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Three child party??

106 replies

DailyMailFail101 · 23/02/2018 15:53

I have booked my son aged three a fourth birthday party for Sunday, I gave the invites out two weeks ago, out of 30children I have had 3rsvps. AIBU to still go ahead with the party, my son is so excited I haven’t got the heart to cancel it, but is it really a party with three children. It’s at a soft play centre I would still have to pay for all 30children as it was a special package offer. I’m so unsure of what to do, it’s made me feel really sad.

OP posts:
lunar1 · 25/02/2018 09:00

I hope your ds has a lovely time, however many turn up.

drspouse · 25/02/2018 09:07

Hope you have a lovely time (we are also going to a 4th birthday party today but it's a girl and in a village hall so not yours!)
We had a trampolining party for DS' 6th and the parents had to sign a waiver. So it was pretty clear they needed to reply (and they did apart from one no response at all and one who was sick on the day and didn't let us know but I think it was a 39° fever job so other things to worry about)

sandgrown · 25/02/2018 09:18

I went to a 50th party recently where the lady had made a lot of effort and paid per head for catering. I knew myself and DH would probably only know one other couple who were going . The wife of the couple had pushed for her son to be invited (age 15) as he couldn't be left alone even though it was Sunday afternoon. They never showed up. The following day she said basically they were tired and couldn't be bothered. It was walking distance from their house ! They didn't even bother to let the hostess know. They missed a great party too.Hope your son has a lovely day OP.

Ffsnothingworks · 25/02/2018 09:26

I had this with a few people not turning up a few years ago, luckily siblings of invited children came, so any spare food I off loaded onto them.

Mookie81 · 25/02/2018 09:34

People who don't RSVP are rude fuckers; unless there's a major event (birth/death/house blown down) there's no excuse. I would have forfeited my soft play deposit and had a gathering somewhere else for the 4 kids going. If the rest turn up at soft play fuck em- punishment for being so rude.

hmmwhatatodo · 25/02/2018 09:35

Love the idea of going and asking the School office to go and email all the non replies Grin please don’t! It’s also a pain for teachers to have to remember to do but anyway.
I always replied pretty much instantly as I took the view that it was really kind of the person to have invited us. If I wasn’t sure if I could make it I would reply to say that, and promise to get back to them soon. I can’t imagine just not replying. I only once did a big party where around half the class were invited. A few didn’t reply so I just walked up to them in the line at school to ask them so that if they weren’t coming, we could invite more. Costs dictated how many children I could afford to invite so I didn’t want any spaces going to waste when someone else could enjoy it.
Hope you all enjoy the day.

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 25/02/2018 09:44

Hope the party goes well!

I'm dreading this when the dc are old enough for all this - I feel bad if I don't rsvp within a few hours! Blush

Meandmy4 · 25/02/2018 09:45

Ds will have a lovely time and u will have peace ! X

Lizzie48 · 25/02/2018 09:53

People don't appear to RSVP anymore, unless they're actually going to the party these days. I used to get cross about it, but now I just assume they're not going to be at the party and don't include them in the numbers. I've never known someone who hasn't replied just turning up.

I do take a dim view of it, though. I'm always grateful that my DD has been invited and want to thank them for the invitation even if she can't go. I think because DD1 hasn't been invited to many parties I'm appreciative of invitations. With DD2 being invited to so many, I can understand that a children's party might not seem like a big deal to some parents.

feeona123 · 25/02/2018 17:58

How did it go? X

Nishky · 25/02/2018 19:23

Really hope your little boy enjoyed his party!

mintich · 25/02/2018 19:33

Hope all was ok OP

ADayGivingMeHope · 25/02/2018 19:45

OMG, who are these people that aren't replying to party invites? Hands up and explain yourself please.

I invited 10 kids to my DS party, only 3 rsvp'd! Fortunately we have plenty of kids in the family to make up numbers.

frasier · 25/02/2018 19:59

How did it go?

user1489434024 · 25/02/2018 20:52

I hope lots turned up x

KC225 · 25/02/2018 20:53

Another hoping for an update

Justcake · 25/02/2018 20:56

How did it go? I hope your little one had a lovely time

MistyMinge · 25/02/2018 21:05

DS birthday is in October, so not long after he started primary school. Out of 12 other children in reception, only 2 came. About 5 never bothered to reply. Luckily I'd invited some of his nursery friends. I found it bloody stressful, and felt sad for DS. It's put me off doing another.

I hope your DS had a lovely day.

Flipflopflipflap · 25/02/2018 21:06

Hoping you’ve had a lovely day ☺️
Happy birthday babydaily 🤞

MiddleClassProblem · 25/02/2018 23:13

How was it, OP?

nicentoasty · 26/02/2018 10:14

Why are people so rude these days? Sad Hope your son had a lovely day.

Lizzie48 · 26/02/2018 10:17

I'm also hoping for an update from the OP. I'm concerned her not updating us means it didn't go well.

ThatsWotSheSaid · 26/02/2018 17:10

I keep checking too. :(

noenergy · 26/02/2018 18:09

Hope it went well.

I'm in a worse situation, DS party this weekend and only one reply that the child can't come. So not even one child child coming so far, have 3 out of school coming and 2 of my own.

Don't know what to do as have no contact numbers and don't know any of them, thought it would have been a good way to get to know them.

ewemum · 26/02/2018 23:28

Kept it simple for DD this year - 4 friends for a play date, pizza and ice cream. All had a fab time and best of all not a mountain of gifts to find space for!