DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

Love a bit of culture me 😂

I shed a few tears whilst visiting Auschwitz and the Normandy beaches but nobody noticed. It was private emotion. I'd expect my partner to walk away if I made a public display.

I can empathise OP

I too have screamed at a ceiling. The trick I use is to shove the corner of the pillow over my mouth so I don’t wake the kids.

Not sure if they allow you to bring your own pillow into the cistine chapel though

Screaming at the Michaelangelo eh? Ok then...

I am often moved deeply by things like that too OP.

Art, music, sunsets etc.

But I keep it to myself. I feel things deeply, but have a lump in my throat or blink watery eyes.

Your problem is not how you feel but your inability to restrain your reaction.

I wouldn't want to travel with you either.

OP were you in the Norwich Odeon in June/July 1982 watching ET? If that was you weeping and wailing when ET came close to death please know that you gave me and my friends a proper laugh.

Anyone remember this? This would have had me screaming......with laughter!

Spanish Fresco

Too funny!! Having been there recently I can’t imagine wailing at it! Standing and looking in awe, yes! Wailing and screaming, no! My goodness - what hoot!

I remember I was once in an art museum in Spain (it was a long time ago and I really don’t like art but it was part of an excursion).

We came across a sculpture (situated in an alcove behind some metal railings) which was the absolute double of someone we knew. I’m not sure why now but we took an absolute fit of the giggles and ended up having to hold onto the railings to keep upright whilst silently shaking with laughter.

Once we’d pulled ourselves together we turned round and there was a queue of people waiting a respectful distance away. They clearly thought that, like the OP, we were overcome with emotion.

To this day I’m still and in equal measures.

So sad OP hasn’t come back, so sad, so very sad... sniff... waaaaaaaaiiiiiiiiiilllllll

I fell asleep in St. Paul's...never wailed though...

You're bonkers OP surely. Are you a drama queen in all aspects of life or just when it comes to arty pursuits?

Just in case.....

Double trouble Scream if you wanna go faster!

When I went there was a pink Davide also in the gallery, that was worthy of a scream too !! Not sure if he is still there.

My DH thinks I'm weird because I cry at most tv shows and films and often songs too but God I feel sorry for yours. I understand some people become emotional easily and others don't but there's a little thing called self control

Try popping a couple of diazepam before you go to these things :)

To be honest you sounds a bit bonkers. Don't blame him

Lilymossflower
I'm an extremeLy sensitive person, haven't travelled abroad yet but I can totally imagine this sort of thing happening to me lol when I do.
Don't be ashamed of it. Never be ashamed of it 💖

Great, another self absorbed snowflake. Do everyone a favour and stay at home. Of course you should be ashamed but that doesn't fit in with the me me me ethos does it

Calling someone "snowflake" is not only disablist but also sexist as well as deeply offensive. You have triggered me. I hope you're satisfied.

I think I may know why op has gone awol. www.thesun.co.uk/news/5680362/mp-wife-parliament-aeroflot-air-rage/. She was off on a little trippy.

I bet you're one of those people who sneeze REALLY loudly O.P
I'm a very loud sneezer. I really can't do it any quieter. But I don't scream at art.

One must learn to control ones screams. One can't go round screaming willy nilly. Didn't ones parents teach one to control their emotions? Or did one learn that one gets what one wants if they scream long and hard enough?
One is no longer a toddler who can't control themselves. Behave as a grown-up should or one may find dh has left them and they are living at home with mummy and daddy again.

I wail and cry at Center Parcs - but only because I bloody hate it

Hilarious thread. Even if it's a made-up story

Such an interesting first (and only) thread, OP

But @MarysLittleLamb if you're so so so so so so so so so so so culturally attuned, why don't you know more about art?

The first time I went to Bayreuth, I was overcome by a sense of uncontrollable grief and fury during the last act of Götterdämmerung. I vaulted over the people sitting in the seats next to me and raced down the aisle, tears streaming down my cheeks and swatting ushers left and right with my programme. Upon reaching the front of the hall, I let out a cry of "Valhalla, I am coming!" and launched myself head first into the orchestra pit. I came to on the grassy bit in front of the Festspielhaus to find Calixto Bieito standing over me. We are now firm friends and I have a standing invitation to attend all his premières

Just wanted to repost this genius