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Original poster

To think you don’t beep your horn at pedestrians with sleeping children in prams?

445 replies

CatsForgotPassword · 25/02/2018 14:01

Just had a total arsehole do this to me, when we were crossing the road. Apparently I wasn’t moving fast enough and I got a mouthful of abuse too.

You don’t do that, do you? I have joint pain, severe pain and depression and DS is ASD and I’d just got him to sleep.

Why do some people enjoy being such knobs to others?

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DullAndOld · 25/02/2018 16:44

" maybe drivers should take a basic human decency test to learn how not to be such, to use a term someone used, snowflakes "

tbh YOU sound like a "snowflake"..

you think that drivers should notice if your child is sleeping, that they should notice and immediately understand the implications of your health issues, and you seem to think that the rules of the road (eg cross somewhere safely) don't apply to you.
I am really not surprised that you don't drive. You will change your tune when you do.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 25/02/2018 16:44

Well yes, it's the decent thing to do as a driver but really foolish to expect it. There are loads of anuses driving about, or just someone who is distracted!

2 seconds with your eyes off the road driving at 30 mph is a considerable distance of the road.

anon135 · 25/02/2018 16:46

Maybe just take it as a learning point and don't cross the road at that section again

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 25/02/2018 16:47

My argument is if you come into a road a pedestrian is already on, its polite and decent to let them go without being a huge anus

Would that argument have made you feel better if the driver hadn't seen you in time and had ploughed into you, or, god forbid, your buggy?

MaisyPops · 25/02/2018 16:48

My argument is if you come into a road a pedestrian is already on, its polite and decent to let them go without being a huge anus
I drive up a road, clear vision, 30mph. I see a pedestrian crossing the road, no crossings - obviously i slow down and it's fine

I come round a junction on green and someone has decided to cross the road slowly with a buggy - they might get a pip if i think they haven't seen me and i would brake to slow down. If they then were arsey at me, i'd rolls my eyes and carry on probably muttering something about people being fucking idiots. I wouldn't be abusive but i would seriously think the person crossing the road has less understanding of road safety than your average 8 year old.

SaucyJack · 25/02/2018 16:49

"then you are in the way and shouldn't be there. You are ignorant."

No. You are ignorant.

There's nothing in the Highway Code to state pedestrians shouldn't ever cross a road that a car may wish to use at some point in the near future.

Car drivers do not own the road. Change your attitude before you run somebody over and lose your license, because if you're bombing along at 40 and you hit somebody who is already crossing the road before you get there- you will legally be found to be in the wrong.

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CatsForgotPassword · 25/02/2018 16:50

Would that argument have made you feel better if the driver hadn't seen you in time and had ploughed into you, or, god forbid, your buggy?

Thank God my other half has an LLB, because I would ruin their fucking lives.

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Julie8008 · 25/02/2018 16:50

Why should I “run”? I was there first, on a cold day
That is not how right of way on roads work.

A pedestrian without right of way should only cross a road at a point where they will get across before any car travelling within the speed limit reaches them. I think a driver is within their rights to use their horn to warn you that you are acting dangerously.

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CatsForgotPassword · 25/02/2018 16:50

Car drivers do not own the road. Change your attitude before you run somebody over and lose your license, because if you're bombing along at 40 and you hit somebody who is already crossing the road before you get there- you will legally be found to be in the wrong.

This.

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YellowFlower201 · 25/02/2018 16:51

I think YABU to not accept some responsibility here. Yes- The driver could have graciously waved you across the road. Equally you could have waited until it's safe to cross. Your medical history has unfortunate but irrelevant. You need to take responsibility for crossing the road safely. I'm not sure you're taking that into account.

surreygirl1987 · 25/02/2018 16:52

@saucyjack are you sure the OP said the driver was doing 40mph? If the driver was speeding then they're BOTH in the wrong but I don't remember reading that.

I almost ran into a mother with two young children who were crossing on a corner the other day. I was well within the speed limit. I had to hit the brakes. Thank god i had quick reactions. The mother just froze. It was awful... but I was definitely not in the wrong. Anyone who crosses on a junction or blind bend is putting themselves and others in a dangerous situation.

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 25/02/2018 16:53

Thank God my other half has an LLB, because I would ruin their fucking lives.

And would that make him feel better, what with his wife being dead?

Jesus Christ. Are you bright enough to be crossing roads alone?

upsideup · 25/02/2018 16:54

Crossing when no cars are around is how most adults cross the road.

Sometimes maybe when I can see enough to ensure there is no risk of a car appearing and that I can safely get across the road without a car apearing. You make a judgement, you judgement was wrong and if you cant suitably judge how long it takes for you to cross the road or how long it takes a car to appear from around a bend then when you are with your child especially I would walk the extra distance to find a crossing, this time you were beeped at but next time you could be hit.
Where you crossed although you couldnt see any cars when you started you knew your child and your disabilities would make you cross slowly and as a 4 way crossroad there were lots of corners from cars to appear from, which they did, It dosnt matter if there were no cars when you started to cross but there were cars whilst you were still crossing.

anon135 · 25/02/2018 16:55

www.highwaycodeuk.co.uk/rules-for-pedestrians-crossing-the-road.html

How about you have a read of this then we can all move on with our lives Smile

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CatsForgotPassword · 25/02/2018 16:55

Jesus Christ. Are you bright enough to be crossing roads alone?

Are you bright enough to understand being in a car doesn’t mean you get to act like a twat?

And considering I’m part way though mine, I’d say yes.

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YellowFlower201 · 25/02/2018 16:56

If someone drives into you but your behaviour contributed to the accident you won't 'ruin their life'. Your partner's LLB won't help you I'm afraid.

430West · 25/02/2018 16:56

Thank God my other half has an LLB, because I would ruin their fucking lives

Why don't you have a chat with your OH about Contributory Negligence?

ladybee28 · 25/02/2018 16:56

As much as road rage drivers annoy me, it's nowhere near as much as pedestrians who think they're bionic – wafting about in the middle of the road, sauntering down the middle of a lane in a car park, or drifting out off the pavement whenever/wherever, without paying attention.

I don't drive on the pavement, so I don't walk in the road.

And if I am walking in the road for whatever reason, if a car shows up in the distance, I speed up to hit the other side faster.

Buggy or no buggy, joint pain or not, you're the one in the wrong bit of the road. Adjust accordingly.

And 'there were no cars coming'... there are ALWAYS cars coming. The fact that they're out of your sight doesn't mean they're not there.

This thread makes me want to poke myself in the eye with a fork.

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 25/02/2018 16:57

I really hope OP has life insurance.

And that her partner is in charge of the kid's welfare most of the time.

surreygirl1987 · 25/02/2018 16:58

Oh dear. OP I'm part way through a doctorate but that doesn't make me good at anything other than my subject area... I'm frankly useless at some things. The fact that you are part way through a course does not make you have good judgement on road safety my dear 🤔

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CatsForgotPassword · 25/02/2018 16:58

430West I study this myself, I’m well aware thanks. And I did nothing wrong.

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surreygirl1987 · 25/02/2018 16:59

@ladybee haha

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CatsForgotPassword · 25/02/2018 16:59

SurreyGirl you just sound pretentious.

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Original poster
CatsForgotPassword · 25/02/2018 17:00

And if I am walking in the road for whatever reason, if a car shows up in the distance, I speed up to hit the other side faster.

Why? You were there first. They can wait.

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anon135 · 25/02/2018 17:01

"Why? You were there first. They can wait"

OMG it's all about you isn't it!!