DH embarrassed by my sensitivity

[MarysLittleLamb]

I get very moved by certain types of art and music, so much so that I occasionally cry. Last year we went to the Louvre and I ended up silently weeping at a number of art works. When we got out of the gallery DH admitted that he finds it all a bit over the top and unnecessary - as if I do it on purpose!

Anyway we've just got back from Rome. I became a little overwhelmed in the coliseum when I thought about the violence and death that had taken place there. DH said I was the only one in the entire place crying and he was fed up with it. I explained that I don't do it on purpose, it just gets to me.

We went to the Sistine Chappell the day after and I ended up screaming at the MichaelAngelo. A number of tourists tried to console me but DH just walked off muttering "for fucks sake". I felt so stupid. When we got out DH had a massive rant at me about how I spoil everything for him and he often wishes he was with someone normal who could visit places without making a scene. He also declared that he no longer enjoys travelling with me. I'm gutted because travel is the main thing we do together. AIBU to think I can't change who I am or should I??

YourVagesty 😂😂

I think perhaps your next holiday should be lower key-perhaps a week in Blackpool? But not in illuminations season-the twinkly lights have been known to illicit emotional responses...

Thank you thank you @SophieLMumsnet

This thread should be prescribed to anyone who needs some pure joy on a freezing Monday nothing has made me so happy for ages!

@CaffeineAndCrochet you’d have to be made from stone to not cry at Inside Out - entirely reasonable.

Also for a PP who said the Sistine Chapel was a quiet and contemplative place - it’s not at all. It’s nothing like a chapel anymore, no church like hush and sense of wonder, just a big, bare room with paintings on the wall the ceiling. It’s just crammed with people muttering and moving around. I found it utterly underwhelming.

Ok I know this is off the wall. Not the wailing wall. Perhaps op has gone off to a Mayan Temple to become a human sacrifice. Idk why I’m thinking of the scene from Death Becomes Her.
m.youtube.com/watch?v=mQak_Catq4Q. For those, who don’t know the film, she cannot die having taken a special potion.

I hate troll threads but the image of someone screaming at art is hilarious 😂.

@londonmummy oh yep it's real.....in the Sex Museum in Amsterdam they have penis seats...now that would make anyone scream and their eyes water lol

Please don’t take it down Mumsnet!

I do get being very emotional at art. But if you feel like you can’t keep quiet then you must go out and howl at the sky. You can’t go around hollering at paintings.

Try Disneyland Paris... Although I did cry a little when my disabled child met Mickey!!!!

You sound like a big dope!

After reading I also muttered "for fucks sake". If I was your DH I'd refuse to go anywhere cultural with you. Then again you'd probably get emotional in Tesco if you find your favourite biscuits on offer.

I just screamed when I read this would be deleted :(

I cried at Disneyland Paris. It cost €16 for a tiny burger and some cold fries and I had to queue for an hour just for that 'It's a Small World' travesty.

No, it wasn't my choice to go

I can't wait to see the next Red Bull ad!!!!!!!!!!!

"I shat myself at the Taj Mahal."

Wasn't that the follow up single to I Lost My Heart To A Starship Trooper?

The thread should not go into classics but I don't see it as being harmful.

I have a thread in classics

But the OP did over-egg it, if you will.

I just wailed and levitated to @MumsnetHQ when I read that this thread would be deleted. My DH wants to leave me. AIBU?

I sobbed when Dobby died and Dumbledore and Snape and Hedwig and Madeye and Fred and Lupin and Tonks, but not Sirius

and when McGonagall tells the statues to do their duty.

What does that say about me?

We were recently in a major art gallery: first, I leant forward a little to look at a detail and a room steward was there so fast, shouting no, no back, then in the next room I walked through a display of gilded cabinets, not realising I should have gone around( they were very spaced out TNT ) and another steward ran forward wagging his finger, again shouting no. My husband rolled his eyes and suggested we leave before we were thrown out. I am an art historian 😳

"I shat myself at the Taj Mahal."

That is perfectly consistent with my experience of India. Thankfully not me.

and when McGonagall tells the statues to do their duty.

I got goosebumps at that bit. Didn't scream though.

I got a bit choked up when I went to see Black Panther. There was a black woman in front of us with her two little boys and they were so excited all the way through the film that it kept making me tear up. But I wasn't about to cry and look like a knobhead so I bit my tongue, pinched my hand, whatever I needed to do to keep myself together.

It's nice to feel things deeply and I am in that camp (I can't even rewatch some Disney films), but it's also nice to consider the feelings of others around you. Silent tears are fine, if you feel anything more coming on, give yourself a pinch.

But the OP did over-egg it, if you will.

Her DH said she screamed, she said she wailed. Potayto potahto.

Totally understand the Coliseum less of the screaming at art intact don't really get crying at art at all, you do seem a little oversensitive!