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To be feeling awkard

147 replies

mpeters82 · 24/02/2018 18:54

Hi,

I much happier in my life that I no longer chat to a friend that knew from childhood. (Let me call her Sarah).We were very close like sister. A situation happened and caused her to be horrible to the point I tried to be there for her as no longer live nearby. By calling, texting but got ignored. I feel better not to be hearing her situation. Although it sad what happened just no reason be like this towards me.

Through this situation I got closer to one Sarah's friend.( I call her Gina)
Then this was when I realized Sarah was starting to distance herself. Also Sarah and Gina fell out too.

Cut long story short is Sarah has another friend let (me call her Carly). I met Carly through Gina but had heard of Carly a lot from Sarah too but we never until now.

I now am in situation where I chat to Carly who speaks to Sarah and tell me about issues she has with her. Also Gina says stuff too.
But then I think how do you think feel.

Saying I don't mind listening but I get angry how I am hearing of Sarah acting innocent and treating this ladies like this.

One day I did have a go Sarah on the phone totally went mad. Then we text and she said I was being used. Think when it came to Gina.
Then Sarah sister made a comment that I might have only stopped talking to her because of Gina. Which that was not the case.
We all got our own issues with Sarah.

Do I just listen to these two? I said something to Gina I am not wasting my time on Sarah. Carly just about talks to her but she is knows now I met Carly through Gina.

I feel like I need to say something to Sarah family when I see them to make it clear that it's not Gina or anybody why we don't talk. Sarah does not text and she does not care about me at all. So why should I now. I am happy I don't see her though. That is funny thing. We as friends were never open and honest me and Sarah. Until situation happened. I felt I was used in this.

So much has happened.

OP posts:
ThisLittleKitty · 24/02/2018 19:15

How old are you all?

TheSnowFairy · 24/02/2018 19:18

Sheesh Confused

chickenowner · 24/02/2018 19:20

You lost me when you introduced Carly.

Mousewatch · 24/02/2018 19:21

I think you should get your teacher to sort it out on Monday Grin

ThisLittleKitty · 24/02/2018 19:23

Grin teacher comment.

And yes I stopped reading when "Carly" popped up on the scene.

Helpimfalling · 24/02/2018 19:24

See if you could voice note it would be much easier to follow it's all very complicated

Forgeteverythingandremember · 24/02/2018 19:26

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

EffingJeffer · 24/02/2018 19:27

You all sound around 12 yrs old. It's like listening to my primary school aged niece reading this

Only advice is to grow up

Original poster
mpeters82 · 24/02/2018 19:29

It is complicated to explain this one I wrote it like that lol.

OP posts:
Original poster
mpeters82 · 24/02/2018 19:40

We are all older enough lol.

But I have lost it with Gina and Carly and said how I felt before.
Carly the only who talk to Sarah but it's like I can see Carly telling me she had enough aswell.

OP posts:
NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 24/02/2018 19:47

Fuck me, sorry got bored & assumed you were all around 13-14...

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 24/02/2018 19:50

I've read it three times and am still a but lost. I don't think you should be talking to Sarah's family about your friendship. Assuming you're all adults, she doesn't need her parents involved! Confused

BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy · 24/02/2018 19:50

How old are you op? How do you have the energy for this?

tafftum · 24/02/2018 20:02

@Mousewatch 😂😂😂

Honestly I read it a few times and I'm still baffled..

Original poster
mpeters82 · 24/02/2018 20:09

I probably not explained this well Angry.

I am older enough but as you can see it's confusing. I must of tried to explain many times but thought I cannot say this or that.

Sorry ladies.

OP posts:
SharronNeedles · 24/02/2018 20:10

I'm assuming English isn't your first language OP?
This seems to be quite a hard situation to explain but without fully understanding what you're writing, it's hard to say if YABU or not.

Tistheseason17 · 24/02/2018 20:10

Nope. Still none the wiser.

Funnytime · 24/02/2018 20:11

Step away from this group and form some healthy friendships Grin

Lashalicious · 24/02/2018 20:13

What the. Op, read your post back to yourself and see if you can make head or tail out of it. Asking us to do so is pure hell. It gave me a headache. Spend more time learning how to write coherent sentences and less time with Sarah, Gina, and Carly.

Backscratchesforever · 24/02/2018 20:14

I don’t understand. I stopped reading at Carly.

Ditch them all and move on, finish high school and you will make new friends at college/uni/work.

Whatshallidonowpeople · 24/02/2018 20:16

I can't even follow it

MadMags · 24/02/2018 20:18

What??

RJnomore1 · 24/02/2018 20:19

Op had a friend called Sarah she lost touch with.

She made friends with Gina and Carly who bad mouthed Sarah.

Op had a fall out with Sarah (and her sister?) who are blaming the fall out on the other two girls.

I think.

MadMags · 24/02/2018 20:23

Oh. Ok.... Confused

EffingJeffer · 24/02/2018 20:23

OP it's not so much the way you've written it. I don't think English is your first language but I understand your writing well enough. We all understand you are 'old enough'. The problem is that we all find this situation rather infantile. Anyone under the age of 16 shouldn't be behaving quite so juvenile.

Like you say, you're old enough. It's time time to start acting it. If you're unable to conduct these friendships in a mature manner it's probably time to find some new friends. And grow up.