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Please judge my dds dinner

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Nicpem1982 · 26/02/2018 16:38

My dd (3) is miserable today she's been to the Dr's for inoculations my dh is away for the next week and I'm home alone.

She's requested a fish pie for dinner so I've bought a frozen one which she will have with carrots peas and broccoli as I'm eating later as a friend is coming around

My sil thinks this is an appalling dinner for a growing child as its pre made, full of salt and additives and if you listen to her hysteria i may as well be offering dd class a narcotics

I cook everything from scratch and its a rare occasion we have frozen beige food and 28 days out of 30 we eat a varied diet so I don't think it's that bad. Sil thinks I should have a freezer full of home made delights ready to feed dd on the occasions she eats alone (again we eat as a family around the table the majority of the time)

So is fish pie and veggies really that bad for my dd?

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bravobravo · 26/02/2018 16:51

No it's not the end of the world - both you and your sil sound like hard word if I'm to be honest.

WorraLiberty · 26/02/2018 16:51

It sounds as though your SIL has picked up on your lack of confidence and has decided to stick the boot in.

What is your relationship with her like normally?

Mrswoollyfromwoollylane · 26/02/2018 16:52

What pallisers said.

I've never known such hysteria about food as there is now.

Really who the fuck cares?

Why does your sil even know what your dd is having for dinner?

Why do you need to explain that it's a one off?

Canuckduck · 26/02/2018 16:52

Who cares? Also who reports to their SIL what they’re feeding their child?

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Nicpem1982 · 26/02/2018 16:52

Laguna - no I home cook because I'm trying to keep my weekly shop down not because I'm a whizz in the kitchen Grin

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Nicpem1982 · 26/02/2018 16:53

Lolita - we don't have a health visitor by dd is 3

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formerbabe · 26/02/2018 16:54

It's fine as a one off. However, I'd have tried to buy a kids ready meal as they are usually lower in salt.

SillyLittleBiscuit · 26/02/2018 16:57

I can't imagine sharing what I was cooking for dinner with anyone. Particularly if the meal was only requested today. You know your daughter normally gets a healthy and varied diet. I wouldn't worry about a one off and I'd stop sharing my meal plans with people.

Mrswoollyfromwoollylane · 26/02/2018 16:57

I love to hate these threads.
It's always people coming in saying they're having a really really bad food day, they're having homemade sweet potato fries and homemade burgers. Should they feel guilty.

Makes me wonder who's buying all the waffles and onion rings from the supermarket.

You know deep down if you are feeding your children a balanced diet, you don't need to ask.

doesthislookoddtoyou · 26/02/2018 16:57

My sil thinks this is an appalling dinner for a growing child as its pre made, full of salt and additives and if you listen to her hysteria i may as well be offering dd class a narcotics

She's a dickhead. Many ready meals are perfectly fine with very few additives and low in salt.

Steeley113 · 26/02/2018 16:57

Mine are having fish fingers, chips and beans. I can’t even boast that I Home cook the rest of the time because I don’t. Seriously, you’re fine. Get a grip and tell SIL to butt out.

BlurryFace · 26/02/2018 16:58

I love my family and in-laws, if I told any of them my kids were eating frozen fish pie they'd say "oh fantastic, fish is very good for them".

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Nicpem1982 · 26/02/2018 16:58

Sil called me this afternoon and we had a chat dinner came up it's pretty normal conversation for us.

We have a good relationship generally

In the op explaining her normal diet is in context with the question I was asking if I'd put fish pie ready meal and veggies for 3 year old and no context re frequency etc how would you be able to answer my question?

As with many of these threads I've ready the first posts are well what's the diet like normally/plenty of fruit and veg etc so I actually thought it was helpful to put that in the op

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MERLYPUSSEDOFF · 26/02/2018 17:00

My sil thinks this is an appalling dinner for a growing child as its pre made, full of salt and additives and if you listen to her hysteria i may as well be offering dd class a narcotics

Take her for a kebab instead?

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Nicpem1982 · 26/02/2018 17:00

Merly Grin I don't like the smell

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Thistlebelle · 26/02/2018 17:01

Stop telling your SIL what you are cooking. It’s not her business.

You are an adult, make your own decisions and stand by them.

TheJoyOfSox · 26/02/2018 17:03

What @Pawpatrol on page one said.

WhatWouldOliviaPopeDo · 26/02/2018 17:03

My DD has got a stinky cold and has asked for chicken nuggets and chips instead of the chicken stir-fry and noodles I'd planned. Am I going to say no because of what someone else might say? Am I eff. Let her have what she wants! Once in a while won't hurt.

WhatWouldOliviaPopeDo · 26/02/2018 17:05

Stinking cold, not stinky! Grin

Gatehouse77 · 26/02/2018 17:06

Meh, now and again is fine.

LolitaLempicka · 26/02/2018 17:06

Of course you can see an health visitor for a three year old. If you are so clueless about nutrition, you really should seek help. —Although perhaps you are not so much clueless as smug?—

Decemberqueen · 26/02/2018 17:06

@MrsWoolly
Ah yes the homemade brigade. I always chuckle when on the Whats for Dinner threads it doesn't take long for someone to start putting 'home made' this, 'homemade' that. Why?
OP, it sounds fine. Ignore SIL.

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Nicpem1982 · 26/02/2018 17:10

Whatwouldoliviapopedo- hope your dd has a speedy recovery

Lolita- we haven't seen a healthy visitor for 2 years and I wouldn't even know where to start

As for smug aren't you lovely

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gussyfinknottle · 26/02/2018 17:11

Tell your sil to mind her own business. Sometimes we do perfect, sometimes we do ok.
You will drive yourself nuts with anxiety which is absolutely not helpful to your child.

Mummyoflittledragon · 26/02/2018 17:13

There is such hysteria in this country about salt. The body needs salt and without it our hearts literally could not beat. The too much salt campaigns apply to people, who eat takeaways and readymade meals far too regularly. Both dd and I have medical conditions, where we need to add more salt to our diet than the average person. Salt isn’t evil and we all need to consume sodium to live.

Idk about the additives in there but they’re not going to do much harm on an ad hoc basis.