of tremendous help for me over the 2.6 years we’ve split up.

But please this is light hearted. It’s not about New GF. It’s a mum who felt a little down and needed some encouragement from fellow ladies whilst probably secretly envying her for the fact that she can fit into any sort of pants that is smaller than my size.

Oh and as another update. Our meeting has been postponed. We are now meeting Friday morning instead. I think it’s due to the weather.