DC birthday party photo

[Whitecup]

It was my DDs (Y6) birthday last week. This weekend we took 10 of her classmates for a meal at a local restaurant. Half way through the evening I took a photo of them all and sent it to their parents as part of a text thanking them for the gifts and to explain how good they’d all been etc via a private message.
Ive just gone on a social media site and seen one of the mums has uploaded the photo with a caption like “x living it up with her besties”. IABU to think that she should’ve just bloody kept it to herself!!

What the hell are you on about bluemirror apart from talking absolute shite

Well, you are the person who sent the picture to 10 other people. Did you think of asking the the 10 other parents did they mind if you did this?

I wouldn't care, but I don't generally post pictures of other people's children because I know that some people do get worked up about it. TBH I think they are being a bit odd unless there is a good reason for objecting (safeguarding, NC ex etc)

Why is @BlueMirror talking “shite”, @Whitecup?

It’s a valid point. You didn’t ask each parent if it were okay for you to message all the parents of the children attending with the picture, did you?

Well you’re complaining that someone has shared your child’s image online without your permission yet you didn’t ask permission to text other children’s images to the group. You only texted it to the parents but as you have seen I’ve you have sent it on it can now end up anywhere.
Generally if someone is concerned about their child’s image being shared they would check before group texting other children’s images. At least then if you have permission then it is on the other parents if the image then gets shared on sm.
But clearly you think that having the same respect for other people’s privacy as you expect yourself is a ‘shite’ opinion.

I suppose it's a good lesson in understanding that once you've sent out a picture you no longer have control over it.

YABU. You sent the pic to them. You didn't ask for it to be kept secret.

You took the photo of 10 other children and sent it to 10 other parents, I assume, without their permission either. They could have not posted it on fb but each sent it on to 1/2 dozen family and friends and eventually a hundred people could have seen it anyway.

I personally don’t have problems with posting a birthday party photo, but if you didnt want it shared you shouldn’t have shared it!

Unless you specifically said not to share it I would assume it was fine to do so.

Also in Year 6 I bet half of the kids have been taking & posting their own photos anyway.

I wouldnt care but I post pictures of my children on social media. If you didnt want it posted I agree with pp's that you should of said so. I wouldnt assume I had to keep it private when you had just sent it in a group chat like that.

Well I just think it’s weird- I’d assume that if someomeone wanted it on SM that’d they’d have done it that way and tagged people in but hey ho live and learn and I’ll take it on the chin.

yes I think you need to specify that you dont want it on social media if you are sending the picture out to people. I personally would always ask but I think if you send it to people there may be some sort of assumption that you have given them that pic for their own use. Which may be putting it on their facebook or where ever!
So in future if you dont want thing sonline I think you do need to make that clear when sending images.

Whitecup, in the daft world we live Bluemirror is absolutely correct.

OP, it makes the woman who posted it look like a fool, so yes, live and learn. She won't!

Bluemirror well said.

Bluemirror gets my vote.

I really couldn’t get worked up over this. Don’t say anything to her just let it go, unless any of the children has particular privacy concerns where they never have their pictures shared for whatever reason then it’s not a big deal

It's acceptable to contact this person and ask her to remove it from social media. These days, it seems that the onus is on the sender of the poster to apologise for not specifying that they don't want it on sm, not the other person to ask whether it's okay for them to post it.

Wow, why so rude to bluemirror OP? That was a ridiculous over reaction to a very fair point.

Seems common here to set up a Whatsapp group for a party/birthday outing and then share pics in the group of the event for all the parents to see. I have no problem with this and have even done it myself but would think it a bit off if any pics were put on social media without permission. I never put pics up of my DD with her friends without asking the parent(s) first. One of the parents is pretty active on fb but never puts any pics of her kids up which I respect even those I often post pics of mine.

DD is now at high school so I don't know all her friends & I have had pics Whatsapped to me of kids I've never seen before in my life which, thinking about if, could be seen as odd, I guess......

I wouldn't post a photo of anyone else's child on social media without checking with them first. But if I did, I think I'd credit the party properly by saying X at Y's birthday meal rather than out with her besties!

BlueMirror speaks sense. The OP just doesn't want to hear it.

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. Not sure what all the fuss is about.