To be feeling awkard

[mpeters82]

Hi,

I much happier in my life that I no longer chat to a friend that knew from childhood. (Let me call her Sarah).We were very close like sister. A situation happened and caused her to be horrible to the point I tried to be there for her as no longer live nearby. By calling, texting but got ignored. I feel better not to be hearing her situation. Although it sad what happened just no reason be like this towards me.

Through this situation I got closer to one Sarah's friend.( I call her Gina)
Then this was when I realized Sarah was starting to distance herself. Also Sarah and Gina fell out too.

Cut long story short is Sarah has another friend let (me call her Carly). I met Carly through Gina but had heard of Carly a lot from Sarah too but we never until now.

I now am in situation where I chat to Carly who speaks to Sarah and tell me about issues she has with her. Also Gina says stuff too.
But then I think how do you think feel.

Saying I don't mind listening but I get angry how I am hearing of Sarah acting innocent and treating this ladies like this.

One day I did have a go Sarah on the phone totally went mad. Then we text and she said I was being used. Think when it came to Gina.
Then Sarah sister made a comment that I might have only stopped talking to her because of Gina. Which that was not the case.
We all got our own issues with Sarah.

Do I just listen to these two? I said something to Gina I am not wasting my time on Sarah. Carly just about talks to her but she is knows now I met Carly through Gina.

I feel like I need to say something to Sarah family when I see them to make it clear that it's not Gina or anybody why we don't talk. Sarah does not text and she does not care about me at all. So why should I now. I am happy I don't see her though. That is funny thing. We as friends were never open and honest me and Sarah. Until situation happened. I felt I was used in this.

So much has happened.

Hmm...

Maybe get new friends?

Next.

Do you work for Bravo? This reads like a pilot for the Real Housewives of Mumsnet lol Brilliant

If it is a real problem I do hope you find a solution. I think most people would just grit their teeth and be friends with the moms for the kids' sake...

Had a similar situation...in the end the adults couldn't bear to be in the same room so they just dropped off the kids to play and escaped lol It suited everyone

I think a flow chart would help.

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Clearly we aren’t reading the same thread. In her 4th post for example op apologised for not making sense after dozens of piss taking posts.

Is op called Wendy?

What did Horace say Winnie?
(PS OP, I think you may be a Wendy)

Little madam go drink your wine

is now going to be my go to put down for everyone who annoys me - including DP and my cat.

@BiscayTrafalgarFitzroy same😂😂 (except I don't have a cat)

I would suggest from now on if anyone reads this and does not have anything nice to say then DON'T.

The way you all are acting are like you are in school playground so please grow up.

I chose those names not even thinking or a soap opera. Plus typing from my phone aswell.

English or not I do find it hard to put my posts into words. It is hard because the situation difficult to type up. I am not as PERFECT as you some of you lol. Some seem like you have just left school. So english is quite fresh in your heads as the immaturity showing all through. Also bullying and same thing your telling me not do your doing Jokers.

The ladies who was defending me thanks. But you get people like this everywhere even if I wrote a clear post they would be attacking me. I have seen it on other threads.
It just for them to attack as they got nothing better to do. Shame on you ladies

No one is ganging up on Sarah. It is just people seeing her true colours. Gina has said to me why did you not warn me about her. But I said you being her friend would of not believed me thought I would be causing problems.
I have not taken Sarah's friends at all. It is just the situation which I cannot say drawn us closer.
It's very upsetting and majority of the time we do not discuss Sarah we are GROWN UPS.
Just when there is a reminder we thing of her. One of us will say something. Listen to each other.
Carly not the type to go back say anything she just finding out how Sarah is. As I have said very complicated.
I will listen or say sorry but don't want to hear about her.
I think as I known her the longest aswell they look for advice from me if issues arise. I have said just leave her Gina.
No point she don't care.
Sarah situation is ongoing and she is still caught up in.
In my eyes she has pushed us away and we tried to be there. But saying that I am happy to be free from the drama. Well it's not simple situation it a situation that could happen to any of us. This why I feel harsh but think in my eyes best to leave Sarah come to me when she is ready.
I cannot speak for the other two ladies.
We thought about an intervention to discuss the friendship stuff.

I would love to go into more details. But then I definitley would be not be able to word that. Then you would understand why the friendship issues have started.
You would not just think it is playgroup drama it's very difficult.
So this is constantly on all our minds. Then again when I use to ask Sarah how is the situation she would say fine. But it is because we all talk. That is her business but she got us all involved in but think like we picked up on a lot that did not make sense aswell. So she went quite on us.
So think we got too close to the truth. We were not being bitchy just concerned and that is why occassionally they say this happened and I listen. But get upset as she was a close friend like a sister. But she chose to turn her back so I did the same.
Her actions affected everyone involved.
As I said if I told you all you be like that sounds a lot of headache be happy to be free of it. Again I am.

As far as the 'hilarious' responses on this thread by posters recommending English lessons and suchlike, maybe they should take their own advice and brush up on their comprehension skills, as I haven't found your posts challenging to understand at all. I've reported the casual racist/xenophobic posters. English isn't my first language.
As for your dilemma, OP, I think you're on the right track. Sorry you've had a hard time here.

I've reported the casual racist/xenophobic posters.

I'm sorry but how is this casually racist or xenophobic? OP's nationality could well be British. She hasn't stated otherwise.

OP is certainly antagonistic and likes to goad. Perhaps that's what has caused some of the responses on here?

I said I had reported the racist/xenophobic posters, Biscay. The ones who said she clearly wasn't British and should go and find a forum in their own country/language. Maybe you can't see them because they've been removed? Or maybe you didn't read the thread?

@Estellanpip I could be wrong but I took those posts about finding a forum in her native language as saying she'd get better help because she'd possibly be more coherent in what she was saying / able to give more info.
Again could be wrong

I suppose there is that possibility. Or it could have just been yet another deliberately obtuse dig at someone who they thought wasn't up to their standard at written English.
As I said, I'm not British and I had no problem reading the posts. If OP were a national from another country and they had a version of Mumsnet or other prolific form, would it not have crossed anyone's mind that OP would have used that one instead? Then again, why should she?
I don't buy it anyway.

I admit I could be dense but the OP's posts made no sense to me. I did not see any racism on this thread but I do feel the OP's posts are a tad rude so perhaps folk are reacting to that rather than the writing style of the OP.

The OP wrote 12 reasonable posts before responding negatively in response to over 50 posts mainly criticising her writing style.

I was actually amazed by her restraint.

She only stood up for herself.

The main problem of op’s posts is that we still don’t know what in the world this Sarah person did. What did she do?

The op is vague to the point of ridiculousness; add the incoherent wording and throw in the incongruent names of Gina and Carly and we then cross over into the absurd.

Op has got to be a little more specific, otherwise none of us can make head nor tail of all this. We get the general gist that the apparent distress and angst and discord experienced by op, Gina, and Carly are the direct and indirect result of Sarah and her ethereal machinations, of which op has totally left out any sort of helpful details that would aid our enlightenment of her situation.

How can we give advice or even comment really when we don’t know what in the hell this Sarah has done? What is this event or circumstance that you cannot speak of? Whatever it is, has drawn you closer to Gina and Carly. That and your announcement that much has happened are the only two facts we know nearing the 7th page in this thread.

All this is beginning to sound like a Monty Python sketch on a Mean Girls set visited by the Ghost of Circumstance Past.

I will take one of those margaritas please! Maybe the bottle of gin....

All I can make out is that she’s either doing something legally or morally dodgy or she’s going through some shit and her friends are not being supportive.

Also I’m not sure OP is not a native English speaker as I have not seen them say that, I think they just struggle with their writing/phasing which also shouldn’t be mocked.

@SofieMonde that guess was so random

Diagram. I want a diagram.