DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

Screamed at the Michaelangelo
How would the OP have coped with the other Turtles?

I am absolutely howling

Lilymossflower
You should be aware that your histrionics would spoil the experience of everyone else, for which you should feel very ashamed. Very.

Oh and this kind of behaviour does NOT demonstrate your sensitivity. Just your over inflated ego.

MNHQ Do us a solid And please don’t delete this! It’s made me extremely happy!

From a long time mner who has only annoyed you once or twice in the past...

I cry very easily and cannot help it, movies, commercials, music.... I try very hard to disguise it when it happens. My husband and son love to look at me and smile indulgently when it happens and I hate it when they look at me. It is very embarrassing.

I think the difference is, I try to act normal and I certainly don’t wail or scream or weep openly in public. It seems you’re trying to draw attention to yourself and you are not bothered by people looking at you and “consoling” you. I think it is very embarrassing as I am well aware that a mature person is able to control emotions to an extent at least. An immature person will cause scenes.

You are being melodramatic, I think. It’s one thing to be softhearted or sentimental. It’s another to be wailing and going on in public, you are putting on a show. You may not be able to control a few tears but you absolutely can control whether you wail, scream, or weep openly, can you not?

Threads like this are why I love mumsnet, I've not laughed this much in ages and I'm only on page 6

OP, I haven't rtt but look into Stendhal syndrome...

I did once faint in an art exhibition. No idea why, it definitely wasn't due to being overcome with emotion. I just became aware of blackness coming down across my field of vision and the next thing I knew I was on the floor surrounded by concerned strangers, feeling intensely embarrassed. I couldn't get out quickly enough - and felt a lot better in the fresh air anyway.

I'm a big crybaby very sensitive and emotional. I cry at commercials, songs, movies, tv shows, I even teared up at the Monet exhibit at my local art museum. But I can't say I've ever screamed in public.

This thread is so amazing.

For full disclosure, Rome is my favourite place. It awes me every single time. I get teary in many places there, including the Sistine Chapel (we got a special tour and there were only six of us in there), parts of the Roman Forum, the Vatican, and more. In Florence, David got to me too (sooo much more amazing than any photo. Truly spectacular). I cried at Auschwitz multiple times. For obvious reasons.

I am also with many on this thread and cry my eyes out every time I watch or read HP (McGonagall’s statue instruction is spine-tingling!). Once, when I was hormonal and started reading HP again, I cried at Harry picking a spider off his sock in the cupboard under the stairs. Yup. I’m pathetic.

I also cried at the ppmentioning the penis museum. I may have also done a little wee.

But I’ve never screamed at art. I wonder if OP knew Michaelangelo was held captive for decades, and forced to paint that ceiling? Would it have changed the volume of her wails?

Honest to God, this thread is comedy gold. :D

Haven't RTFT as it's stupid late and I'm looking after a poorly DS but after reading all the OP posts and the ones from St Sophie of Mumsnet I'm thinking that the OP is genuine.

I've met her! well related to her actually but not a blood relative
If it wasn't for one or two minor details I would swear I know the OP.

My DH and DCs don't want to go to the cinema with me incase I let a tear fall and embarrass them but the person I know, who I swear is Mary, is beyond drama.

Seriously.
She is the biggest attention seeker I have ever met and her 'travelling companion' hasn't been away anywhere other than a beach in Blighty with her for years as they cannot bear the humiliation of the 'all about me' exaggerated devastation if they go anywhere close to emotion!

OP is either hairy handed, the person I know or another person I know who knows about the person I know IYSWIM.

I am crying and wailing at this thread. Fortunately my DH is not around.

I have cried at paintings, i’ve sobbed at concerts and I’ve had a proper, full-on, hands-free, contactless orgasm on the grass at the bottom of the Statue of Liberty on a glorious sunny day (never quite managed that during ACTUAL sex more than a handful of times) but I have NEVER screamed at a painting/Statue/mausoleum. I have nearly ruptured myself reading this thread though 😄 And I definitely am that Catherine Tate surprise woman. Goodness I need a lie down now.

Please stop suggesting sending her to Blakpool, she'll end up as an attraction, between Gypsy Petulengro and the world's biggest stick of rock. 'Roll up roll up, see the human waterfall'
Oh and we have the tower don'cha know and the seafront to look out over, oh dear, theyll set her off

You sound really unhinged!

Have you got any diagnosed behaviour problems? It looks like your social radar might not be as good as other people's.

Do you enjoy the attention? I am very emotional but try to keep a low profile when out and this includes gardens, plants or plays etc but I don't sit around "screaming"

I became overwhelmed at MOMA in my and had to be taken outside screaming.
I was 5.
OP we can all be hit by tears at places of great beauty or sadness but the trick is not to vocalise. Wailing is a choice.

I haven't seen anything so hilarious on here for a long time.
At least it wasn't an orgasm op. Or was it? A very deep sad orgasm. 😂

I only get emotional and wail in my son's football games.
But that's socially acceptable because it's a man's game.

I've changed my mind. Screaming and wailing in the Sistine Chapel at Michelangelo is the feminist thing to do.

The OP shouldn't have a tv programme on her own, she should tean up with the man who cries at pottery. I would so watch that!

I love the idea of someone screaming at the Michelangelo! This has really tickled me.

Crack on OP. Please do continue to update us about anything further reactions you have.

My most favourite MN thread ever.

So funny. Really pleased it didn't get taken down, want to show DH tomorrow.

Wailed.

Shat myself at the Taj Mahal.

Brilliant! 😂😂😂

You're not sensitive.

You're an attention-seeking idiot.

You wanted to touch the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel and got upset because you couldn't and started wailing?

FFS.

I gasped when I saw the Queen' s gold throne in the house of Lords and I think the person standing next to me may have heard. Does that count?

I'm moved to tears every time I see this...and want to levitate right above the glory that is Gerard Butler in his Sparta costume. Screaming may be involved. THIS, IS, SPARTA!!! m.youtube.com/watch?v=-qR0Uke2XNI
🤷‍♀️🙈😂